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Cheeky requests that make you want to scream

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MeMySonAndl · 22/04/2016 20:35

What is wrong with people?

This morning, a friend I have not seen in almost 2 years called me. I didn't see the call until lunch time, rang her back and send her a text but didn't reply.

She has just texted back saying that she needed me to give her a lift to the mechanic (WTF?)

Had another one this week, when I had to tell "no" to another mum 14 times as I couldn't have her kid around and take them to an activity because I was working.

She took offence that I couldn't understand that she couldn't take him herself because she was working. Why on earth does she think that I should take time off and earn less money to entertain her kid???

Hmm
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AnnaChronism · 22/04/2016 23:33

Someone I haven't seen in over a year sent me an FB message this week saying they were getting a puppy on Thursday but had clean forgotten that they're all going to a wedding on Saturday so would I stay on Saturday night tomorrow to look after the puppy? And they have three cats too. When she wrote the message they hadn't picked up the puppy so they didn't know whether puppy and cats would get on.
I said no.

I feel better for writing that down.

RedOnHerHedd · 22/04/2016 23:36

I'm glad I'm not the only one that must walk around with the look of being a mug. The trouble is, you say yes once and it opens the floodgates.

lamiashiro · 22/04/2016 23:37

DH has an IT type job and you would not believe the amount of calls he gets from people asking everything from 'should I upgrade to Windows 10' and 'my printer isn't working' to 'problem with Facebook app'. Not to mention turning up on our doorstep with shattered laptops and expecting him to magically mend them.

Honestly, it infuriates me on his behalf. They will call literally at any time of the day or night. The most recent one was one of MIL's friends and she'd given them DH's number so this woman thought it was fine to call at 10.30 at night to ask for help sorting out her wifi or something. We were about to go to sleep so he told her this and she huffed and said, 'But your mum told me you would fix it!'

He's since told his mother not to give out his number for IT support.

EverySongbirdSays · 22/04/2016 23:37

Frikonastik

WORST ONE YET Shock

Pinkheart5915 · 22/04/2016 23:38

frikonastik
That is bloody awful Shock Shock

GraysAnalogy · 22/04/2016 23:40

I live close to the place I work at and I had one co-worker who once had a dicky tummy and wanted to use my bathroom instead of using the ones at work. I obliged. I did the second time. The second time though I got my key back much later and when I got home found a cup had been used and a couple of packets of crisps eaten. Fair enough if they'd asked but nah. They keep asking to use it now and I feel a bit Confused

DrFoxtrot · 22/04/2016 23:40

These stories Shock!

The brass neck of these people! How can they go through life acting like this? It's quite admirable really, the sense of entitlement and lack of awareness.

EverySongbirdSays · 22/04/2016 23:41

If you are the least bit good at IT you become the resident unpaid technician.

No word of a lie. My mother came to visit me in hospital and brought a brand new laptop and had me install it.

I had been in A and E 2 days earlier at deaths door

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MeMySonAndl · 22/04/2016 23:42

Ollieplimsoles, that is outrageous. But I think she got what she deserved: having to explain her ineptitude to the client.

Years ago, in the infancy of 3D product views, a salesman from the company I worked for came to tell me that he had sold a fantastic plan to put the whole catalogue of a national sofa supplier online.

He wanted me to ensure that clients could select any of their 100+ sofa models and any of their 300+ fabrics and then be able to see the final product in a 360 degrees view.

Considering the size and resources of our team, I calculated that it would take me more than 25 years doing the modelling and rendering to do what he wanted, or we could get every and each variation of the 100,000 sofas into the studio at the cost of £500 each.

He got really angry, told me he knew it was possible to do it because he had seen it in TV and that he had already signed the contract for it for £6000.

At that point the programmer sitting next to me ran to the toilet because he couldn't stop laughing. Salesman reported me to the boss for not doing as I was asked.

I'm pretty sure that my boss didn't find the sale that funny, but I was never told off for saying no Grin

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EverySongbirdSays · 22/04/2016 23:43

Sorry??

Your colleague wants to go round your house to have a shit and eat some crisps during work hours??

Pinkheart5915 · 22/04/2016 23:44

graysanalogy
Couldn't use the toilet at work Confused how strange.
They clearly just wanted a decent cuppa

GraysAnalogy · 22/04/2016 23:44

every oh I agree! When I worked as a HCA moons ago we had a shitty website and I noticed the mailto was wrong and directing people to the wrong address. So I offered to change it and did.

Few days after they asked me would I build them a website. Now for one they didn't have a clue whether I was capable because as I'm sure you know changing a mailto is easy, but they didnt want to pay me extra and wanted me to do it during work time whilst doing other duties hahhah

EverySongbirdSays · 22/04/2016 23:46

Like a HCA has time! The LOLZ

GraysAnalogy · 22/04/2016 23:48

Couldn't use the toilet at work confused how strange.

To be fair the staff loos were atrocious, tiny little rooms and always a queue because 4 wards shared them. So not the best place if you have bowel problems. But he took the piss!

annandale · 22/04/2016 23:48

Holding my breath to see if I'm on here, but so far no, thank goodness. I definitely have a using streak, try to rein it in.

Got asked to pick someone up at the airport. I don't really know them that well tbh, they're a work colleague I like very much but we don't socialise except at one work evening so far. It was a 90 min drive to the airport, couldn't find any way of not paying for parking, then 90 mins to their house, and another hour back to mine. They promised me fuel money but nothing's arrived, too embarrassed to ask more than one reminder. Just a bit Confused - as I say I think I am fairly brazen but I don't think I would have had the bottle to ask for this.

GraysAnalogy · 22/04/2016 23:49

Like a HCA has time! The LOLZ

still makes me laugh to this day. Cheeky sods.

HarrietSchulenberg · 22/04/2016 23:50

Parent from Cubs asked for a lift to winter Cub Camp and day trip outing as she didn't drive. Lots of kit to take and an early start, on what turned out to be a snowy morning.

She rang up 5 mins before I was due to pick them up to say they were running 10 mins late. Turned out to be 25 mins late and when she answered the door she was in pyjamas with hair dye on. She muttered "Thanks for taking him", bundled him outside and shut the door. He didn't even have a proper bag, just a string of plastic bags tied together that was too big for him to carry. In the car he told me they'd only just got up.

Had to drive as fast as I dared in the snow, arrived late, and had to leave my boy to carry all his own stuff (bag, sleeping bag, blankets, coat, pillow, bed roll etc) in as "friend"'s boy couldn't lift his cumbersome string-o-bags so I had to take them in.

Phoned to ask if she wanted to come with me to pick him up but she couldn't as she "had to do something". When I got him home, she was sat in the living room drinking beer and smoking fags with her cronies.

She did a lot more using before I told her what I thought of her but that took the Biscuit.

EverySongbirdSays · 22/04/2016 23:51

I'm fairly brazen but.....

Perhaps it's because karma's a bitch Wink

Frikonastick · 22/04/2016 23:53

Yeah, it was pretty epic. She has form, but that was the furthest she's gone.

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MeMySonAndl · 23/04/2016 00:07

Oh yes, the long distance lift...

I once was invited to go to IKEA which is about 50 miles away, got to my friends house just to be told that her car was not very reliable so it was better to go on mine. Offered to pay for the petrol? No. Was she looking for some wonderful furniture bargain? Nope. She just wanted to buy a pair of bushes to do the washing up because "IKEA ones come with a ventouse"

For years she tried to convince me to take her back to IKEA for replacement brushes. Until I told her that it was not fair from her to expect me to spend £40 in petrol to get her a £2 brush.

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ElderlyKoreanLady · 23/04/2016 00:23

The only person who isn't my mother who's shown me cheek comparable to others described on this thread is a friend I've known since birth but am no longer close to for bloody good reasons.

After a trivial fallout, we'd made up and decided we should have a few drinks to catch up. So on one of my rare child-free nights, I drove to hers, where I'd normally stay in the spare room and go home the next day after a late breakfast. A couple of hours after I arrived another friend turned up with her kids, who were turfed off into the spare room. Shortly after, I was asked if I minded looking after the kids for half an hour while she, her partner and her other friend nipped to a family do for one drink. They left me looking after 6 kids (4 of which I didn't know) until 3am, with no bed to sleep in! The next morning, she was very brazen about taking her DP upstairs for a quickie while I minded the kids. I decided I'd had enough and told them I was leaving once they came back down...and her DP then asked me for a fucking lift to his family near my house Angry fuming wasn't the fucking word.

ketchupontoast · 23/04/2016 00:24

I was once asked to lend a friend £1K for flights to Australia because my money was 'just sitting in the bank doing nothing'. I refused and she took the huff. We are no longer fiends.

GraysAnalogy · 23/04/2016 00:25

elderly what. the. fuck.

Why didn't you refuse?!

GraysAnalogy · 23/04/2016 00:27

OH I forgot one.

When I was younger I lived with my bf (now ex). He bought me a digital camera for my birthday. We split up. When we got back together I noticed my digital camera had gone missing and asked where it was and he said he thinks it had been nicked. Anyway few weeks later one of my 'friends' tried to sell it back to me, complete with photos of me still on the memory card

ElderlyKoreanLady · 23/04/2016 00:29

I did refuse the lift Grays, I was absolutely livid by then. Minding the kids though...I genuinely wouldn't have minded if it was the promised half hour. I certainly would have refused if they'd told me they'd be more than 5 hours!