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AIBU?

to be in shock with this woman?

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Feelingsolow12345 · 14/05/2016 20:41

I was in a large toy retail store (not sure if you're allowed to name them if I am I'll disclose it) and was at the till paying for my sons toys and then the cashier went when's the baby due. my son was in the trolly right in front of her.

I do have a bit of horrible saggy stretched skin and a bit of baby weight still on me but I didn't know how to react beside shock and laugh.

what would have you done if it was you?

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HazelBite · 16/05/2016 12:40

I gave birth to my DT's about 4 weeks before a general election. I had just put them both in their cots for a sleep when someone knocked on the door loudly, one of the twins woke up so I picked him up and went to answer the door. The Tory party candidate was there he asked me when was my baby due and he hoped he could rely on my vote. I looked at him decided that he obviously was not observant enough to be an MP and made a mental note to vote Labour!

Rattymare · 16/05/2016 12:43

Happened to me once. I was absolutely knackered and admit didn't look my best. I was wearing a sweatshirt with a front pocket and woman on till said "how much longer have you got" nodding to my tummy area ! I was mortified and don't know who was more embarrassed me or her. I actually did feel a bit sorry for her. Needless to say Hooded sweat top went straight in the bin.

Diddlydokey · 16/05/2016 12:45

mamabear I had a test comment too. Complete opposite to you in that DH & I were a bit caught up in the moment and weren't ttc. COG said something like 'time for another?' & I bit her head off saying 'I hope not!'

OP don't take it to heart, it was innocent I'm sure & do pilates for your tum

PurpleDaisies · 16/05/2016 12:47

do pilates for your tum
Nice.

Girlwhowearsgoggles · 16/05/2016 12:57

Happened to me the other day. 'Babies' are 7, 7, 9. That's what twins does for you

pinkism · 16/05/2016 12:59

Who actually asks about bumps?!
Even if someone had a big-for-triplets bump with an 'I'm pregnant' t-shirt on I would still only smile and nod in case that's her only clean top.

Diamondangel8 · 16/05/2016 13:11

How old is your son?

PurpleDaisies · 16/05/2016 13:12

Why's that relevant diamond?

Diamondangel8 · 16/05/2016 13:28

She said she thought it was outrageous because her son was there so I was wondering what age her son is?

Feelingsolow12345 · 16/05/2016 13:40

mama I'm sorry to hear what happened and what you was/are going through.

diamon he's 17 weeks. he was in them trollies where you attach the car seat to them. so right in front of her was this big black car seat.

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Biffsboys · 16/05/2016 13:41

It happened to me , but a worse one was in a shop with my Ds and girl behind till said "oh he's gorgeous , it's great to have grandchildren " I was speechless 😮

Thefitfatty · 16/05/2016 13:45

he's 17 weeks.

You mean you haven't bounced back into your size 6 skinny jeans? Dear God. I would fire your chef, cosmetic surgeon and personnel trainer. They obviously aren't doing their jobs.

Feelingsolow12345 · 16/05/2016 14:20

bet you felt mortified biff

I know. I'm sacking them as we speak. how dare they not get me supermodel ready.

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ThePebbleCollector · 16/05/2016 14:46

I guess the question is when you WERE pregnant did these kind of questions upset you? if not and you are still a bit blubby as we all are after a baby then forgive her mistake. I guess the question is, is it rude to ask any pregnant lady how far along the are or is that something people shouldn't do now?

I'm on the chub side but didn't get asked until I was VERY heavily pregnant by strangers, After having a baby people may look like they are "showing" But I wouldn't think it would be so much people would think to comment.

Nosy gits some people. wouldn't take it to heart :)

PurpleDaisies · 16/05/2016 14:51

after having a baby people may look like they are "showing" But I wouldn't think it would be so much people would think to comment.

But people do. And not necessarily after being pregnant if you're unlucky enough to preferentially put weight on your stomach. It's doubly rotten if you can't have kids or have recently lost one. There's just no need to risk upsetting someone if you're not absolutely sure they're pregnant.

Iona0911 · 16/05/2016 15:21

My friend was asked when the baby was due (she wasn't prenant) and she gave them a due date

RedSoloCup · 16/05/2016 15:28

This happened to me, and worse I was serving a customer (waitress) so I had to be nice even though I was f**cking furious I'm also size 8-10 and have a relatively flat stomach!!!

LordoftheTits · 16/05/2016 15:29

Thankfully nobody has asked me if I'm pregnant (I always gain weight around my middle first) but I did have a comment when buying a test for a pregnancy scare a few years ago. I don't want children anyway but I was young, it was terrible timing and I was very stressed about it. The shop assistant, rather than just scan it and discreetly put the box in a bag, said "oooh, how exciting! Fingers crossed for you, love!" and as I grabbed my bag and walked away she called "good luck!"

areyoutheregoditsmemargaret · 16/05/2016 15:37

I never ask ppl if they are pregnant, even if they are virtually giving birth in front of me, for this very reason

Baileysagain · 16/05/2016 15:47

it happened to me to. I was queueing in the post office and another customer asked if I was pregnant because I wouldn't need to wait in the queue if I was. She was really embarrassed when I said I wasn't and was v apologetic.

Feelingsolow12345 · 16/05/2016 16:22

I wonder how may people have took up offers of a seat or free stuff even though they're not pregnant.

I have had a pregnancy test one too. I was 16 and had a pregnancy scare with my abusive ex. I know back then I should have been more careful. anyway I went to the shop to pic one up and I got scolded for it. the cashier said "I hope for your mum's sake you're not pregnant" I was like what is it to her.

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Pedestriana · 16/05/2016 22:52

Many years ago I worked for a biggish company. One of the women in another department had terminal ovarian cancer, which caused her stomach to bloat.
Someone looked at her belly and said, "When's it due?"
She replied, "My funeral? In about six months, I think"
It was a horrible situation. This is why I never ask or comment. I hate this sort of small talk.

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Feelingsolow12345 · 16/05/2016 23:50

omg, I don't know what I would have done if I was in her shoes. I know most people don't mean anything nasty from it but it's situations like that when you shouldn't say anything.

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Dixiebell · 17/05/2016 00:24

Bloody nurse asked me if I was pg again while I was getting my Dd's 12 week jabs done. I'd have to have been going some to be visibly pregnant with a 12 week old wouldn't I?! Stupid woman. A nurse!

Feelingsolow12345 · 17/05/2016 04:39

I bet they think they can get away with saying it cause they're health professions

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