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AIBU to think when I'm running you shouldn't throw water over me

151 replies

woolypigs · 06/05/2016 23:40

Went running yesterday, next to traffic. I was aware of a red van next to me and the occupants shouted at me, I blanked them and carried on running. When the van caught up with me (due to traffic) as they drove past they threw water at me.
I was left feeling quite upset

OP posts:
dailyfailrag · 07/05/2016 12:00

You could wear something like this. It's a camera designed to be mounted to a helmet but I'm sure you could clip it on a backpack strap or pocket. The police often wear body cams now and I think they're a great idea for anyone in a vulnerable situation.

Original poster
woolypigs · 07/05/2016 12:18

I have now reported the incident on 101 online. They have taken it seriously and logged my complaint . I am glad I took the effort to report it.

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ghostyslovesheep · 07/05/2016 12:19

bloody idiots - I'm so cross on your behalf

The worst I've ever had is random comments from teenagers - I have my own teens so I usually have a good come back

Some people are just twats

toots111 · 07/05/2016 12:19

Once I was walking home from school and someone threw a bunch of spring onions at me. Random.

MarthaCliffYouCunt · 07/05/2016 12:19

Good for you OP. Hope something can be done about them.

corythatwas · 07/05/2016 14:26

From this thread it seems that while (apart from crapmummy) men are pretty well the sole perpetrators, women are not the sole victims. So it's not just being female that gets these vile little creeps going, it's also something to do with being out, running, cycling, moving- making them feel inferior?

AnotherUsernameBitesTheDust · 07/05/2016 14:46

I was walking down the road as a teenager with my best mate and we got egged by a passing car. My DS also got egged a few weeks ago.

I also got shouted at by a white van man, he called me "fat arse" as I was pushing newborn DS in his pram.

Also some disgusting bloke in a van shouting at a girl what he'd like to do to her with his cock. I actually took his number and company name but never reported him, which I really regret.

glassgarden · 07/05/2016 15:18

I actually took his number and company name but never reported him, which I really regret

if bodycams become common place then those with the urges to do this kind of thing might check themselves and refrain for fear of possible consequenses
In this circumstance Another it would be a simple matter of posting the footage on social media with the company logo clearly visible.

I've had men try to intimidate me in public places, it would be great if I had a hidden camera on me, I'd have clear footage of faces, number plates, there would be websites where you could upload this sort of thing and software to cross reference data/images so that perpetrators could be identified.

We all get urges, flashes of anger, or 'corr look at the arse on him' etc etc, most of us control them

annie1959 · 07/05/2016 15:19

I get shouted at by the gobsh*te contents of passing cars quite frequently, and last year was hit in back by a BB pellet fired from one of them while walking home from the supermarket with bags of shopping. Have noticed it less since having my hair cut short - I'm mid fifties - but perhaps it's just that it's a summer thing

MarthaCliffYouCunt · 07/05/2016 15:26

So it's not just being female that gets these vile little creeps going, it's also something to do with being out, running, cycling, moving- making them feel inferior

I would say a feeling of security sitting in their big protective box on motorised wheels plays a part. Do they do it when walking past people on the street? No because people can whack them back, chase them, get a good look at them. Whereas in a van/car they are pretty safe, can chuck an apple or cup of water and speed off laughing their asses off. The car gives them a sense of security. I dont think its the running that gets them going, they do it to mums walking with prams! Its the knowing they can get away with it.

MarthaCliffYouCunt · 07/05/2016 15:30

Will also add that a couple of ywars back my ffriend and i were walking on the street and suddenly she lurched forward and yelped and two teens raced past us. One of them had slapped her really hard on her backside. They werent walking past us, they were running really fast so they knew they could outrun us and that we wouldnt even see their faces. It was that sense of security that gave them the confidence to do it.

MarthaCliffYouCunt · 07/05/2016 15:32

My point being, make it less likely that they will get away (by filming and reporting) and they will lose the confidence that allows them to do it.

glenthebattleostrich · 07/05/2016 15:41

It happens to my friend and I quite often. I usually flip the finger at them and remind my friend they are pathetic wankers who have shrivelled cocks and need to insult women to make themselves feel like men. Luckily we can move off road soon as the council have cut the areas around the paths where we just have dog poo to deal with!!

PirateFairy45 · 07/05/2016 15:44

That's odd.

KittyandTeal · 07/05/2016 15:49

I was walking dd1 to preschool one morning in my running kit (I run straight from preschool) and some guy shouted out the van 'tits and ass' I was a bit Hmm wtf?!

The best I've had was last week, running up a steep track that's also popular with cyclists. I guy that had stopped, obviously couldn't make it up the hil in one go, shouted 'run forest run' at me. I was so astounded by the brass neck of it I couldn't think of a single retort

thekaratekid · 07/05/2016 15:52

Me and dm got "supersoaked" once whilst walking the dog. The idiots in the car must have just been cruising around looking for victims.

Another time whilst walking home from work some person decided to squirt ketchup at me from their car. Happened so quick, I just stood there in shock. I thought it was blood at first! All over my grey cardi and in my hair. Angry

Also....whilst working at the same place.... I was walking home of an evening down the main road and twice I had these 2 blokes cycle past saying "let me lick your pussy".... I started walking a different way home. Disgusting.

Again...whilst walking to the main line station when I worked in east london... I used to frequently get men "clicking" at me. Kind of like the sound you might make to a horse? Used to happen more in the evening when it was getting a bit dark. Started getting the tube to avoid it. Hmm

AyeAmarok · 07/05/2016 15:52

What a horribly unsettling thing to happen OP.

I've not had anything thrown at me yet, but I have to run past a pub, a horrible scummy one, and occasionally I've had men start running after me, chasing me Sad

Once (because I have earphones in) I didn't realise one was there until he leaned into my ear and yelled, giving me the biggest fright ever. It's horrible, so intimidating.

I also have twice had men intentionally accelerate/ swerve into me with their car (they didn't hit me, luckily). But WTAF?! One of them actually drove onto the wrong side of the road to do it. Confused

It's always men, never women.

FreshwaterSelkie · 07/05/2016 15:59

Glad that 101 took you seriously, OP.

I can't even count how many incidences I've had when running and cycling, I do a lot of them both so had a lot of time to collect shitty interactions. I've had people slap me on the arse, use their cars as weapons, I've had a can of coke lobbed at me, I've been flashed and wanked at, called a fat bitch, a skinny bitch, a fucking lesbian...

I did get my revenge once while on my bike. Some little knuckle dragger and his pals in some shitey boy racer car pulled over really close to me when I was on my bike and shouted "BOO!" really loudly in my ear. I jumped a mile in the air and just about came off - I was inches away from falling under the wheels of the car behind. I saw red. Fortunately, knuckle dragger had picked a stretch of road with a lot of traffic lights, and I am very fit. Two traffic lights later, I crept up the side of the car, stuck my head in the still-open window and yelled "BOO YOURSELF YOU CUNT" Grin Their petrified little faces stay with me to this day!

whirlygirly · 07/05/2016 16:04

God these are shocking. I run a lot and rarely get any more than smiles, the odd beep and plenty of older people saying they wished they had my energy.

I was walking down a street in town last year though when someone lobbed a still lit cigarette out of an upstairs Window which landed on my shoulder. It was painful and a real shock. I remember feeling really shaken up. I don't think it was deliberate violence, just utterly thoughtless.

FreshwaterSelkie · 07/05/2016 16:05

Oh, and bullshit it isn't sexist! I had a white van man swerve to a halt in front of me, jump out and start yelling in my face, telling me I should be cycling on the pavement and not the road (?!), then say if he was married to me he'd be ashamed of me because I should be at home getting my man's tea on and not clogging up the road. WTF?!

SandunesAndRainclouds · 07/05/2016 16:09

I've been heckled several times while running. Nothing thrown at me thankfully, but sadly I'm not surprised.

Hope you're ok and it doesn't put you off getting out there again. Flowers

glassgarden · 07/05/2016 16:14

Some little knuckle dragger and his pals in some shitey boy racer car pulled over really close to me when I was on my bike and shouted "BOO!" really loudly in my ear

thats the kind of thing that I've experienced most often, I suppose they just get a little thrill out of making a woman feel scared?

daisychain01 · 07/05/2016 16:22

VERY satisfying to watch them jump, like good, YOU be freaked out for a change, fuckers

Um ... unless you were doing it to the exactly the person who did it to you, that's being a manhatter and making an innocent person suffer. Not clever. And two wrongs don't make a right.

Sirona · 07/05/2016 16:23

Well done for reporting wooly

I once had a group of older teenage boys throw a beer tin at me. Charming. Luckily they were a crap shot.

A man out in a club one night put on vaseline on his lips and then wiped his fucking fingers on my clothes. So disrespectful.

Out running I've had things shouted at me and one man jogging alongside me taking the piss impersonating me. Running past the pub men shouting and cheering.

Men really don't understand the shit women have to put up with.

HeirOfNothingInParticular · 07/05/2016 16:25

You are definitely not being unreasonable. I was walking along the pavement with my husband, when a man in his late twenties/early thirties, stuck his head out of a van window, shouted, and threw an empty water bottle at me. I was so angry, I wanted to run after him and grab him by the throat! Luckily the lights were on green so he didn't have to stop.

Just a couple of months ago, I was walking back to work and a car full of men pulled up behind me, shouted that I had dropped my purse. I turned round briefly and one screamed haha (like Nelson Muntz from the Simpson's). I gave them the finger (perhaps not a good idea, and not something I would do normally) as I crossed the road. The shouted something else and then sped off 50mph+ in a built up area. Again, these weren't kids.

I am in my early fifties, not that that should make any difference, but you just wonder what's going on in their heads when they think they behave like that to a woman who is just going about her own business.