To be annoyed by "I need a favour but have to ask you face to face"

[Eastie77]

I think IABU but anyway...it's annoying me.

A relative sent me a text message stating she needs to pop round and ask me for a favour. It has to be this week and she asked when I'm free. I have a really busy week with various bits and bobs arranged for the kids, appointments etc. I replied the only times that are convenient would be this evening or early Saturday morning before we leave on a weekend break with the kids. I asked if she could give me a call to discuss the favour. She just replied "Ok see you Saturday". I asked again re. the call and she said no, she has to ask me face to face.

I hate this cloak and dagger shit. Just tell me what you need! If it's something awkward I'd rather she asked over the phone tbh. She lives about 40mins away on the bus (doesn't drive) and I mentioned we will be leaving early on Saturday and she'll have to get up early to get here. As this didn't dissuade her I'm guessing it's something important but what and why can't she ask over the phone?? I am not close to this relative btw.

I will feel bad if it's something 'serious' but at the moment I'm just pissed off as we will be sitting around waiting for her to get here on Saturday before we have to set off on a longish drive.

Anyway. Rant over.

Almost 3 hours

I think people need to stop place marking. (Shamelessly placemarking).

I've literally just read 25 pages and still no answer!

Does she often visit at weird times?

Might go to bed early so I'm fresh for the morning

She wants a favour - so I don't think she is going to share a lottery win with the OP...

1. Who makes a 40 minute bus journey to ask a favour which only takes a few minutes.

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Have also just made it through the whole thread.

I found the first text from Yvonne a bit odd, that it was 'honestly' ok for her to come on Saturday. No, Yvonne, it honestly isn't. And now she needs to come at 10.30 despite OP being about to go on holiday and having rare sleep opportunities due to the baby. I'd disconnect the doorbell and not answer.

Imagine the horror if OP NEVER comes back to update
10.30 is a bit late for me, I might have to check in the morning

Can't believe we don't know what the favour is yet... Setting my alarm for tomorrow

Haven't RTFT, I skipped to the end after 2 pages! Maybe she needs an organ?

Not to bring a downer to the thread, but the last time a friend did this to me, it was to tell me she had cancer. She wanted me to know from her and not accidentally from anyone else. Fingers crossed it's something silly and irrelevant

I hope it's not that toasty
Agree wine glasses out. If she's come round for something trivial and annoying, say your in your pjamamas and can't drink and drive, if it is something serious you can celebrate a lottery win or commiserate ill health with wine

I hope so too toasty. Could be asking for a bone marrow match as they are related

Normally just a lurker, but this has me intrigued. (Marking place) 😳

Thanks that's probably unlikely as she specifically mentioned needing to ask op something.

Hope it's something silly and exasperating.

That random thanks was suppose to be TBH

Enough is enough! Please Eastie77 get in the car and go and see her! Then let us know what it is all about! We cannot stand the tension any longer!!

Not long now! Make sure you update us immediately!

Oh my God am I honestly the first person to guess this – she wants you to be an egg donor for her!

Bet you any money you like.

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Still no answer?!

My older sister needed a stem cell transplant when she was getting rid of NHL. She asked me and my younger brother over the phone, it's a complex procedure to arrange, and quite urgent, you can't dick about.

So I'm thinking it's not anything terribly dreadful. Hope I'm wrong.

I also think she'd have used different wording. My sis just said "You know you said to ask if I needed anything? Well, I do."

I was a match, bro wasn't but went on the register regardless.

I don't think it's health related as why would she need a 'favour'? Surely you wouldn't give a relative bad news on the eve of their holiday either.

My dsis lives near Yvonne and is a former investigator. Shall I get her on the case?

Marking my place, I hope it'll be some good news for you OP

Yes BigHairySpider do it! Go on, its for the good of all nosey interested MNers