to be really bloody angry about this

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My DS10 and 3 friends won a prize of a day trip to a local theme park travelling by coach. Three of the parents were happy (with mild concerns) to let the kids enjoy it as their first grown up day trip. One decided that she wanted her dh to trail the kids all day. AIBU to be pissed off that he is essentially changing the dynamics of the group and the presence of the DH standing in the queues behind them completely changes their day?

Adding a bit of background information - the prize gave the option of an open day ticket to allow the winners to go whenever with whoever, or to go on the organised, supervised coach trip. The DH didn't want to go, the other parents didn't want him to go. The DH has said that he will not be responsible for the other children.
AIBU in thinking that she should've chosen the open day ticket and made it a family trip another time, rather than our children being stalked for the day?

Shit! I'm sorry..I'm with you now..it is me reading post wrongly...apologies! ..

Don't go getting all reasonable now

Tis,as they usually are, a daft AIBU, guaranteed to have 2 well defined camps.

My ds is 10 but has behavioural issues and has often gone missing so it would be out of the question for me unless a known adult was going. A lot of parents don't know about his issues so maybe this dc has something similar or another problem.
As everyone has said kids mature at very different rates.
I don't see the problem really as all the school trips at our school have parents helping out on them. I think the DH probably was aware of the animosity and the fact that other DP wanted their Dc's to go alone and that's why he said he wouldn't be responsible for the others. He is respecting their wishes and obviously if they wanted parental supervision they would go themselves.
I do wonder if given the choice the friends would rather this DC not go and have their freedom from parental supervision OR would they be just be happy their friend is going?
It is a shame that something that should be a happy day out is turning into a drama.

Seriously yes you're being unreasonable. What's the big deal. If someone wants the child to be part of the group but is worried they're not quite old enough to go without their parent present what business is it of yours, they're not stalking, they're just being around if needed. Maybe they'll say they'll contact each other by mobile if needed. Really fed up of hearing parents having opinions on how other people parent when it's not warranted. How would you feel if it was your child who had issues and needed a bit of extra support. Even back when I was a child the youngest we went on a coach trip to a theme park was at 14 and things were more laid back then.

I would also be happy that he was there. In the background a bit for a lot of it, but someone close enough if they need him.

YABU
I wouldn't be letting a 10 year old go in a group to a theme park alone, whether there were "police help points" or police officers available or not.
This parent clearly feels the same.

YABU. My eldest is 10 in 2 years, there is no way this would happening in 2 years time. It's too young.

10 year olds, definitely supervision. They will soon be 16/18 and then you really do need to let go

I think "really bloody angry" is a bit OTT. In fact, my dd has just turned 14 and I've only just began to allow her to travel by train to the next town with her mates to go shopping etc and even then I questioned myself as to wether I had made the right choice. There is no way in Hell I would have allowed her to go unsupervised to a theme park with similar aged friends at 10!! And to be honest I think you're being quite ungrateful that someone is offering to keep an eye on these CHILDREN, one of them being yours!!! Perhaps a thank you is what you need to be focusing on and not your ridiculously placed anger.

Actually agree with some others who said actually rather than being 'really bloody angry' you should show some grace and be grateful. What really annoys me is how bitchy you are being behind someone's back when they are doing NOTHING wrong.