AIBU to think my sons consultant shouldnt have tried to give my children money?

[jemima39]

I had an appointment today with my 5 year old sons paediatrician, and took my 2 year old daughter with me, he paid more attention to her, commenting on how cute she was and stroking her hair and then as both kids behaved relatively well he tried to give them some change from his pocket. While I feel his intentions were just be nice and reward them I'm uncomfortable when I'm trying to teach my kids not to accept things from strangers especially my 5 year old as his disability means he has very little sense of danger. He is a middle aged indian chap and I gather giving change to small children is very popular in indian culture after talking to a few people about this but is it the right thing for a Doctor in a hospital to be doing?

Perhaps that is because isn't a good reason. The value is more important and there should be a bit of common sense involved.

Sorry Amelia. I would be deeply shocked if my child's doctor offered them cash. Anyfucker explained it up thread.

So how does that work then Amelia? Your common sense says 50 p is ok, someone else says £5 is ok. Or would it actually be more common sense to say professionals aren't allowed to give any money to children.

Yea, it's really odd but there's no way I'd complain.

Since it's his cultural, I'd feel a little less unnerved by it than an English doctor handing out cash.

Doesn't really bother me, but is rather odd to do.

My child has come home from school with sweets and presents from his teacher for being good or doing his coat up by himself. I'm not sure I'd feel 10p was that different tbh.

birds I would think it could work by using the same common sense that says a lolly is OK but a big box of chocs from Fortnum & Mason, not so much.

The TA comparison doesn't work. The parents wouldn't be there when a TA gave money and it would make the other kids jealous.

What springs to mind for me Op is if you go down the official complaints route, this will cause many nhs hours hours and therefore money being lost. He will I imagine have to do a report on the situation which could be instead of seeing another child, people in the complaints dept will have to deal with this rather than concentrating on something like an operation going wrong.

He may feel really disillusioned about his work and this could affect him more than you imagine. What I am trying to say is there could be consequences bigger than the 'crime' itself to think about. I would have had no issue at all with this when my kids were small, I don't know why parents are so paranoid these days and look for the worst in every situation. There could be an odd time in life where children need help from strangers, could be they get lost, mum faints or something, although I don't consider this doctor to be a stranger as such.