WIBU to retract my RSVP?

[Hagrid3112]

One of my friends since high school is getting married in our hometown in a couple of months. We got the invitation through for the ceremony, then reception drinks and canapés. I figured this was all they were doing as I've never known people to only be invited to the ceremony, and excitedly accepted.

I live a 6hr drive away, so have to take 3 holiday days to attend, pay for boarding for all our pets, as well as 2 nights accommodation (we can't stay with family), then there's food, outfits, wedding gift etc, but more than happy to do that for a friend - admittedly not as close as we used to be since I moved away, but I always make arrangements to see everyone when I do get to go home, and we had everyone and partners all day to our wedding.

I've since found out that there is more to the wedding, but we aren't invited. Not a problem; we got married last year so understand about budgets etc.

The problem is, that there are only 2 other members of our group not going to the meal/evening do/whatever it is, and my family have various plans, leaving DH and me with nothing to do, bar a standard meal out by ourselves.

I don't particularly want to miss the wedding, and would definitely go if I still lived locally, but I also don't want to use 3 holiday days to spend most of our first anniversary in the car to go to a 1hr ceremony.

WIBU to take our acceptance back?

I haven't RTWT, sorry - just want to add a sideways point - I believe that Church weddings (maybe also civil weddings) have to be 'open'. ie - anyone can attend the ceremony.
Sorry OP - not relevant to you, but to all those posters who don't like 'evening only' invites - there's nothing to stop you attending the marriage service.

YANBU. I wouldn't take days off work and travel 12 hours for a ceremony and a drink, lasting an hour!

For my wedding, I was limited to 70 max for ceremony and meal, because of the size of the room. I was then limited to 120 in the evening as had access to a further room and use of outside terrace. So I invited a few local extended family to evening only. Main friends, close family and people travelling far, were invited to the whole day.

Ha! Toddzoid, you sound positively delightful

I think I mentioned before (cba to re-read) that there may not be a disco and buffet type evening do, that I could have been invited to. It's really not about me not being left out, or how people have their weddings, and just about it being worth the expense.
I do agree with the not-that-important bit. I'm not close enough for them to pay, probably, £200 to attend the only part of the wedding I don't actually need an invitation to