To be annoyed by "I need a favour but have to ask you face to face"

[Eastie77]

I think IABU but anyway...it's annoying me.

A relative sent me a text message stating she needs to pop round and ask me for a favour. It has to be this week and she asked when I'm free. I have a really busy week with various bits and bobs arranged for the kids, appointments etc. I replied the only times that are convenient would be this evening or early Saturday morning before we leave on a weekend break with the kids. I asked if she could give me a call to discuss the favour. She just replied "Ok see you Saturday". I asked again re. the call and she said no, she has to ask me face to face.

I hate this cloak and dagger shit. Just tell me what you need! If it's something awkward I'd rather she asked over the phone tbh. She lives about 40mins away on the bus (doesn't drive) and I mentioned we will be leaving early on Saturday and she'll have to get up early to get here. As this didn't dissuade her I'm guessing it's something important but what and why can't she ask over the phone?? I am not close to this relative btw.

I will feel bad if it's something 'serious' but at the moment I'm just pissed off as we will be sitting around waiting for her to get here on Saturday before we have to set off on a longish drive.

Anyway. Rant over.

Intriguing.

Hmm. It is an inconsiderate time of day night to turn up to ask something.
Especially as I now have to wait until then to find out what this favour is and I need an early night

She is intent on putting you out of your way isn't she! Rude

I think we might be in for an anticlimax ...

I asked similar of a mate once, had to wait 5 days before she was free. It was night before I was hosting a mutual friends baby shower. I'd just suffered a miscarriage and needed physical & emotional help on the day. Dp was away and I couldn't create such a downer cancelling last minute and/or telling others. Friend still let me down arriving with other guests so I did setup on my own. Fucking sucked lol.
Anyway just saying could be something legit. L
Ps I gave birth to a baby boy exactly 12 months later so happy ending!

Like (at least one) other poster, up thread, I also think this is going to be something nice for OP and if she doesn't want it, I'll have it , maybe even something momentous (a fantastic piece of news maybe).

As this keeps popping up in active convos, I have just clicked on the thread and quickly scrolled through it.

2 days and - nothing

Hope it's not too awful when the time comes!

Returns to surreptitious lurking.

Hope she does come round tonight OP! Then you can get this over with!

The suspense is killing me

Ask her for a favour. The favour being can she tell you over the phone what this favour is. If she does turn up on your doorstep and the favour is something big like borrowing money etc. then don't give her an answer straight away. Tell her you'll think about it or you need to talk it over with your other half etc. I think she's got a bloody nerve tbh considering you're not that close to her.. Can you find out from another relative what the favour could be?

Not long now!

Whenever this happens to me they just need a loan!

Well, the 'something nice for the OP' theory makes a bit more sense than the Big Favour in terms of the relative's persistence in planning to come over at completely unsuitable times and refusing to indicate what it's about on the phone. No one asking a significant favour would be actively irritating the person they are hoping will do something for them, surely?

Hope the OP's busy setting a web cam up. Live feed wouldn't go amiss.

I'm going to stay up late to find out the results!

I vote she's organising some sort of family occasion and wants to talk availability and probably lifts...

Ha ha ha FirstWeTake - that would be fantastic!

Good luck tonight op. Hope it goes ok.

One hour 26 minutes to go..

Having read 27 pages now, I feel I have to find out what she wants!
Hope it's something nice OP.

Shit, I've read all this and nothing.

PP is right. It's Victorian Safe

Oh no I have to wait till 10.30 to find out? I'm tired already.
OP put your PJ's on so she knows she has to be quick, and yawn a lot.

What was Victorian Safe?

Yvonne must be prepping to leave home soon if bus journey itself takes 40 mins?

What is the Victorian Safe reference about?

It's gonna be the longest 73 minutes ever to wait til 10.30!

Glad I only found this thread now!

What if OP is too tired, busy, traumatised happy with her surprise to update tonight? What if we have to wait till morning?! Or she hasn't time in the morning and we have to wait till she comes back from holiday?!