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To be annoyed that boyfriend was critical that I didn't have a "Le Creuset" pot for cooking?

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scrabbletile · 08/05/2016 15:35

Okay, so I bit pissed off at the moment, newish boyfriend stayed at mine for a week last week as we were both off work at the same time. We have only stayed at each other's places couple of nights before with no issues, getting on well, however this past week he has been moany and weird about random stuff which to me are irrelevances i.e.

As the title said, moaned that I didn't have a le creuset type pot when he wanted to make a casserole, apparently the thing I use in the oven "isn't suitable"? wtf?

Moaned about the electric shower I have - okay it is pretty shit, but you know it works, yes I would love a brand new bathroom but I don't see anyone offering to pay for it.

Went over board on helping with cleaning, I'm a tidyish person, but couple of mornings got up early to make breakfast (which was nice) but then went on marathon "how clean is your house" style sessions in a kitchen which no way needed it.

Gave me a lecture about how my heating was set up "incorrectly" and would waste money.

Any views? I'm note sure now if he is just mad/rude or has to stupid idea that he is "helping" or something. I don't know it was going well this relationship but now seems a bit soured. I bit my tongue a bit in the week, other than saying no need to clean like mad, come and relax etc.

Should I be pissed off or should I be rushing out to buy "volcano orange" cast iron cook ware NOW/

OP posts:
ElspethFlashman · 08/05/2016 16:03

Le Creuset costs a bomb these days. I bet if he owns one his mum gave it to him.

TheCrumpettyTree · 08/05/2016 16:03

I love my le Creuset pots, but they are expensive. Luckily we were bought some when we got married. The le Creuset discount shop is great though and they have them in TK maxx.

However he sounds like a bit of a knob.

Lighteningirll · 08/05/2016 16:05

I LOVE my Le Crueset I have the wok, roasting pans (a bit shut as too shallow) casserole dishes and the griddle they rock. That man on the other hand I would lend you the griddle to assist in his departure. He has just told you very clearly that he is a critical, uptight douche.

SideOrderofChip · 08/05/2016 16:07

wtf is a crueset?!

PinkParsnips · 08/05/2016 16:09

Ugh he sounds like a controlling bore!
I would run like the wind.

Arfarfanarf · 08/05/2016 16:10

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TheCrumpettyTree · 08/05/2016 16:10

www.lecreuset.co.uk

angrycheese · 08/05/2016 16:11

Buy one of those smaller, less expensive la creusets and then shove it up his ass.

DramaAlpaca · 08/05/2016 16:12

Do you really want to be with someone who is so critical? It will only get worse.

Ginkypig · 08/05/2016 16:12

I'd be off like a shot!

Imagine 10 years down the line, him picking at every tiny thing making you feel inadequate at every turn.

Him choosing everything from car to house to schools to holidays to furniture and you letting him while quietly seething for an easier life.

That's the future I see.

zzzzz · 08/05/2016 16:14

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TaliZorahVasNormandy · 08/05/2016 16:14

I have one of these bad boys. Bloody heavy but it cooks stuff so well.

To be annoyed that boyfriend was critical that I didn't have a "Le Creuset" pot for cooking?
ghostoftheMNchicken · 08/05/2016 16:15

Playing devil's advocate, it is a bit annoying when your casserole dish can't go on the hob as well as in the oven - I wonder if that's the reason he was complaining.

He does sound like a twat though.

But I love my Le Creuset stainless steel casseroles. Can't be fucking arsed with cast iron as I am a weak-armed wimp.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 08/05/2016 16:15

Op you can borrow it to wrap it around his head.

ElspethFlashman · 08/05/2016 16:19

I have to say if anyone messed with my heating system I'd lose it.

I like it this way! I'm warm! Fuck off!

BreakWindandFire · 08/05/2016 16:19

I love my LC, and I get them cheap in TKMaxx, where all the unusual limited edition colours that don't sell go to die.

Get one, and drop it on his toe (they weigh a ton)

hugoagogo · 08/05/2016 16:20

This does not sound good.

Pedestriana · 08/05/2016 16:21

Hmm, I wouldn't be happy to be on the receiving end of this BUT having said that I've a friend who has Asperger's and OCD. When said friend comes to visit, I hear a very similar script. Doesn't mean friend is really overly critical, more that there is no filter between "That's not what I do/not what I have" in thought and blabbing the same thing out. I'm working on teaching tact!

Iflyaway · 08/05/2016 16:23

Yea run!

Life's too short to bother about picky stuff like that. I mean, who the hell will be lying on their death bed thinking, I'd wish I'd had a Le Crueset ffs!

He wants to live in an Ideal Home exhibition and sounds far too controlling.

ConferencePear · 08/05/2016 16:25

LTB - but not before he's bought you some Le Creuset, if you like that is. I can't stand the stuff myself.

SlimCheesy · 08/05/2016 16:31

Yep. He is starting to test the water re how much he can control you. Run.

hardheadedwoman · 08/05/2016 16:32

Why did you have the heating on, it's been warm this week?

ImperialBlether · 08/05/2016 16:32

Does anyone who uses le creuset find it too heavy? When I've lifted it in the shop I've always thought I'd hate to carry something that hot out of the oven.

Sparklingsky · 08/05/2016 16:33

This made me grin. My DH is like this but he wouldn't have been when we were at your earlier stage. If I force myself to look at any other feasible, interpretations - and this is playing devil's advocate - is:

  1. He can only cook a couple of dishes and can't improvise, or wanted to impress and then realised he couldn't without the same equipment from home
  1. Totally thought you'd be impressed for looking out for your financial interests
  1. Cleaning the kitchen - aiming to please and no idea what level you'd expect....so aimed to impress you

4 Shower - this one bugs my DH wherever we go.

Only you know whether he was being an arse or whether he was well meaning but a boor, or well-meaning/poorly judging th situation and OTT

SecretWitch · 08/05/2016 16:35

Next he will be having a rummage through your wardrobe, letting you know exactly where you can make "improvements" . Improve your life now by waving him off.

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