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Cheeky requests that make you want to scream

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MeMySonAndl · 22/04/2016 20:35

What is wrong with people?

This morning, a friend I have not seen in almost 2 years called me. I didn't see the call until lunch time, rang her back and send her a text but didn't reply.

She has just texted back saying that she needed me to give her a lift to the mechanic (WTF?)

Had another one this week, when I had to tell "no" to another mum 14 times as I couldn't have her kid around and take them to an activity because I was working.

She took offence that I couldn't understand that she couldn't take him herself because she was working. Why on earth does she think that I should take time off and earn less money to entertain her kid???

Hmm
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MeMySonAndl · 23/04/2016 00:30

I may have the face of a mug... Had that one too. Some people we barely knew asked if we would pay the deposit of the house they would be using when they moved to our city.

My first thought was, Erm.. do we really know each other so well? Obviously, i said no.

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GraysAnalogy · 23/04/2016 00:31

I'd have probably rang them and told them if they weren't home within the hour I was leaving and ringing the police. But that;s because I would have been a bubble of rage and I'm not as patient and/or as nice as you are. Do you still speak to them?

EverySongbirdSays · 23/04/2016 00:34

ELK - are you fucking kidding me????

After 10pm I would have phoned her every 10 mins

If she hadn't been back by midnight I would have threatened (though not) to leave and I would have left the minute they arrived regardless of the hour, muttering the words social services

ElderlyKoreanLady · 23/04/2016 00:35

No, though she's tried commenting on my Facebook posts a few times since and been ignored. She's monumentally cheeky and never really thought her behaviour was that poor because she grovelled as soon as they got in claiming they hadn't heard their phones ringing and thought I didn't mind. In her head, that explanation means I can't be angry.

EverySongbirdSays · 23/04/2016 00:36

Grays X post Grin

EverySongbirdSays · 23/04/2016 00:38

ELK after that she'd be blocked off my Facebook and my mobile

You do realise that the whole thing was deception and you were never invited for drinks you were tricked into unpaid babysitting?

ElderlyKoreanLady · 23/04/2016 00:42

Yep, I became more and more aware of that as the hours multiplied that night EverySong. There are few things that have annoyed me so much in my life!

As for FB, I'm quite relaxed about it. I rarely post anything and never put anything of importance there. People only get deleted if they try to pull me into FB drama for the world to see.

EverySongbirdSays · 23/04/2016 00:48

Yes but the idea that your still "friends" even on a Facebook level.

It would have given me GREAT pleasure to delete and block

Tell me you at least suitably chastised? gave both barrels

GraysAnalogy · 23/04/2016 00:51

It actually raises my blood pressure that people like that don't get their comeuppance.

ElderlyKoreanLady · 23/04/2016 01:06

All 3 got both barrels, never fear! And some mutual friends of ours were disgusted enough that they piped up too...they're the ones who've told me she doesn't really see why their behaviour was so bad.

Beggars bleeding belief.

mmmmmchocolate · 23/04/2016 01:14

I have a friend that is always after what she can get out of people for free. Very cheeky type and wonders why people seem to drop her suddenly.

She's usually out for free childcare in the holidays etc thankfully I live too far away to help out with that she likes to palm her DS off onto whoever she is with when out. I don't generally mind this too much as she's a single parent and I understand it must be hard not having much time alone so I'm happy to entertain him for a while so she can have a bit of breathing space.

However one time, at a wedding, we had just finished the meal and I wanted to get back to my room to get myself sorted for the evening reception. She asks me to look after him so she could go outside for a cigarette, get a drink and then go and check into her room etc.

It was my wedding. I was the bride. Hmm

MadamDeathstare · 23/04/2016 01:26

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BlueFolly · 23/04/2016 01:34

Well they do say that of you want something done you should ask someone who is busy.

GraysAnalogy · 23/04/2016 01:34

Oh god *madam. I'm so glad the home was pro-active.

On a related note,

cats and dogs home in my area are scumbags.They actually breed dogs and cats. What sort of dogs home does that??? They were brought a dog, now this dog was worth a lot of money. Instead of waiting the allotted time they sold the dog within a day. The dog owners had been in and the home said they'd never seen it. Then when contacted again a week later they said they had had it but it wasn't microchipped and they'd waited so it had been put down Hmm their lies were discovered when the dog was scanned at a vets and the chip showed the original owners who were then contacted.

SabineUndine · 23/04/2016 02:54

I'm loving these. Best I can offer is a friend's story. She was having a lie in one Saturday morning when her brother brought his two kids round for her to babysit . . . without asking beforehand. She'd been caught out this way before so didn't answer the door. They were looking through the letterbox to see if they could see her.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 23/04/2016 03:47

Friend A asked me to look after her DD
. Yes fine it's company for my DD. Then they next day friend A informs me. That friend B. Will be coming to MY HOUSE and taking her DD out and to see her niece but little Ilive can't go, and she'll drop friend A's DD back off to me later on. I was fucking livid,
So the plan was for my DD to be left out in her own home. Away and fuck. That they actually thought I was going to for that!!!!!!!!!

SaffyMonsoon · 23/04/2016 04:06

BIL's girlfriend turned my beautiful Tom Ford floor length gown (which I super reluctantly let her borrow for a big event) into a mini dress because it "looked better like that" apparently, less "frumpy". I'm still not over it, never in my life have I been so dumbfounded.

Janecc · 23/04/2016 04:50

I used to be quite friendly with one of the mums at school. She finished early once a week and she, another mum and I all went out regularly after school with the kids. This all stopped because of separate activities for the kids but not before I had taken her child on a few occasions because she was tired/ill. Now I'm chronically ill, getting better slowly and at the time because I hadn't planned on taking her kid for the afternoon, having an extra kid around was no mean feat. I never once asked her to look after DD. Last year I once asked this friend if my dh could drop my DD one morning at 8am before work because I was travelling 100 plus miles away for treatment for my illness. The children had to be at school 40 mins later and I knew she was doing the school run and not going to work as I asked first. DD arrived fully fed and watered and it was a simple case of plonking her in front of the tv for 30 mins. You would have thought I was asking for the moon. I asked the same from another friend as I thought it fair to only ask one person just one time and it was the same deal so I told dh the feedback. He decided to go to work late instead. I could understand if it was regular but this was for a genuine need and a real exceptional case of me as a mother wanting to get better to be able to look after my child. Now I know it can't be easy to have another child in your house when you're getting your one child (not children) ready for school and yourself ready for work. I had already offered to take this second woman's child to help her out on several occasions so I felt this was just simple reciprocation. I really think we should be able to accommodate other people's kids in exceptional circumstances and a friend and I regularly take each other's kids now. I'm a lot better so it's easier. I used to take another child once a week so his mum could work. She's my friend and yes, it was hard work because Im ill but I offered because it worked for her and my DD had a friend to play with.

Spandexpants007 · 23/04/2016 05:04

I was asked to look after my friends cats for a week. Assumed my friend would be paying my petrol as it was a 30 minute journey both ways. Was given a box of biscuits and no petrol money. I was also a bit Hmm when I realised that the cats hadn't had their injections and that my friend drove without insurance. My friend seemed like a responsible woman and I was quite surprised.

echt · 23/04/2016 05:40

mmmmmchocolate Shock :o

treaclesoda · 23/04/2016 05:46

annandale please come back and tell us more about what you have called your using streak.

What sort of things do you ask people to do? Why do you ask them to do it? Would be very interesting to hear it from the other side.

StubbleTurnips · 23/04/2016 05:59

We have a neighbour who is quite brass necked, recent requests have involved using our shower instead of theirs - cos theirs was new and he was filthy.

Whilst their new bathroom was being fitted (4weeks it taken) bringing the children round from next door to use our toilet - for poos only, so that makes it alright Hmm

Also the neighbour who used our garden for a party when we were away as it looks nicer, theirs is like a scrap yard.

They are nice people and would do anything for you in return, but by god are they cheeky fuckers sometimes.

DrunctioningFunk · 23/04/2016 06:16

My best friend is a lot bit like thisHmm

She got fed up of the MIL/FIL/ SIL and others wanting lifts from her so told her DH he could take the car to work so she now has no car all day, and nobody can "hassle" her for lifts...

Yeah, you guessed it; she has now become that "hassler". She asks me or her sister every other day for a lift somewhere, the bank, supermarket, school run, doctors...

Luckily, I am usually quite busy through the day so don't have the obligation to take her but I'm amazed at her audacity tbh.

Passthecake30 · 23/04/2016 06:20

Dp is currently getting called about 4 times a week to do a quote for someone who we last saw about 12 yrs ago...who has no intention of using him...just so that he has evidence of 3 quotes. User, much?

JustBeingJuliet · 23/04/2016 06:29

Years ago, in my late teens, I used to car share with my mum. A friend rang me up one day to ask if I had the car that night and did I fancy going out? Transpires that she had a date, 25 miles away, and wanted me to drive her there and wait in the car outside the pub! When I said no, she rang my mum to ask her to lend me the car as she had an "emergency"! Needless to say, my mum refused too.