To think children steal your pretty ?

[CopperPot]

Just that, really!

I used to do my hair and make up and feel pretty good about how I looked. Now, after two children and no sleep for 3 years I look shit whatever I do

Will it ever come back?

But the thought of making and cleaning bottles seems worse

The people commenting on the interesting new grammar, fairly obviously hmm

Yes well go care elsewhere. Its not the pedant board, its not relevant to OP's issue, its derailing the thread.

It comes back once you're out of the fog of early years.

Mine are 8 and 10 and I have finally got back in the habit of straightening my hair and ironing my clothes again which makes me feel put together.

Thanks OP. DH is now doing his "stole my pretty" in a Gollum voice or it might have been Wizard of Oz, I'm not asking, it'll just encourage him....

I was never a stunner or even very groomed, but I had time to blow dry my hair properly and take care of my skin. Also had spare money to buy new clothes and make up.

I look like Worzel Gummage since having DS but mainly because I just can't be arsed to put the effort in. If I have a spare hour these days I use it for sleep and Netflix. Luckily DS is pretty enough to distract attention away from me

Steal it back from the little blighters OP. Until you can get enough sleep, fake it with makeup!

Also, your partner? Well he doesn't sound like he's bringing much to the party. Give him an ultimatum.

Stopping bfing didn't make my magic no sleep baby sleep, I just kept eating like I was burning the breast feeding calories so I looked fat and knackered! (Am no help, but at least offering sympathy)

The kids stole my patient...

I made a conscious effort to make sure I looked after myself during pregnancy and while the children where small.
I made a point of keeping up with beauty treatments when they were babies and toddlers.
I got slated on MN once for mentioning that I had a mobile beautician come round but I knew what time the babies went for their naps and how long they were likely to sleep for. The beautician would do my elbows, and lash tint,manicure, waxing, pedicure and anything else. It was cheaper than going to a salon and much more convienient as I could plan around the children. I kept my hair appointments to every 5 weeks nd made sure I had a make up lesson at Bonbi Brown or Mac every season to keep up with trends.

It really wasn't a big deal and didn't take up too much time but I felt and looked OK for it.

No thanks Game .

If you have DC when you're younger, it doesn't happen, so it's not children that do it, it's age, stress and lack of sleep.

It's just a mistake to miss sleep after 35 for any reason.

The beautician would do my elbows

What did she do to your elbows, lost? They're pretty low down on my list of neglected body parts (which is loooong).

How depressing that we shouldn't miss any sleep after the age of 35. I'm damned if I'm going to retire to bed with a Horlicks every evening at 9 just to make sure I keep the wrinkles and shadows away.

Lol! clone typo!! I did change it once and it must have re autocorrected!
I was on about eyebrows and lashes but come to mention it I could do with some moisturiser on my elbows. They are looking a bit dry!!

Nah. I wasn't pretty before DS came along and couldn't be arsed with time spent preening etc. So no difference for me!!!

No thanks Game

yet you gave over about it. Result.

I'm with whathaveilost; ds 4 months and I have bi-weekly eyebrow, 6 week toenail & 6 week hair appointments on the go and plan around his naps. I go to bed when he does when we're going through a rough patch. I look no different than I did pre-dc. In fact I think I look better because of all the fresh air from daily nap walks!

During the baby years, yanbu. Ds is nearly 3 now and I feel a lot better (now I actually get a full night's sleep and chance to get my hair/nails done when he's at nursery!)

Yes I love my children too confused probably too much whereby I don't look after myself very much.

It sounds like you're either calling women that have self respect by saying they don't love their children enough. When it seems that you've used children as an excuse to let yourself go.

What does this sentence mean?

'It sounds like you're either calling women that have self respect by saying they don't love their children enough.'

YABU. They steal everything

How depressing that we shouldn't miss any sleep after the age of 35. I'm damned if I'm going to retire to bed with a Horlicks every evening at 9 just to make sure I keep the wrinkles and shadows away.

Me neither Jings but I do hate that DSis can now tell by looking at me whether DH's snoring has been bad lately

3amclub is DS your first baby?

A beautician coming round to do my elbows has given me a proper giggle

Op it does get easier. I thought it would never happen (3 kids) but now I exercise, sleep, have plenty of time for hair and make up and time to buy a few nice clothes etc. Youngest is 5.

They can have it! Pretty never got me anywhere! Sarcasm however...no one can take that from me!

I deliberately make sure I look the same as I did pre kids. It's an effort though, however I'm determined not to lose my identity and style.