To think children steal your pretty ?

[CopperPot]

Just that, really!

I used to do my hair and make up and feel pretty good about how I looked. Now, after two children and no sleep for 3 years I look shit whatever I do

Will it ever come back?

inlaws it's not negating the kids at all. It's just not.

My son has totally stolen mine. I choose to believe it's temporary....

You implied it by suggesting we saw our kids negatively.

My child hadn't taken my pretty but she has taken my waistline and most of my patience. And a lot of money.

but wanting to look how you did before you had kids is negating the kids.

Good mother don't "negate their kids" do they?

Seriously, if you disapprove of this thread so much find one which better suits your po faced needs.

"Fun"

A mastery of passive aggression

There is always one self righteous person....

You said OP was shallow and negating her children!

I understand how you feel OP.

When DS was born and I had a just 2yo and newborn, I just put my hair up in a unintentional messy bun and wore no makeup. I just couldn't manage to juggle getting them and me ready.

A year on and it's better but still a struggle, have time for makeup and to 'do' my hair in the morning.

I used to have a hair dresser that came to me, but she left the country . I hate going to hair salons, I'd love to go to my high street hairdressers, but when you're non White this isn't always a pleasant experience.

I could go at weekends for nails/eyebrows etc, but we are generally busy doing other things.

I always mean to shop for myself, but struggle to know what my 'style' is anymore and end up buying clothes for the kids instead.

I do think I've lost myself a little since having the children. It's easy to just immerse yourself in them and forget everything else.

Looking good seems like so much hard work, I don't even know where to start.

I'm only 29

Handwash so true about not knowing our style now and buying stuff for kids instead!

Gah my wardrobe is awful - leggings and baggy tops and huge knickers. My sister said she'll take me shopping and be my stylist which was lovely.

Wasn't there an article about lack of sleep and how it affects your face? I'm going to have a look. Scared the shit out of me.

Ha! Sorry

Now mine are 10 & 7 I am just starting to feel like myself again. I enjoy doing my nails, putting make up on, even a bit of perfume. I've been the main carer for so long (DH runs a pub so crappy hours) but I now starting to feel like "me" again

Not here. I'm only 7 months in but I'm constantly being told how well I look and how motherhood suits me. I've always been quite disciplined about skin and hair care though and having a baby hasn't stopped that.

Yup! Steal your "pretty" and replace it with chocolate smothered kisses and yogurt in your hair.
I don't think I had a clean top on for longer than 10mins for over 5 years let alone any make up when mine were young! Looking back I was exhausted and running on empty but I would not swap it for the world.
I am on to grandchildren now so no more pretty for me but lots of yogurt and grubby faced kisss.

Op, please ignore the rude remarks. There are people on this board that just seem to be unhappy unless their ax is grinding away. All of us have faced hardships and difficulty. Hopefully, we deal with it and move on.

Tonight to get my pretty back, rode my bike and took a yoga class. I'm ready to collapse now. ( into some chocolate..)

Yes they do copper pot.

Some of the replies here are hilarious.

But fear not, I have seen friends get theirs back once the kids are older, I think it's just very young children that suck the glow out of us.

Went to a clients house the other day, she had a gorgeous golden retriever. I said "oh what a beautiful dog" or something.

Owner says, with an air of sadness,

"Yes, she was even lovelier before. Since she had puppies she just not quite so good looking, as much as I hate to say it".

I'm with you, dog.

I find DW prettier than she was pre-kids. I've no idea why, she just is.

Same with the mums in the school playground: most of them have "it" (possibly it is exhaustion speaking to exhaustion, I don't know).

I hope I'm not mansplaining

I tried to get 'my pretty' back last night but it was sabotaged by DS 15 months.
He woke up with a temperature before I could even dry my hair, this morning it's just a frizzy mess but hey ho I have an array of butterfly clips to hide it and it will end up being covered in yoghurt or something before the day is out anyway

I get it OP!!
But I don't think my DD has "stolen my pretty", I think she takes up all of the time that I used to use up making myself pretty before I had her!! Now I feel pretty if I've washed my hair, put some concealer under my eyes, filled my brows in and put on a top that doesn't have snot/dribble/food/all of the above on it

whathaveilost what's wrong with a mobile beautician? I get my hair done every 6 weeks, manicure & pedicure every 3 weeks and eyebrow tint every 3 weeks. I plan for this to continue after the baby is born and if that means it's easier for someone to come to me then that's what I'll organise. Can't believe you were slated for that

I was on a thread quite similar to this and I suggested a mobile beautician for the OP citing conviience and often a bit cheaper than salons and some potsters ripped me to pieces saying it was so far away from their world and I hadn't a clue. I was like,'it's only a suggestion !'

I think they steal your carefree. And carefree faces are usually pretty!

suspicious love that. Poor dog, I bet she understood too

Toad that's nice. My H said he likes me with more meat since pregnancy as I was too skinny - bit of an underhand compliment but I'll take it.
I can spot a mum a mile away now, poor feckers.

Eggy yes, but you would have time if it wasn't for your dd, sooooo she did steal it!

WhathaveILost it's weird how that happens on MN. I know a good mobile beautician too, nowt wrong with suggesting that IMO!

I like the stealing carefree face, v true