To think children steal your pretty ?

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Just that, really!

I used to do my hair and make up and feel pretty good about how I looked. Now, after two children and no sleep for 3 years I look shit whatever I do

Will it ever come back?

Yanbu, I'm 7 months pregnant with my first and he's already stealing mine - can't remember the last time I had a decent sleep and my boobs started leaking last night so that's just great I'm glad the plumbing works so I can feed baby but really, could it not have waited until baby was due!!

Jings - before I had DCs, I could go to bed at 3am on a Friday night/Saturday morning and still get 8 hours sleep, getting up in time to be showered and dressed and ready to meet friends for lunch date - and thinking I had 'so much to do!'. My older sleep thief expects breakfast at 6:20am even if Mummy had been drinking wine woken repeatidly by younger sleep thief. Before I got pregnant, 6:20am was a time I only saw if I'd been up all night or if I was on the way to the airport.

I'm clearly designed to look my best with lots of sleep and time to pamper myself and money with which to purchase pampering things. Thank god I love my DCs, they have ruined me!

whathaveilost what's wrong with a mobile beautician? I get my hair done every 6 weeks, manicure & pedicure every 3 weeks and eyebrow tint every 3 weeks. I plan for this to continue after the baby is born and if that means it's easier for someone to come to me then that's what I'll organise. Can't believe you were slated for that

Nope.

justlostthegame he is, but the title is 'to think children steal your pretty', not 'to think having multiple children steal your pretty'

I think "steal your pretty" is quite poetic - I can imagine hearing it in a country & western song. Other than that, commiserations on your dishevelment, OP.

I have become increasingly beautiful since I had my children. Now that my oldest is 20 I am STUNNING .

*justlostthegame he is, but the title is 'to think children steal your pretty', not 'to think having multiple children steal your pretty'

Wasnt my point. My point was your child is only 4 months old. Thats a doddle. Just wait.

Thanks for all cheering me up, great comments

Tiggery my comment was aimed at a previous poster who said they LOVE their dcs and I felt they were implying I shouldn't care about how I look as loving your kids is more important.

You can get it back.

I'm late thirties now, kids secondary and junior age, and I feel better than I did in my late 20s/early 30s. Skin not as naturally smooth and glowy, admittedly, but I'm slimmer, fitter, more rested and undoubtedly more stylish.

Just - depends on the child. Some 4 month olds are high needs/don't sleep/refluxy etc like mine but I agree, it gets harder

I've never did, hair, nails, make up, posh clothes etc so the kids mostly just made my supermarket clothes look even more shit by puking and wiping snotty noses on it. It just means people have to look,that bit harder to see how gorgeous I am.

That's good to hear Adora. My skin looks grey and dull

I think people are being petty here OP, it was obvious what you meant by 'steal your pretty' and I don't read what you're saying that you don't have the time means you judge mums who do. Everyone's babies/children/situation/level of help are different.

I've always been fit and healthy but haven't exercised at all since DD was born (1.5 years )
I also make time everyday to do my makeup (hair- not always) but I try to still make an effort with my clothes. I still don't feel as 'put together' as pre-baby. The sleep deprivation has definitely affected my looks. I have fine line around my eyes now which I never had before.

I like the pp who gets a beautician round, good for you. I believe when you look good you feel better.

I need a good skin care routine. Anyone care to share theirs (if you have good skin)

Yes 4 months (with no high needs) are low maintenance. 4 month sleep regressions kicks in, then teething, then solid foods and more waking time, you go back to work and they get all the bugs going at nursery/daycare. Before you know it the dont nap at all, you have a 10 year old and a 6 year old in what feels like every exta curricular club going and you are a skint taxi driver. They not only steal your pretty, they steal your time and money that used to go into doing your pretty too.

I find 9 months easier than 4 months. Different people find different things easy/hard.

I'm not talking about what age is easier or harder. I'm talking about having more time to get your hair/nails done.

I think that's what mine has (sleep regression) as she's up nearly every hour and wants to suck on me all night. Frigging annoying. Plus I have the 3 year old who is acting like an arse lashing out as he's jealous.

Just I meant that too. I find the age easier to manage getting ready wise than earlier. Although I ensure I look how I did previously anyway.

Yes definitely easier with one baby to look after yourself. I looked the same after ds, but now with two...not so much

Also matters what support you have to provide childcare so you can actually spend an hour in the hairdressers.

Really? 9 months was lots of awake time, crawling, grabbing, putting things in mouth. 4 months? Slept.

This is one of the reasons I want 5-7 years between mine, I am too selfish to have kids close together.