To seriously be considering basically throwing £20k down the toilet

[ahunter90]

Me and my DP of a year are due to go on the first leg of our RTW on Sunday. We are supposed to be going away for 13 months.

Past couple of weeks he has been getting more and more distant. We usually talk 2/3 times a day and usually Skype (we live 100 miles away from each other at the moment) and text during the day. Two weeks a go we would only text, now he won't even respond to texts and then noticed today (after getting a message notification from a mutual friend) that he has changed his relationship status to "single" on Facebook.

Called his Mum today and told her unless he contacted me today- I wouldn't be going away with him. Got to three hours later and still hadn't heard from him. Texted him and told him I would be calling the insurance company to see what could be done re money and cancelling if I didn't hear from him within the hour. Reply within 30 seconds to tell me he was driving over to "talk".

To cut a long story short- he has admitted to have been sleeping with someone else for the past 3 months and that he thinks he's falling for her but he thinks going away will help him get over her.

I'm devastated- a) because he has broken my heart and b) i've paid for 75% of the trip and it's taken me years to save up for it and I honestly don't think I could spend 12 months seeing his face everyday and it being the only friendly face around me.

I just don't know what to do.

OP, you are not responsible for his portion of the money. His mistake to his cost, not yours. Has he not worked that out?

OP try to cancel as much of his part as you can and keep any left overs, if there are any.
He should be paying you compensation, just for being a right bastard.

Alasalas how do you add those pictures? Are they on your phone?

Go on your own. I think rtw trips should always be something you pretty much do on your own and then meet new people along the way. Even if this hadn't happened , 10 to 1 you'd had gone your own ways at some point in the journey. That's fairly typical. Enjoy. I'm very jealous.

Thanks Alas

Glad you are still going to go and I hope you have a great time.

From my experience, loads of people travel alone and you will be able to go off with some of them to explore certain places and then head off to your next destination and meet new people. Travellers are nearly always very friendly and willing to welcome you along with them.

Us go with you! Seriously travelling alone is brilliant! Halfway through the flight you' lol spot al the suckers who want to do What THEY want to, but feel they can't because of the OH. Provided you're not be a nob, ( which I'm sure your nit, OP), go fo the experience you will get the most from, in all senses xxx

I went to Asia for 6 months 'alone' but I stayed in hostels and always traveled along with others, I think I had two days actually alone. It changed me for the better, you'll love it.

My niece was ready for RWT when bf broke up with her. Cried for days then headed off on her own. Met loads of people including a gorgeous guy she is now married to. She was in bits going but determined not to give in.

Good luck OP :)

Could you find a friend who fancies a last minute holiday for a couple of weeks? It would then, hopefully, get your confidence up and you'll enjoy the rest of it on your own. However, I doubt you'll be on your own. When my sister went to Australia for a year, admittedly she was with her BF, but they did things like fruit picking for a week or two at a time to raise funds. They enjoyed it and made friends. Doing casual work on your way round could be the way to make friends and have people to talk to.

Don't take this idiot, he'll just spoil it can I come??!!

Why pay him back?

Pay him back? No way!

He's broken the 'agreement' by cheating and making a joint trip impossible. He can get lost. (And I know Judge Judy would agree!)

Have an amazing time!

Bravo OP! Have an amazing trip! Please do a blog or similar and let us see.

yay, go on your own, and if necessary take some betablockers or valium prescribed for if you get too anxious, but if anything I think it will be empowering.

Booking a trip like this with someone youve been with a year was always going to be a risk, but you cnt throw the money down the drain now. Itll be different but great x

Fantastic that you have decided to go alone. Hope you have a wonderful trip and make lots of new friends and memories. Keep us all updated on your news and experiences.😄

Fantastic, I'm so pleased you've decided to go alone. I split up with a long term partner and a few weeks later went off backpacking for a year (in my mid 20's) it was the best thing I could have done, despite being fairly shy and insecure. I made so many friends, had so much fun and made lasting memories, it brought me out of my shell. I think you actually meet more people when you're alone than when you're in a couple as in a couple you tend to stick to yourselves. Very jealous. Have a whale of a time. Well done!

Good for you! Have a great time...

Have you actually transferred the cash already to your ex? If not I really wouldn't. Why should you?

I wouldn't give him his money back either. He basically chose not to go on the trip by behaving as he did. You owe him nothing.

Oh how exciting for you!

Good luck, you'll have an amazing time.

Great news, OP. Have a wonderful time.