I don't see the distinction you are making. My impression is her job is to look good and appear to do good, and it is on that basis that she is being criticized.
People saying she "flashed her boobs" and how demeaning and lacking in dignity that was are talking about photos stolen by someone from literally miles away, taken when she was alone with her husband on private property. Slut-shaming a woman who has been the victim of a sexual offence (which, in this country, that is) and citing it as evidence she's an exhibitionist would, in my view, cross the line over fair criticism into demonising someone for mere existence. She wasn't on duty, and her crime appears to be that she had a body, with boobs attached. Somehow, this makes her a tart (and that's before getting into how unsavoury that attitude is, all by itself). Similarly, the media capturing and disseminating split seconds where the wind blows her skirt up at airports, showing her legs - something that happens to all women in that situation - is not, that I can see, evidence of anything negative either. Your view may of course be that this is entirely fair. It isn't one I can share. I think it's evidence of nasty misogyny, and little else.
As to the rest - I can't speak for monarchists. I agree that it seems really odd to say you're a monarchist and then be surprised that you don't like what the genetic lottery you support has thrown up, but it does make a lot more sense to me than a republican doing it, because surely if you're a republican the worth and value of individuals in the system is an irrelevance, and reacting to media agendas on them just nitpicking gossip? The system is bonkers, anyway. A monarchist can at least claim to be seeking to hold their chosen representative to some sort of popularity contested account.
Quim - thank you, and exactly.
How is it a holiday to spend time with lots of people you don't really know and may not even like, with an obligation to be polite, sociable, interested; be subject to compulsory photographs and media scrutiny; have little if any privacy/relaxation?
That's most workplaces, generally with the exception of the media scrutiny (though very rarely at that pay level - there's usually scrutiny then), tbh. It's just that most workplaces don't involve palaces and tourist-destination overseas tours serving as the office.