To be annoyed that boyfriend was critical that I didn't have a "Le Creuset" pot for cooking?

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Okay, so I bit pissed off at the moment, newish boyfriend stayed at mine for a week last week as we were both off work at the same time. We have only stayed at each other's places couple of nights before with no issues, getting on well, however this past week he has been moany and weird about random stuff which to me are irrelevances i.e.

As the title said, moaned that I didn't have a le creuset type pot when he wanted to make a casserole, apparently the thing I use in the oven "isn't suitable"? wtf?

Moaned about the electric shower I have - okay it is pretty shit, but you know it works, yes I would love a brand new bathroom but I don't see anyone offering to pay for it.

Went over board on helping with cleaning, I'm a tidyish person, but couple of mornings got up early to make breakfast (which was nice) but then went on marathon "how clean is your house" style sessions in a kitchen which no way needed it.

Gave me a lecture about how my heating was set up "incorrectly" and would waste money.

Any views? I'm note sure now if he is just mad/rude or has to stupid idea that he is "helping" or something. I don't know it was going well this relationship but now seems a bit soured. I bit my tongue a bit in the week, other than saying no need to clean like mad, come and relax etc.

Should I be pissed off or should I be rushing out to buy "volcano orange" cast iron cook ware NOW/

Oo no, fuck the controlling bastard off now!

Far too interfering and "telling the poor little woman what to do". Get shot of him.

He is a giant wanker and probably a mummy's boy to boot.

He is rude. He is unnecessarily critical. He sounds as boring as fuck. Red card him.

Good luck OP, really you are worth much more than this.

The man who loves you and finds you lacking in the Le Creuset department, would take you out for dinner.

^ Not saying you be looking for the True love Thang.

He way over step the mark.

When I first started staying over dh house I would ask if I could have the simplest of things like a glass of water. I may have been his girlfriend but that didn't give me rights to take over his home.

These would be massive red flags for me and I'd run, run, run.

I agree with SparklingSky .

A lot of posters on MN are never willing to try to work things out.

Presumably you've known him quite a while and like a lot of things about him?

Then talk about what happened. Tell him you feel he was being a bit critical. Tell him it's meant you are questioning the relationship. Let him know that you felt criticised when he cleaned the kitchen, even though you realiise he was probably thinking he was doing a nice thing for you. Let him know that his other offer of advice about the heating (a way to save money - I'd certainly appreciate that) for some reason offended you, and you are apparently offended by anyone doing anything nice for you, so you'd rather he didn't in the future. He can then also think if that's the sort of relationship he wants to be in, or if you are both actually mature enough to be able to talk about both what his intentions were, and how you felt very defensive, and you might even find a bit of a compromise or way forward.

^Nah just get shot.

Is he related to Mr Titchener by any chance?

He's a control freak -run whilst you still have your self worth

Invite him back around in order to completely clean your house for you then dump him.

Life is way too short. If someone can find so much wrong with you in 1 week imagine 1 year or 1 life time!

Wanker.

Run.

I'd be worried he new what le creuset was tbh.

Never even heard of a la cruset. Presumed it to be a posh way of saying oven dish until someone linked to the site. Haha.

I'd be worried he new what le creuset was tbh

Why? Because he might be a man that likes to cook?

At the best, he's rude and has no manners.

At worst he's a control freak.

Either way, NEXT!

Ditch him.

Get him to buy you le Creuset then dump him. Winner!

If it's early days you should be fooling around in the kitchen and not noticing the dirt, or at least not mentioning it.

End it with him now Run for the hills my dear.

Ugh controlling

I had an ex who started off like that.

Was like the freak in Sleeping With the Enemy in the end with all the beans labels facing the right way.

While keeping an eye on the ENORMOUS red flags billowing in the breeze of power & control, I'd ditch a boyfriend (or woman friend!) for having such hideously bad manners.

You deserve better. And I'm not referring to your cookware.

Couldn't be bothered with someone so critical.

" it is a bit annoying when your casserole dish can't go on the hob as well as in the oven "

Really??

Maybe I do stuff wrong, but in all my years of cooking, this has never been an issue at all.

Yep. He should be more interested in what you look like with your legs wrapped round him sat on the worktop, not on the quality of your kitchen utensils.

Eh, the difference between actual, horribly expensive Le Creuset and any one of the other million cast iron brands is minimal. Staub's good, so's Le Chasseur, as well as any of the supermarket brands. My big cocotte, I don't even know what brand it is, I bought it in Carrefour. It's the cast-ironness, not it being Le Creuset.

Bit of an overreaction really.