To remember NNs of MNers posting unpleasant things most clearly?

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Is it a recognised psychological phenomenon? Do we remember bad things better?

I've just realised I still remember which MNer said women should pick partners more carefully to avoid DV (years ago), the types who always sneer at tenants, or seem to have it in for the disabled.

But when I think of compassionate MNers that I like and clearly have a range of life experience informing their empathy, I mainly remember biographical details and great posts but not NNs so much. (DawnDonnaAgain, HelenaDove and maybe two others that I'm not even completely sure of pop into my head as exceptions.)

Is there something wrong with the way my memory works?

And now someone's chucking the letter I about randomly

It always pays to be nice to people in life and on line. Never descend to personal insults. You do sometimes find people get very upset however if someone just has a different view eg in the general election Tories v Labour and now with staying in or leaving the EU. Just because someone has a different view does not mean they are evil (even if they are wrong). In fact if you're nice to them you might convert them to your side.

It always pays to be nice to people in life and on line

I think I would be a lot nicer to people if I was actually paid.

Not to everyone though. There are somethings that money just cant buy

I don't eat people
I won't eat people

I meant it pays off. You never know if that cleaner at work you're shouting at or colleague might be the person hiring you next year and even if you won't get anything out of being nice to someone do it anyway. Spread the love. Pay it forward. it makes sense.

I meant it pays off. You never know if that cleaner at work you're shouting at or colleague might be the person hiring you next year and even if you won't get anything out of being nice to someone do it anyway. Spread the love. Pay it forward. it makes sense.

Nice idea. Banning blanket generalisations would be a start

I'm probably the dullest poster ever

I do remember one person completely twisting something I had said on what turned out to be a troll thread. Bloody good thread it was though.
Every time I see that poster post since, I just take a large grain of salt to anything she says.

I remember the DV comment too. She was too strong to ever attract men like that, and was married to an 'alpha male'.

There is one poster who talks such absolute sense (imo) that on the rare occasion her view is the opposite to mine I start to question my stance.

Those I've disagreed with or have found to be a bit brusque I remember for a few days then their names are forgotten.

I've just bumped the thread asking for a non-namechange topic and reminded MNHQ that they said they'd look at it again 'later in the year'.

I still want it to be called The Royal Enclosure

There is a poster on here that I have heatedly disagreed with about everything ever.

However, when I really needed it, she sent me a lovely PM and that meant a great deal to me.

If she's reading this and I won't tell anyone that you've got a soft side

i still want it to be called The Royal Enclosure

OMG. Imagine the bloodshed!

Royal Enclosure is a brilliant NN. I doubt we'd a get a board, however. That said I'm very much against any random niche getting it's own board. There are far too many boards already in existence with tumbleweed running through them. I'd support a cull of at least 50% of boards.

I remember nasty gf posters for a few minutes, then even as hard as I try forget who they are😳 Some posters names do stick usually the prolific posters & a couple of posters who were very kind to me on a thread a while ago, I try to be supportive & offer advice if I can, don't see the point in being deliberately argumentative or mean.
I tend to lurk a lot more than I post & have no idea how to namechange, annoying when you know some posters have name changed purely to stick the knife in & would like Mnhq to revisit this.

There's one cow bag who I still see around who was downright nasty to me a couple of years ago. This was under a previous name though. I see this person being vile to others too so it wasn't just me.

I do remember two posters who were quite nasty to me about something pretty petty when I was a new MNer and daft enough to start an AIBU about a "first world problem". With hindsight I should have just hidden the thread and stopped engaging with them.

I tend not to remember nasty posters, but rather those who are, well ... a little bit bonkers.

And there are plenty of those

Yes if posting bonkers stuff was against Talk Guidelines MN threads would halve.

Sparks I couldn't agree more! I'm oddly enough having an actual discussion with a member of the woo clan. I think I need to deactivate my account and look for other alternatives.

But I won't, so you can add me to your post-it !

We need a 'How on earth did that thought escape your brain and become a thread on MN' topic.

I remember one poster in particular. Was a right, well let's say "female dog". I'm sure you get my meaning. Spent almost all day arguing with me, and having a pop. I just hid the thread. In the end, as. It suddenly dawned on me that. I actually have a life.
Yes I remember her username.

I think if you're going to say too much. It's best to hide the thread, and process things in your mind. Nothing stopping you from unhiding the thread once you've calmed down.