To ask another school mum to take kids to school?

[ThereIsTooMuchConfusion]

My child care just fell through and I have no options. I'm on nights won't get home until 9am. dh starts work at 0700 and would need to drop kids off at 0645. I have no other options and cannot take carers leave. But feel very cheeky asking others. At a push dh can go in late but his work will get very annoyed at him and he isn't working in a great environment as it is. Agh why are things so bloody hard!

Would I be cheeky to ask, I'm not close to any school mums but we chat a lot at the gate and one of my children are best friends with her child?

[WeatherwaxOrOgg]

I wouldn't mind at all as a one off. Not even if I had to get up especially early for it - not at all.

[FuckCalmRhageOn]

OP - next time ask! You said your children are friends so I'm sure the mum wouldn't mind helping as a one off. From a mum with mobility pain issues I've had to ask a fair few times and have an open door for anyone who ever needs it in return. Working status is irrelevant, if someone needs help and I'm able I will.

[ThereIsTooMuchConfusion]

I just bumped into her and explained that id writtten her like 10 messages and what the situation was and how early it would've been and she was like, anytime seriously the dog and her eldest get up at 0600 anyway and I said I'd return the favour and her and her oh could go out she was like to be honest they go to their dads every weekend so I get a break and id be more than happy to help you out anytime!! You lovely people were right should of asked!!

[Helencandy28]

I would do this no problem as a one off. You could always return the favour by having her child over for tea etc or doing a bit of babysitting. I would ask her. Perhaps text her so she doesn't feel put on the spot.

[Woolyheads]

There is bound to be another parent setting off for the school at 06:45. Our's starts breakfast club at 07:00, so someone must. If it were me being asked I would do it for you. If I was doing the asking I would ask DH to be 15 minutes late to work as a one off, or ask the breakfast club if they can open 7 minutes early and halve the difference.

[ThereIsTooMuchConfusion]

Unfortunately our breakfast club starts at 0800, school at 0900. Anyway crisisish diverted. And at least I know now she would be happy to do it if these circumstances should arise again.

[Sara107]

OP, glad you now have an emergency back-up. I'm truly surprised at all the people suggesting that it wouldn't have been OK to ask, surely most people are happy to help on a one-off basis. We are raising our little girl far from any family back-up and it can be really stressful, I worked up the courage to ask somebody for a childcare favour for the first time this Easter holidays. Possibly wouldn't have dared if I'ld read some of these posts first!

[SquidgeyMidgey]

Glad it worked out for you.

[BeALert]

I would have no problem with it OP, but school starts at 7.35am here so we are all up at 6.45am.

I'm glad you spoke to the other parent - it sounds like at least you've got a backup plan there for the future.

[sleeponeday]

Oh bless you, OP.

You know, the reason she won't mind is you are the sort of person to feel terrible about asking. In other words, you would never take advantage.

Mothers helping one another out is one of the safety valves we all need, IMO.

[Muriqui]

Do ask other mums. You have nothing to lose. If you also say it's just an interim thing while you sort out something more permanent, I'm sure plenty of people would offer help. I know I would!
In fact I did! I took a classmate of DD to school for nearly a year when his mum changed jobs - I did drop-offs, she did pick-ups, it was a great arrangement for both of us and only ended when said classmate changed schools. DD also loved having someone to talk to all the way to school, too (we had classmate from 7.30am so not quite as early as your needs but it honestly worked a treat for all concerned)

[Baressentials]

I would be fine with receiving a text, and with the early drop off. I like to help when and where I can and also hopefully it will end up working both ways if I should ever need an emergency favour.

[Baressentials]

Oops sorry just saw your update. Glad it has worked out and you spoke to her