To ask another school mum to take kids to school?

[ThereIsTooMuchConfusion]

My child care just fell through and I have no options. I'm on nights won't get home until 9am. dh starts work at 0700 and would need to drop kids off at 0645. I have no other options and cannot take carers leave. But feel very cheeky asking others. At a push dh can go in late but his work will get very annoyed at him and he isn't working in a great environment as it is. Agh why are things so bloody hard!

Would I be cheeky to ask, I'm not close to any school mums but we chat a lot at the gate and one of my children are best friends with her child?

[RubbleBubble00]

my kids get up anywhere between 6-7 but 6.45 would be too early for me. 7.30am would be ok but not any earlier

[Lilaclily]

I do it if I was a sahm or off work the next day but if I had to work it would be a huge pain to have two extra kids at that time of the morning

[Chattymummyhere]

I would do it as a one off or semi regular but not at 6:45am Unless it was an emergency such as women in labour/ rushing to hospital etc

Same as I would pick up a child, I'm a sahm though witch means many others don't talk to me but those who do find I'm very helpful in emergencies and repay the favour too if on the rare occasion I need something.

[inlovewithhubby]

Chattymum why wouldn't people talk to you if you're a SAHM?

Op, we don't get up til 715 but I'd do it for you as a one off. More people than you think are glad to help. I'd ask, we all have tricky situations which spring up and she may then be able to seek a favour in return. And anyone doing school drop off must be able to fit work around it, in order to drop off their own? Two more at that age wouldn't make much difference - like play dates it can actually be easier to have more on board (yours less likely to play up for the hell of it, theirs on best behaviour as guests)

Hope you find the courage to ask and hope you get the response you want. Let us know!!

[dairymilkmonster]

As a one off I would be flexible to help a friend out given the situation. Clearly lots of people are not up as early as us...would be quite happy to recieve kids at 6.45 as long as they could play or something until we usually are all ready for our breakfast at a bit after 7. We leave for school etc at 7.45 -7.50 so are up at 6.30. well, actually ds2 likes to wake up much earlier...

[Squiff85]

I would be happy to help out if I got a text from a Mum in your position - we're all in the same boat and its always nice to do a favour/have one up your sleeve!

[Obliviated]

I think I would rather have them over night than be up at 6.45am

Fingers crossed for you.

[Chattymummyhere]

inlove

At my sons school there is a very clear devide between the career mums and sahm mums, the normal working mums tend to flit between the two groups unles the career mums deem working mums job to below them.

It's in a quite posh area where you are expected to have a very good high flying career or be a kept women really.

Sad really but that's how our school works.

[Lambzig]

6am is a lie in in our house, so I would do it in a heartbeat. Would be happy to help.

[inlovewithhubby]

Chatty mum - that's really shitty. Sounds literally playground. We too are in a fairly posh area, but everyone mucks in and there is no obvious divide at all. Sometimes we women are our own worst enemies. Hopefully the op's colleagues won't be such arseholes.

[Permanentlyexhausted]

Definitely ask. I'd certainly have them as a one off as I never know when I might need a favour myself.

Crikey some of you get up late! It's a 25 minute walk to our school and lessons start at 8.25. It would be a shock to the system for some of you!

[Penguinepenguins]

Chattymum that sounds awful, not that much different here to be honest but we make speedy escapes to avoid as much as possible :)

Women can be so nasty to each other

[Penguinepenguins]

It would be a shock to DP I would not be getting up at 6am ;) ;) he would ;)

[kennyp]

i can't get out of bed until 730am and to get downstairs and start the day with OPK (Other People's Kids, not an ovulation predictor kit) would finish me off entirely.

butttttttttt if it was truely a one off i'd do it but would charge breakfast club prices to be honest so that there's no "i'll get you wine/repay you in kind" kind of thing going on.

[Fedup21]

If it's a one-off, I'd get DH to explain to his boss and be in late rather than ask people I didn't know very well. I once dropped my DD to my best friend (I paid her well in wine!) so I could go to an appointment at 7.30am and that was v early-none of her kids were even awake! I wouldn't have asked someone who wasn't a close friend.

[Pancakeflipper]

I'd do it.

I'm happy to help and certainly called in support when DS2 is having one of his wonderful hospital stays.

There's a good set of mothers at our school who are delighted to help other mums.

[theclick]

Also if you actually make it clear you know it's impeding on them - from what I've read on mumsnet threads where this has been an issue, most mums who do ask are like "would you mind terribly? ta!" And it's clear they couldn't give a shit whether you mind or not.

[123rd]

Can your DH not pretend he has a Dr apt at 9 and then go into work after?

[Shelby2010]

I would do it as a one off - if you didn't mind me answering the door in my dressing gown & then sticking the kids in front of the TV for half an hour until we had breakfast. Also agree text is better as it gives more thinking time to reply.

[LeonoraFlorence]

I had my neighbours 3 DC last week at 5am as she was on her way to catch a flight for work to London and her DH was working in the US and his flight home was delayed. It was no problem for me, I'm usually up around then anyway. She text me about midnight the night before in the hopes I would be up (I was up feeding DD4 luckily). I am a SAHM so was able to take the DC to school/nursery with mine and their daddy was home in time for pick up. I'd definitely ask, I'm sure most people would be happy to help :)

[TeenAndTween]

I would do it as a one off (provided I didn't know upfront that your children were a nightmare behaviour wise). I too would aim to stick them in front of TV or with toys/colouring. I wouldn't entertain or play with them.

I'd feel pleased you felt you could ask (and I'd know where to go if I ever needed a big favour in return).

I know this is a terrible imposition but all my 5 usual childcare options have fallen through for Monday when I am on nights and DH on earlies. I am trying to find someone willing to have my two beautifully behaved DC from 6:45 and take them to school. Is there any chance at all you would be able to, I would be very very grateful? I realise it may not be possible and won't be offended if you say no. This is a one off and won't be a habit.

[WeAllHaveWings]

I have a friend who lives 20 miles away so I can't help, but she occasionally puts a shout out to her friends on Facebook when she has a childcare issue to see if anyone can help. Means no one is put on the spot or feels bad if they can't, she normally gets a reply with an offer to help.

[PennyHasNoSurname]

If its a one off then dh goes into work late after dropping the dcs at school. He is a parent, these things happen.

[MidniteScribbler]

There's no harm in asking, but if they say yes, make sure you arrive with an offering of breakfast for everyone and something to keep your kids well occupied whilst the rest of the family are getting ready.

[LyndaNotLinda]

FFS there are some right pathetic people on this thread. Of course you can get up before 7am! I'm not a morning person AT ALL but I have to get up at 5am for work sometimes. Or even 3.30am!

You're not going to die.

As for: "if it was truely a one off i'd do it but would charge breakfast club prices", I hope you never need a favour from anyone ever. And if you ask, they tell you to sod off.