To remember NNs of MNers posting unpleasant things most clearly?

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Is it a recognised psychological phenomenon? Do we remember bad things better?

I've just realised I still remember which MNer said women should pick partners more carefully to avoid DV (years ago), the types who always sneer at tenants, or seem to have it in for the disabled.

But when I think of compassionate MNers that I like and clearly have a range of life experience informing their empathy, I mainly remember biographical details and great posts but not NNs so much. (DawnDonnaAgain, HelenaDove and maybe two others that I'm not even completely sure of pop into my head as exceptions.)

Is there something wrong with the way my memory works?

I often skim through threads and only stop to read posts by posters whose posts I enjoy reading.

Like bibbity, that means wise, funny, kind. Also people who are knowledgeable on a topic.

I don't really need to remember the names of people that say annoying things.

I suppose I have a list of people I will pay attention to rather than an ignore list.

For me that's a shorter list

There was a thread last night (now deleted) which was absolutely awful. One poster was being goady and downright rude to another. It made me cringe so I reported but cannot now remember the names

I wouldn't worry ..they had undoubtedly name changed

I have always thought the NC function needed a review.

Thank you!

The NC function definitely needs a review imo.

Posters shouldn't be allowed to post like a cunt (but just within guidelines) in one name and then switch back to another, that they're all sweetness and light in.

I think HQ should make some very robust rules on the reasons name changes are/are not acceptable.

And changing NN just because you're afraid people will disagree with your controversial opinion, shouldn't be one of them.

If you're going to post an opinion then own it and do it in a name people will recognise you in.

The way NCs work on MN has been important to how the community has developed.

The ability to quickly assume another personal affects how we deal with each other.

Arguably the site has been too big, for quite some time, to keep that functionality without it being abused.

There was a request for a topic where namechanging wasn't allowed. There was quite a lot of support IIRC but for whatever reason it didn't happen.

AFAIK Gransnet doesn't allow namechanging, but I don't know why that is.

Maybe because when they started Gransnet they thought better of making it easy to have multiple identities based on experience with Mumsnet?

If there was a non-name change topic, I wonder what it would do to traffic on the site?

I imagine a lot of regulars and longstanding posters would post there exclusively. But maybe not.

I love the seasonal name changes, so I'd miss that.

I bet you don't get any of this name changing to be nasty on Gransnet.

I think it was only a non name changing chat thread. Anyone could post but you couldn't namechange. So a bit like the long running threads that you get now about all sort. The rest of MN would be unaffected.

Does Gransnet get trolls?

Oh just one thread, yeah that wouldn't be as cool.

Might also be tricker to do technically.

I agree with worra if someone is going to be a nasty bugger then own it and don't name change.
Pretty sure someone answered themselves last night

Yes it was probably the £££££s that made it not possible Doin.

Yes I do. Although I was recently remembered by another MNer as having said something in the past that I really hadn't.

Fanjo - I don't think you can namechange at all on Gransnet. Can only assume that's because it causes so much trolling and other trouble on Mumsnet.

Ah I see bibbity.

I bet people would be a lot more pleasant to each other if they had to keep same name and own their opinions.

I think it was only a non name changing chat thread. Anyone could post but you couldn't namechange. So a bit like the long running threads that you get now about all sort. The rest of MN would be unaffected

No it was a non name changing topic, so you could only post there in one name only - a bit like on Mumsnet Local or Gransnet.

Despite the high number of people who were all for it, HQ patted us on the head and said 'Not now but we'll see in the future'.

Actually, it's the future now so I might bump the thread in Site Stuff

YW Dawn

Non-NCing thread? How would that work? Was it only discussed in Site Stuff?

Oh was it Worra. I was going to have a rummage for the thread but I hate searching for stuff on my phone.

I agree Fanjo, but then again the non namechangers amongst us take an awful lot of flack!

it's the future now

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Yes..would be nice to share the flack around bibbity