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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To ask a slightly disgusting question re. your toilet habits?

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MattDillonsPants · 07/05/2016 01:01

Don't read if eating.

Well DH and I have a disagreement.

I say if you need a poo, you need a poo...well I do anyway...there's no waiting about it. Personally I have to go immediately.

He says he can decide when to go...he knows "I need a poo" but can choose to wait sometimes for hours.

I say he's caused himself issues in this department by waiting habitually...which he does regularly.

He has all kinds of digestive problems including wind, diarrhoea and constipation.

He says these issues are simply because he has food sensitivities...he MAY but won't get that checked out...I say if he would listen to his body and poo when it wants to...then a lot would be sorted out.

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MattDillonsPants · 07/05/2016 09:38

Thanks Sop I must say, I do enjoy my uncomplicated relationship with the loo!

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Buckinbronco · 07/05/2016 09:38

Yabu my dad does this. When he needs to poo it happens immediately and he's practically running to the loo. I get a good few hours warning and it's more satisfying when it's built up

Babymamamama · 07/05/2016 09:39

I'm another who is three times a day. When I asked the gp she said it's the sign of good bowel functioning. And that each meal is going through separately. Actually the poo isn't particularly smelly and I wonder if that is because my bowels never hold onto poos for too long. I can't imagine holding on.

TheWeeBabySeamus1 · 07/05/2016 09:58

Flogging because I was living in a homeless shelter at the time sharing a toilet with 10 other women and every time my arse touched the seat someone would knock on the door and I just couldn't go. So yeah, I held it for 10 days ( at which point I did the 3 minute mile to my mums house to use her toilet )

TheWeeBabySeamus1 · 07/05/2016 10:00

And I know they're related which is why I said I agreed with the OP and said its not good for you.

Floggingmolly · 07/05/2016 10:02

Sorry, Seamus, it just sounded like some sort of self imposed endurance test. Apologies

BaboonBottom · 07/05/2016 10:03

Shittttttttt 10 days!!! My god theweebaby that must have been uncomfortable!

Middleclass we are 8 years in and touch wood (or should that be cloth!?) it hasn't happened yet, i guess the 'not being able to perform' thing would go in that situation though.

Tanfastic · 07/05/2016 10:06

I can hold it in if I have to but I wouldn't choose to if there was a toilet nearby. I poo at work but I know some people that wait all day till they get home.

TheWeeBabySeamus1 · 07/05/2016 10:06

Don't worry about it, don't think I could hold it that long now that I've had a baby

LittleNelle · 07/05/2016 10:11

I only need to go urgently if I'm ill.

Surely when you need a wee you can hold on for a while? Needing a poo is the same but you can wait longer.

If I'm at the shops/at work/busy I just wait and go when convenient.

TroysMammy · 07/05/2016 10:11

On weekdays I get up at 6.15, sit on the toilet and poo. I never need to when I'm in work or out and about during the day. Surely holding it unnecessarily in will lead to problems like constipation and other issues, psychological ones.

TroysMammy · 07/05/2016 10:16

UnGoogle I remember an ex boyfriend telling me he used the toilet facilities at work to their full capacity because why should he poo in his time when he can get paid to do it.

MonkeyPJs · 07/05/2016 11:45

This thread reminds me of an article I read once about how "experts" say that people on Big Brother go much much less often than normal people because they know they are being filmed (and many must have been constipated), even though they are comfortable getting naked and up to all sorts of other things. It's like poo is the final taboo - for women especially.

Also that it's not a surprise as many people become constipated when in situations they don't feel comfortable going - and that its often not conscious either. Men take longer than women as they are less ashamed as a rule so don't rush things.

I have no idea where I read that though as it was a while ago, and may have conflated information there!

Gide · 07/05/2016 11:47

I usually do 4 a day. I have no problem going anywhere. I do seem to get through a lot of toilet paper, but I think this is preferable to being constipated.

Wow, how much do you eat?!

I'm a regular in the morning after a strong coffee person. I'd rather not poo at work, but if I have to, then I'm not going to hold it. Increasingly, I find that my body is processing food a bit quick, so I'm having to go more and more urgently. I've had a cheese sandwich today and I have the squits, what the heck is that about? So annoying. I've managed to take out the dogs, but I'm glad I'm home.

EBearhug · 07/05/2016 11:56

Months camping in a group overseas where we had to dig our own long drops got me over any squeamishness. (The dung beetles didn't even have the courtesy to wait till you're done before moving in.)

As it is, I usually go within an hour of getting up, and usually again in the evening. If I've been overeating, it's more often. I notice the effects of too much meat in the diet. Also, I need to go more often when I have my period, and stress events like imminent exams tend to make themselves known through my guts.

Yesterday, I was walking with some friends and we walked along a stretch of road where goats had been. We commented on them just going as they walked along. I can't imagine being able to do that, but I don't know if it's a question of different biology (ruminants) or we're just socialised out of it with potty training. But then cats and dogs tend to stop and do it, rather than carry on walking.

FutureGadgetsLab · 07/05/2016 12:47

I'm nervous of pooing and peeing in public. I hate it. Sometimes I can't go unless someone else has just flushed so it will hide the noise of the pee. I never poo in public unless I'm ill.

I used to have a hatred of public pooers, I have sensory issues and the smell of public toilets makes me feel sick and so a good portion of anger was directed towards that group.

ovaryhill · 07/05/2016 12:47

I can hold it but try not to after nearly having an unfortunate incident on the way home from school
I had urgent need to go but walk home is through countryside so no chance
I was clenching so hard I was walking from the knees down very quickly , imagine it to tune of the Benny Hill chase sequence!
The nearer I got to home the more urgent the need got, sweating and heavy breathing like in labour
I ran up the path and took the stairs two at a time, undressing as I went
And just made it by the skin of my teeth! I almost had lift off!

MiddleClassProblem · 07/05/2016 12:48

When I see my daughter pushing one out standing I think "how are you doing that?" She 1 btw, not older and standing by a loo

Period poos are a bitch

idontlikealdi · 07/05/2016 13:17

God I wish I could hold it. When I need a poo I need it right then (IBS) and it has landed me is some awful situations before which I won't elaborate on but I still keep a potette from when the kids were potty training in case of dire emergencies...

hmcAsWas · 07/05/2016 13:20

Well hopefully you realised that it is your problem and not theirs FutureGadgets. Last time I checked, toilets had a function!

EmmaWoodlouse · 07/05/2016 13:30

I have always been happy to poo in any toilet, I find it a bit odd when people say they can't. If there were no toilets anywhere obviously I'd hold on, but I'd be keen to go to the first toilet I did come to.

FutureGadgetsLab · 07/05/2016 13:38

Well hopefully you realised that it is your problem and not theirs FutureGadgets. Last time I checked, toilets had a function!

Somewhat. I still think it's a bit unpleasant to poo in public but I understand needs must sometimes.

hmcAsWas · 07/05/2016 13:46

It can be unpleasant, I've walked into a public loo before and gagged a bit after someone has done a whiffy poo FutureGadgets, but like you say - needs must.

Changeynamename · 07/05/2016 13:50

I held a poo in for almost a week after giving birth. (I had poo fear) Mistake. I got a fissure and then it was like giving birth all over again everytime I went for ages

DangerousBeanz · 07/05/2016 13:54

Am I the only one who has suddenly got the urge to poo whilst reading this?

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