To wonder how close a mother and son can be?

[Twasthecatthatdidit]

Ok, this has been done sooooo many times before.... But have just found out I'm having a second boy. Not planning a third and certainly not for the sake of trying for a girl so that's that, no daughters. And I can't help feeling a bit gutted, which I wasn't expecting. Now I do look at his perfect little scan picture and feel a bit better. But feeling sad I'll never have that mother daughter relationship. My brother does live near to mum and sees her a lot, but wouldn't have the same relationship as she has with her daughters. And my Dh is v good at keep at keeping in contact with people but would hero worship and be much closer to his dad - doesn't really see his mother's point of view (although he would deny this). So I'm not ruing an opportunity to buy dresses ( I'm not a girly girl) but more than close adult relationship. Do sons ever really "get" their mothers? Will there ever be lunches and spas?!

I've never been to a spa with my mum!
she does like to ski/windsurf/sail / ice skate / climb mountains with my and my brothers tho

I have a 21 year old son and we are very close. It's not spa days but he introduced me to The Walking Dead, we eat sushi together and he took me to a casino!

He was recently badly injured in a climbing accident and I'm thankful every day that I still have him. Nursing him through his recovery has been a privelige.

Glittery, hope your ds gets well soon. Ha, looks like I'm the only one who does lunches and spas with my mum and sisters (though not v often) . Though come to think of it, dbro was complaining he didn't get invited last time, sil did. So who knows, I might get my spa yet... To those who aren't that close to their families, I am and I love it (even though I live reasonably far away and am bad at phoning, so I might indeed be a disappointment of a daughter). So would love to recreate that myself. Fingers crossed my boys will be best friends (I know, I know I can't control that either)

I'm very close to my MIL and like her daughter, since she only has sons..this can and does happen too

And have a daughter who has severe autism.

Life's never straightforward and we just need to make the best of it 😊

God forbid lunches and spas with my mother, we don't get on that well. I di gave a brilliant relationship with my own DD, but no closer than I have with my own 18 yo son. My son and I often have duvet days just the two of us, cuddling on the sofa with a pot of tea and watch movies. I do the same with my DD, gender doesn't come into it.

I had two DSs and desperately wanted my third child to be a daughter - I had all those feelings that I would miss out if I didn't experience that relationship. So I was delighted when I found out my third was going to be a girl. She is indeed wonderful, as are my boys. I was rather smug about my family being 'complete'. Then my husband died (she was just two) and my family will never be complete again. Obviously I'm grateful for each of my children, but it doesn't matter a jot that they are boys or girls. You can't create a 'perfect' family - life just happens the way it happens. Be grateful for what you have, every day. Congratulations op!

New year, that is very true, to always be grateful for what we have.

I have two beautiful, loving, sweet, joyful pre teen DSs who help me bake, clean, fix bikes, garden, climb, walk, swim, watch films, snuggle, chat, sit in comfortable silence, food shop. They are sensitive, funny, the best of friends to one another and such good company.

Embrace the boys you have, boys are fabulous! (As are girls too of course )

The people I know that are closest to their mothers are all men! My best friend is super close with his mum, they do all of the things I wish I did with my mum... I am a woman and really not that close to my mum at all. We've never done the whole shopping trips and 'girly' days out thing. Barely even had heart to hearts. I was closer to my dad growing up, he took me shopping, to the cinema and we talked a lot. Not close to either now I'm an adult, just the way it goes sometimes.

My son and I are very close as well. No less close than I am with DD's. He's not a typical boisterous boy into football and all the rest but if he was I could get down with that since I've never been a stereotypical girly girl myself and loved football and my encyclopedia best of all growing up. My bedroom was painted blue and red and I used to decapitate Barbie dolls .

My point is, just because they're a girl it doesn't mean they'll be girly or any closer to you than a boy would be. Boys generally dote on their mothers. I'm glad you won't keep trying just to achieve a girl. A woman I know did this but with a boy... She had ended up with four DD's before getting a boy.

OP, you sound a lovely person and I am sure you will find some way of being close to your dc as they grow up.

Doesn't matter what it is; there will be something. I have to admit that I was a little disappointed that it turned out neither of mine (one of each sex) enjoyed nature and the great outdoors; dd positively dislikes it. But we bond over visits to the theatre instead, which has become a much bigger thing for me because of dd. And I can still do the nature hikes with dh. And watch ds takes me rowing; he is the only one who shares my childhood love of boats.

I could reassure you by introducing you to my fiance and his DM!