AIBU to be mad at my non-baby friend?

[Aria999]

My friend was meant to come over for dinner tonight. We hadn't agreed a time but normally we say 7:30. This is not a coincidence as LO (4 months old) has bath feed and bed routine from 6-7. I got a text from her today to say she wanted to come over around 6 as she needed to come straight from work. I said I could let her in at that time but wouldn't be able to come talk to her until I finished bedtime routine. I got a slightly stroppy reply suggesting this is unreasonable of me and I should either feed him in the main room so I can talk to her or 'do it at a different time'! I know she doesn't have kids so doesn't entirely get it but I feel like basic courtesy is missing and would be nice... She's not coming now as I suggested we rearrange but I'm pretty annoyed. Aibu?

I think you were both a bit unreasonable .
You could ve said yes but I'll just need to settle the baby before I have a drink/ cook dinner. Why can't you feed And talk at the same time ?
And she couldve said no worries I'll give you a hand or start dinner or whatever.
Just a bit of flexibility on both sides would probably help.

I totally understand!!
When ds was about the same age we had ils up for the day, come bedtime they insisted on helping with it, ds was totally wound up by it and was up screaming until gone 11pm😭
He was definitely a creature of habit and after that we stuck to his routine come hell or high water.

He's 8 now and has no routine whatsoever and it's me getting stressed at the lack of quiet time, lol.

I totally agree with you. I was the same with my eldest. Bedtime was a very chilled out routine with just the two of us and even having a friend over who just sat in the background would add another dynamic and cause enough distraction to make her fussy at bedtime. You know what works for you