To be annoyed a friend called her baby the same as mine?

[tottryornottotry]

So a girl I worked with for 3 years (in a small team), who I've kept in touch with and we have mutual friends has called her baby the exact same name as mine. Both first and middle name. They are 9 months apart. It's quite an unusual name too. I feel really annoyed that my daughter had lost her originality somehow?!

[Brainnotbrawn]

I am way, way worse than your work colleague I stole my former work colleagues DDs name, one he and his DP made up 18years earlier, we changed the spelling but he saw right through that. When we sent him a message about the baby he told us (worked with both DH and me) that they had copyrighted the name and all its vaguely similar derivatives . We, DH and I have seen him a few times over the years still gives us shit about it in jest but frankly it was his own fault if they had come up with a rubbish name we would never have dreamed of using it.

[HanYOLO]

haha at Eddie Stobbart

YABU OP, do you hang out with said person? Are the babies going to ever meet? They say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Chances are though, it wasn't copying you but the names of both her grannies or something. Get over it: it will never impact on your life or your daughter.

Tell us the name though, so we know how unreasonable you're being.

[MistressMerryWeather]

YANBU, that's weird.

Is she normally so dull and unimaginative or is it just choosing names?

Does she have a dog? Is it called dog?

[Cleo1303]

DD has an unusual name and I'm always told it's very pretty. It's not modern or trendy and is a form of a very traditional name.

When she was in Year 4 or 5 another child with the same name, but different spelling, arrived in Reception. She is now in Year 7 at her new school and there is another girl of the same in Lower 6th - again different spelling. Her middle names are fairly unusual but are my mother's and sister's names. I can almost guarantee there will be no-one else in the world with the three name combination but there probably is!

[WalkingBlind]

Can you tell us the name or something of similar popularity? If your DD is Poppy May then YABU but if she is Electricia Storm then YADNBU

My DD's name isn't even in the top 1000 and both names are unusual so if someone I actually knew (therefore knew my DD) used it in that order I would be furious

I got rid of my main name chose for DS because someone from school used it a month before he was born. It was also very unusual and we are in the same friendship circle

[AHellOfABird]

She's only a colleague (or ex colleague, not clear) that you are friendly with.

I expect she likes the name more than she likes you and, were you to end the casual friendship over this, she'd shrug.

Over to you!

[MistressMerryWeather]

Oh c'mon.

Using the same first name - Meh.

Using first and middle name - Odd.

[WalkingBlind]

According to what I can find on the Internet no-one else in the world has my DD's name combo lol, but who knows, if I ever came across one I'd congratulate the parents for having great taste (and ask if they saw my posts about DD online haha!)

[PinkyOfPie]

Honestly, some people. Maybe she had that name all along and was pissed off when you got there first?

It's a name. Other people will be called it. It's not a big deal

[Pandsbear]

Well a friend called her DD the same first name as my DD. I was a big 'errr...ok then' because they/we are part of the same parent-friendship group and it is a (relatively) unusual name.

I later found out that it was because of my DD - the mum simply could not find another name she liked as much. My DD is actually thrilled that someone else has the same name even if she is 7 years younger!

[tottryornottotry]

It's her DD2 so can't be her 'forever name'. It's also quite different to her DD1 name which is very traditional. My DD isn't pfb btw fwiw!

I admit the middle name does flow nicely with the first name so it is a good fit/choice but it's not the only one that goes nicely .

[MrsKoala]

I must say I'm always quite shocked and a bit offended that people haven't named their children the same names as mine, given that they are AWESOME (does anyone else think this? 'Oh really, George? And what the fuck is WRONG with Diocletian exactly? Hmmmm?)

I guarantee there is no Eddie stobart truck with that name on it!

[Jofo]

In my heart of hearts, I know if shouldn't matter but I would be thoroughly jarred off!

[PinkyOfPie]

My DD has a v unique name, it's not in the top 200. I'd think it was nice if someone else names their child her name.

[AHellOfABird]

And I know the middle names of precisely zero of my colleagues' and former colleagues' kids, including those who are friends.

Come to think of it, I'd have to double check for most of the nieces too.

If it's not hyphenated, doubt she's seen it since any birth announcement email...

I picked DS1's first name (had always wanted it) and DH his middle name. For DS2, we both made a list and only two names crossed over so DH got his pick of those. How do you know she picked both?!

[squoosh]

'Oh for goodness sake. Petty or what? It's a name. You don't own it and if someone else thinks it's a nice name they are entitled to use it. Get over yourself and stop being so precious.

Incidentally, sentences DO NOT start with 'so'.'

Incidentally, in this context 'goodness' requires an apostrophe. It's 'for goodness' sake'.

I do hope it isn't petty of me to point out your mistake.

[ClashCityRocker]

mrsk in my scientifically sound pool of anecdata:

Laura Joanne
Lola Jane
Louise Jade
Lucas James
Lewis Jack

I'm on a hiding to nothing here aren't I?

It's just everyone I come across with a name that starts with L has a 'J' middle name...which must means they go together, right?!

[AwfulBeryl]

I don't see it as copying, it's just sharing taste in names. One of my dts has the same name as someone I used to work with, they may even share middle names as my Dad and my colleague's Dad both have the same name .
Tbh I don't ever remember most of my friends dc middle names anyway so wouldn't know if they do. Either way, I have love dtsname, it has always been on my list and dp loves it too. There is no way I wouldn't use it because someone i used to work with that I keep in touch with occasionally used it too

[TurquoiseDress]

YABU

Honestly, how yoonique is your baby's name?

Although if she's gone for the middle name as well that's rather unimaginative!

[OvariesBeforeBrovaries]

What is the name?!

[Lweji]

I'm also pretty sure
"Petty or what?"
is not a full sentence.

[MrsKoala]

I would say a vowel at the end of a name goes with a j middle name but not the last 2. They need a middle name starting with a vowel.

[AHellOfABird]

Petti Orwatt is DS2's name, Lweji, you big name stealer

[MrsKoala]

For your anecdata algorithms clash my boys are l-c and l-a. Has that skewed all your graphs and pivot tables and shit?

[ClashCityRocker]

Hmm, I think you might be right, on second thought...

What is the baby/babies called anyway?