To be annoyed a friend called her baby the same as mine?

[tottryornottotry]

So a girl I worked with for 3 years (in a small team), who I've kept in touch with and we have mutual friends has called her baby the exact same name as mine. Both first and middle name. They are 9 months apart. It's quite an unusual name too. I feel really annoyed that my daughter had lost her originality somehow?!

[piddleypower]

YABU. Take it as a compliment.

[Meluzyna]

It's weird but there's no point losing sleep over it - and as others have said, it's unlikely they'll be in the same class or same social group.
My best friend had a daughter called Laura and my husband wanted Flora as our name for a girl - I wouldn't let him.... the baby turned out to be a boy.
My parents would have called me Jane - only my aunt got there first so I have a much more interesting name, for which I am grateful.

[GoldPlatedBacon]

It would bother me but there is nothing you can do about it so there's no point letting it affect you

[Lighteningirll]

Copying both is weird yadnbu

[x2boys]

I have one of the same names as one of my cousins I have a 70,s double barrel name so say my cousins name is Jane my name is Sarah_Jane I think her middle name might also be Sarah as it was our grandmothers name but she is just known as Jane ( not our actual names) it's never been a problem .

[A1Sharon]

People are so weird about this.
I call my baby Mary Louise.
My friend/colleague/neighbour/sister has a baby and calls her Mary Louise.
I think Wow! Great minds think alike, and probably chat to her about how much we both love the name...what exactly is the fecking issue? It is so precious and nobody actually gives a fiddlers. Honestly, few things on here get me riled as much as this. It is honestly so precious. I cannot see this point of view at all. At all.
I realise many here will differ in opinion to me.

[Cleo1303]

Pity the girl. If she truly has copied the name then she has no imagination.

[Hannahlovessea]

I'd be annoyed too.
I know you don't own the name and it's a free country but you picked the name cos it wasn't well used

[treaclesoda]

hmm, I generally think that you don't own a name, and tough luck if someone wants to use it too. After all, they could have been planning the name for years but just hadn't had a baby yet to use the name with.

However, using the middle name as well as the first name would irritate me a bit. But on the other hand, are you sure that she knows what your daughter's middle name actually is? Could it be coincidence? I don't think I know what most of my friends middle names are, never mind their children's middle names.

[treaclesoda]

My best friend has a child with the same name and middle name as one of my children. And people always think it is really weird. But actually we only met each other after we had children and it is just coincidence.

[OhtoblazeswithElvira]

I need to know what the names are in order to decide whether this is weird or not!

[Corialanusburt]

It will matter less and less to you, certainly if you me jobs.

[HappyNevertheless]

Actually I would be issued off too that someone so close used the first AND the second name for their child.

YY imitation is a form of flattery. But when you do go to length to find a really unusual name, it stings.

No you don't own the name. But having so little imagination as to chose the same two names is

[greathat]

The only time it matters is when your kid is at school, and there's another naughty kid in the same tutor group with the exam same name.... I've sat in a few staff briefings where we've all been told to double check which one it is before we phone home. Luckily its never been me (yet) that's done it

[Vickyyyy]

Her child her choice. Even 'unusual' names are quite popular tbh..she may have wanted to use the name way before you named your child that. Unless you mean unusual as in 'beetroot' or something

I have always said if I have a girl she would be called Skye. To some that would maybe be classed as unusual, it was back when I decided on it anyway though its more common now. One of my mates named their daughter Sky..without the e but essentially the same..when I was pregnant and she knew that was the name I was using. I didn't care at all.

I think YABU

[ohthegoats]

Some friends of ours just got a puppy and called it the same name as our child. THAT'S unreasonable!

[8misskitty8]

I wanted to call DD a particular name, always loved it. But when put with dh's surname it would have meant teasing at school so couldn't call her it.
My best friend and dh's are married and know about the name. They gave that name to their dd. They even commented about it as they told me.
Sure it bugs me but I've never said to them.

[LobsterQuadrille]

I don't think YABU. My DD has a pretty unusual name - it's never been in the top 100 and I don't know anyone else of her name - as she is now 18 it would be obvious that she was there first

Rumour has it that Chris Martin's agent had a daughter called Apple and that Chris and Gwyneth asked permission to "copy" the name ....

[MrsKoala]

As others have said it depends on the name really and how unusual they are. If it were me with my Dec I'd be a bit about it as my boys have very unusual first names let alone the middle names which are really out there. So id probably laugh at how odd they were being. (As long as they were an ex colleague I didn't really see).

[NellWilsonsWhiteHair]

Sympathies, but YABU.

Agree with pp that she could have planned on that name for years (when I was pg, I was weirdly paranoid that someone else would use 'my' name before I popped not that DS' is especially unique anyway). She probably spent half her pregnancy angsting to friends that you'd used the name she'd always dreamed of using and they said "there there, it's ok, she's just a colleague, you can use it anyway". ;)

[RedToothBrush]

I would put money on the OP's daughter's name not being unusual at all in the first place.

[cheekyfunkymonkey]

Yanbu, you clearly don't own the name but it is a bit weird, we went out of our way to avoid names of friends (and colleagues) and their kids. It was a long process though. Take it as a compliment

[RedToothBrush]

It's outside top 50 and I haven't met anyone else with it until now

So its still pretty high on the list. Weirdly people in a similar group are more likely to have similar names. You'll get pockets of the same name and then areas where no one will have that name.

[Boomingmarvellous]

Oh for goodness sake. Petty or what? It's a name. You don't own it and if someone else thinks it's a nice name they are entitled to use it. Get over yourself and stop being so precious.

Incidentally, sentences DO NOT start with 'so'.

[stiffstink]

OP if its not top 50 I'm presuming its top 100? If so, that's not going to make it unusual. Names like Annabelle, Heidi, Violet are all top 100, even though they aren't of the same popularity as Isabelle, Olivia etc.