To remember NNs of MNers posting unpleasant things most clearly?

[Just5minswithDacre]

Is it a recognised psychological phenomenon? Do we remember bad things better?

I've just realised I still remember which MNer said women should pick partners more carefully to avoid DV (years ago), the types who always sneer at tenants, or seem to have it in for the disabled.

But when I think of compassionate MNers that I like and clearly have a range of life experience informing their empathy, I mainly remember biographical details and great posts but not NNs so much. (DawnDonnaAgain, HelenaDove and maybe two others that I'm not even completely sure of pop into my head as exceptions.)

Is there something wrong with the way my memory works?

I feel a revolution coming on

The non name changers are revolting.

Oops I sound like GF on Royalty thread.

Link to non name changing topic thread

There's no real way of sorting out a contentious issue/misunderstanding with someone you don't know and are only interacting with on an online message board.

I had a problem on another forum, with a poster who used to find it absolutely hilarious that I quite like talking about trivial shit and celebrity gossip (when you've got a lot of real-life crap to deal with it's pure escapism to talk about Katie Price's boob job/Kerry Katona's behaviour etc etc rather than chemotherapy regimes) and used to take the piss out of anything I posted that was in anyway serious.

The only way I could deal with her (assuming she was female) was not to respond in any way. It got so bad that I actually stopped posting and I'm pretty sure she's found someone else to pick on. She was a point and laugh merchant, and liked to get other people to join in the fun.

I haven't name changed in about four years. If you need to name change to say something then you probably shouldn't say it.

I always think "I will remember you, you fucker!" then forget . That said there's about four posters that without fail I will know it's them before I even read the name. I try to ignore them and not let them rile me but it depends on the day really. Sometimes you just can help but go in!

Personally I feel the same Nicki. If I thought I had better namechange to post something it's a good indication I shouldn't post it. It's quite a good mechanism for not oversharing too.

It would be quite nice if everyone was forced to have a never-changed NN for Chat and light hearted boards but were also required to have a NN for AIBU, bun fights and political stuff that must be changed every 4-6 months (not more frequently.

Then you could have a light, frothy MN with recognisable posters AND a vigorous, debating MN where posters were safe from being tracked around the net for their stance on benefit reform, trans laws or whatever, or by scary exes.

Thanks Worra

Some people have such a definite posting style that even when they name change you know it's them within a few posts anyway.

I will always remember the bitch who was thoroughly horrible about me moaning of babyweight not long after giving birth.

Vag

Yes I think it is a psychological phenomenon.

Apparently if one bad thing happens, for example a person is mean to us, they would have to do 6 (not sure if that is right) good things to make up for it.

Bad things stick out. Possibly healthy so that we can avoid danger in the future.

I NC frequently, not because I've ever caused a drama on here (in fact I reckon I'm one of the more dull posters) but because someone abusive once "identified" me on here and it was a huge mess.

If I couldn't NC every so often I wouldn't be part of MN anymore and would feel it was a huge shame ... Or I'd have to sign up with umpteen different email addresses and it would doubtless go wrong.

OP, YANBU - it's the pompous boasty posters that I remember forever There are some regular posters that just like to lecture everyone. I find them more annoying than the outright bitchy posters.

I only remember the name of one poster who always ends up irritating me. I suspect most of the really nasty ones just change their names a lot, which is why the name changing option is not good. The only time I ever used it was on a deeply personal thread.

If we do keep name changing, I think it would be helpful to have a post count against the particular name someone is currently using. Other posters could then gauge how much credence to give a poster who has only posted twice before under a particular name. It would enable people still to name change for very personal stuff.

I do tend to remember better the posters whose style, humour and advice I personally like, as well as the 'characters'.

I think NC is helpful - I suppose in small doses. There'll always be one or two fuckers that can recite the fact that last week you said you didn't like the colour red so how therefore are you now considering buying a red dress? Obviously not like that but you get my gist.

There'll always be one or two fuckers that can recite the fact that last week you said you didn't like the colour red so how therefore are you now considering buying a red dress? Obviously not like that but you get my gist.

They are the ones MI5 are desperately trying to recruit

I do use the AS function a lot. That is a bit of a no no in some people's opinion. But what is the proper use of the AS function if not to look at what posters previously posted?

Aw - I use the app these days and miss AS.

Some people have such a definite posting style that even when they name change you know it's them within a few posts anyway

Too true!

WorraLiberty Sat 14-May-16 13:03:41

people know they cause a bunfight.

Not sure who stole my people?? angry

Zombie reckons it was the Purple People Eater, Worra.

Zombie reckons it was the Purple People Eater, Worra.

Well I think stealing a person's people should be against the rules.

And as for eating them??!!

Just think of the carbs!

I think Zombie ate them..well their limbs

Actually I Fanjo has a point.

The people weren't purple so the purple people eater couldn't have eaten them.

I fancy it was Zombie, in the library with a huge pair of gnashers.

I just came here to say that I don't only remember the twats, I also always remember Zombie, and there she is. Hello Zombie, we've never "met" but I often wonder how you're doing.