To be shocked at Dd's friend's tampon experience

[EdithBouvierBeale]

DD is ten and her class just had the period chat at school. One little girl, whose mum is a GP, was shown how to insert a tampon. Her mother demonstrated on herself by lying on her bed while her 10 year old DD watched.

Sometimes I think it would be very handy to have a wife when tampons get stuck. Husbands do their best but can't seem to get the right amount of purchase IYSWIM.

Holy fuck came on to comment about the mum and didn't read tft. A father inserted a tampon on his daughter???

It's not horrifying. It is just a body part, but generally a fairly private one.
And I did say it's fine if both parties are comfortable with it. I'm just giving my perspective of someone who was put in very uncomfortable, over-sharing situations with my mum. Just that a lot of comments were that they had a great relationship but that's not necessarily the case just because the mum is comfortable doesn't mean the daughter is.
Last year my mum asked to borrow my IPL hair remover because she likes to remove all her pubes and getting it waxed is a pain (literally I imagine). I told a couple of close friends saying that I'd rather not know things like that about my mum. That all agreed that they wouldn't want to know that their mums were pornstar-hairless too. Maybe we're all prudes?

Interesting I'm sure we may have mistakenly seen mum put her Lilets tampon in but she certainly didn't show us!

What are diagrams for in tampon packs?

I think older sister or female cousin isn't so bad to show you just not mum. Some things you never want to see!

Mum gave me sanitary towels until I preferred tampax but eventually went back to towels (the brand always were more common now).

I wouldn't be showing a DD a demo but would explain how they worked put in water and difference between towels, mooncup and tampons with and without applicators.

I have thought hard about this thread. I think the mother is wrong. Just because the mother felt comfortable and maybe feel comfortable with other women does not mean a child would. A young girl has not got the experience to necessarily be cool about this. I think an explanation and an opportunity for any daughter to experiment explore the their own body in private is what should be encouraged and is a healthy way for girls to take ownership of their periods. Most girls work it out and a lot don't want to use tampons I think what this mother did was crazy and I think my DP would be furious with me if I took this approach with our DD. I was always open with her though and she is perfectly capable of using tampons.

I don't think the dad inserted it. He talked her through It.

idontlikealdi
No, he showed her what she needed to do, and then gave instructions from the next room?

DH, DD (5) and I all walk around naked and she has seen my punany but I would not lie down spread my legs open and shove a tampon up there in front of her. I can't see any 10 year old being genuinely cool with that.

Last year my mum asked to borrow my IPL hair remover because she likes to remove all her pubes and getting it waxed is a pain (literally I imagine). I told a couple of close friends saying that I'd rather not know things like that about my mum. That all agreed that they wouldn't want to know that their mums were pornstar-hairless too. Maybe we're all prudes?

My mum and I have talked about pubes. She laughs that I shave, she thinks it's a weird "young person" thing. I can't remember why it came up.

Then again my mum and I have a dynamic that's like best friends, so I'm sure we do lots of things other mother/daughters wouldn't do.

Yes, because dealing with your periods is exactly the same as being shown how to sexually pleasure yourself. Are you for real? Do you think there's something sexual about inserting a tampon???

That was indeed the thought among a lot of people when tampons were first introduced. I recall my aunts and mum talking about how they were told (not by their own mum) that "nice" girls didn't use tampons. And the emphasis was on "nice", that only "tarty" girls, ie those sexually active, used tampons, because of course, nice girls shouldn't be sticking anything up the vag until their wedding night

Thank goodness it's different now, but certainly that was a significant attitude in my area (quite rural and conservative).

I would have been horrified if my mum had done that! However I guess it depends on the relationship. I think the diagrams are enough. I don't think you need a up close Personal demonstration, after all, I have never seen anyone else do that. That said, I do think just being much more open and comfortable with it is a great thing.

Well thecats you can tell your mum it's not a young person thing because my mums in her 60s!

Tychos haha, I did try but she wasn't having any of it. Apparently it's my generation who are pube free.

I think this all comes down to the kids and parents respecting what each party is okay with tbh

I wonder if this is generational?

I'm in my 60s and when it WAS the 60s, LOL, using tampons was still associated by some women as the equivalent to using your virginity! There'd be letters to Jackie mag's agony aunt along the lines of 'Will using a tampon make me lose my virginity?'

Are all you lot who are happy to walk around naked and show your bits, change your sanpro very young? Cos it certainly wasn't normal when I was a girl.

My mum showed me how to wear a san towel- lovely thing attached to a belt loop with suspenders- and I was mortified that she'd seen me with no knickers on. I wanted privacy.

I'd have been utterly shocked if she'd demonstrated how to use a tampon- she never did, it was Dr White's all the way.

When I did use tampons- around 14-15- I just read the instructions and practised.

When my DD now in her 20s tried to use tampons she found it hard, but I just told her to keep trying and one day she whispered to me that at last she'd got one in and she seemed terribly proud.

Fucking hell, I bet that image stays with her forever

Are all you lot who are happy to walk around naked and show your bits, change your sanpro very young? Cos it certainly wasn't normal when I was a girl.

I'm in my early twenties. So I'd say young!

Very young Cat- younger than my children!

glad my mum never showed me how to use them the diagram was enough info

I think I may have scared ds for life

when he was about 2 I found a few still wrapped lil-lets in his nappy. he was too young to answer what he was doing with them. a few days later i followd him into the bathroom where he slightly squatted opened the little drawer where i keep sanitary products and shoved about 3 lil-lets into the back of his nappy pretended to wash his hands and toddled back off to play

When I was 10, my mum beckoned me into the bathroom, whipped down her knickers and showed me her blood soaked sanitary towel so I'd "know what it looked like".

Another HCP that sees Fannies aplenty at work.
Can watch 10 dilations and curettages a day, but the thought of seeing my mother putting in a tampon makes me boak.

That's brilliant enthusiasm
Ds goes to get them for me from the cupboard but he's not tried using them himself. Yet.

My mother never, ever mentioned anything about periods, so when mine started (1960's) I thought I was dieing! I made damn sure my daughter knew the whys, what's and how's of periods and sanitary wear by the age of 10.....but I think a visual demo is going a bit far!

I recall a friend telling me that her mum asked her how to give blowjobs. She was 30 and her mum was in her 50s and had been single a long time and wasn't sure what was done when dating men etc. They had a pretty open relationship for a mum and daughter but my friend wasn't up for being that open and told her mum off for asking her.

I think that some things should be kept private between parents and children no matter what age.

I must have been a bit of a tart then, because I'm in my 60s too and used tampons within a couple of months of starting my period when I was eleven. My Mother used them too, and she'd have been 100 this year!