AIBU - vegan dinner party guest EATING FISH

[isitginoclock]

We're throwing a dinner party. I've just excused myself to the loo to write this because I'm FUMING!! One of our guests has recently become a vegan. I spent bloody ages making her a mushroom pate for starter which she happily tucked into whilst we ate our salmon tartare. She then asked if she could try some salmon.

Wtf?!?!

I've bought loads of different stuff for her to eat and spent all frigging day cooking it. Why do I bother?!

I'd have to put on my talking to a toddler voice and say "no, you can't have this because it is fish. Vegans don't eat fish and you are a vegan."

How do you know if someone is a vegan...?

Don't worry, they'll tell you

My sister does this all the time! The worst was when she went through her raw food phase (which saw me eating a raw 'chocolate mousse cake' for my significant birthday which was made of - I shit you not - frozen mashed up avocado and cocoa powder. Every time she visited I'd be faffing around trying to find vegan / raw things I could feed her and then in the days after she'd left I'd find that someone had snaffled a handful of chocolate digestives from the fridge or eaten half a tube of (previously unopened) Pringles.

I've come to the conclusion it's like me and trains - I have a philosophy that calories consumed (on crisps / chocolate / wine) and money spent (on cheesy magazines) doesn't count if you're on a train going a long distance. She genuinely seems to think she's raw / vegan / whatever as long as she hasn't bought or stored the naughty foods herself...

So yeah, YANBU.

YANBU

I call myself a pesky-vegan because I eat fish but nothing else but am also really awkward when people cook for me and feel bad folks going to extra effort (even tho I love doing the same for others) which is prob one of the reasons I still eat fish as it makes catering for a group easier for others

I eat vegan out tho. Either way - if I go to a friends for dinner, I'm always upfront that even tho I'm basically vegan I do eat fish - which she should have said.

what a PITA. I think I'd have to say very loudly "oh wow! I didn't realise fish was vegan-friendly" [hard stare]

Just ask how come she eats fish as a vegan as you thought vegans didnt. She'll have to say something.

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes

How do they know it's not a vegan sausage? (and worm free)

I love you lot. I'm upstairs "checking on the babies". I didn't say anything but I wish I had done. One of our friends just said nice as pie"oh I thought you were a vegan" she replied "well, a little bit doesn't hurt does it"? And then they carried on talking.
IT DOES BLOODY WELL HURT THE DEAD FISH ON YOUR PLATE, I obviously didn't say but very much wanted to. They're onto mains. To be fair she's eating hers with grace.
I don't k ow how to tag people on here but to the lovely person who suggested slapping a steak on her face I may just have to. (I obviously won't but I'm enjoying the thought)

As someone who occasionally organises large scale events such as conferences, these people boil my piss. They put vegan or vegetarian on the special diet section of the form, then surprise surprise you find them eating the full English at breakfast. I always call them on it and they always say it's just an occasional "treat". No real veggie (and I know a few) would regard a full English breakfast as a "treat".

Maybe she thinks that salmon died naturally after spawning?

it boils my piss when vegan or vegetarians announce they eat fish..seems to be totally out of their orbit that makes no sense

I really hope you are saying something to her OP and then come back and tell us what she said!

Maybe your lush salmon tartare cured her veganism

A little bit doesn't hurt?!

Fuck me. She'll be twatted over the head with an organic courgette if she says that to the wrong vegan. Some of them are well militant.

I was going to ask of maybe she was a but fussy and thought vegan was easier than explaining that she doesn't eat eggs, creamy sauces, certain meats etc and vegan kinda covered it.

but obviously not...

You don't really tag people OP, you just do tgrir name is bold by putting an asterisk at either end.

Big respect to you for doing a dinner party whilst you have babies.

If you've made/bought a vegan pudding for her then do not let her have a 'bit' of any other pudding. 'No, no, FakeVegan, I couldn't undermine your principles like that. I just can't let your ideals down by allowing you chocolate brownie'.

Lol in fairness the only vegan I know only mentions it when other bring it up.
I am veg but not strict. I don't eat meat but I do eat plenty that isn't strictly vegetarian and I do weat leather shoes. I accept my hypocrisy!

She clearly needs to watch Scott Pilgrim Vs The World and understand there's no half way with veganism.

I'm veggie and people like this really annoy me. I'm very grateful if someone goes to the trouble of making an extra effort to cater for my needs, as I know it creates extra hassle for them. People like your guest make it difficult for veggies and vegans to be taken seriously.

but the tattoo/hotdog photo earlier obviously has a tragic backstory - he got it to proclaim his love for a free spirited ex girlfriend named Vegan but now, following a traumatic breakup is returning to carnivorous ways and trying to think of some way to cover up the ill advised memento of his doomed relationship...

Well if a little bit doesn't hurt, then she could just not be vegan for one meal in the whole week and have told you she'll eat the same as everyone else.

Either you can't eat the same as everyone else, or you can. She's shown a dramatic lack of manners.

I hope they leave first, so all the rest of your friends can gossip about her!

People. Just. PEOPLE!

She doesn't deserve your lovely food.

Agree we can't assume the hotdog eater was/is a vegan- he looks American, and they are known for their questionable baby naming habits, Vegan could quite easily be someone's name.

How do they know it's not a vegan sausage? (and worm free)

Or maybe he used to be vegan at the time of getting the tattoo, but subsequently changed his diet and now can't afford to get it removed because of all the expensive meat he's been buying?