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To wonder if people seem to prefer it when girls are born than boys

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waterunderthebridge · 03/04/2016 19:40

Just wondering as based on my experiences there seems to be more excitement and enthusiasms for girls. I could be wrong.

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Champagneformyrealfriends · 03/04/2016 20:44

YANBU-I had my dd a week ago and we're getting way more fuss than when SIL had her DS. I don't get it tbh-all babies are precious.

GooseberryRoolz · 03/04/2016 20:45

I'd try and get the opposite sex to the one I had

Why? Confused My first two happened to be 'one of each'. There's nothing special about B/G as opposed to B/B or G/G. Children aren't football stickers.

NotSayingImBatman · 03/04/2016 20:46

When I was pregnant with DS1 I wanted a boy more than I could put into words. I think I wished the penis onto him!

With DS2, I really wanted a girl. My family had all had one of each, DH's family were the same. I was supposed to have a daughter because that's what happens.

When I found out he was a boy, I was bitterly disappointed and shed a few tears. But when he was born, and he was placed into my arms and he looked at me with this disgruntled little expression on his face, I realised it really didn't matter that I'd never have a daughter.

lorelei9here · 03/04/2016 20:46

OP do you mean generally or with the parents?

I've only known one person IRL who was a bit sad not to have a girl, others certain,y seem to be delighted regardless of gender!

Mummyoftwo91 · 03/04/2016 20:48

I have one of each and I have noticed this, my son was first and my family who are English were disappointed I wasn't having a girl, but my husbands family who are Turkish thought I was giving birth to a bloody king they really get excited over boys and when he was born they and other Turkish people in the community gave me loads of money as gifts for him when he was born, when my daughter was born she didn't get a penny from them which I found so odd

Griphook · 03/04/2016 20:48

Boys are so underrated and undervalued. Poor little things imagine being a disappointment from the moment of conception, and for mothers of boys to be told they have the consolation prize and they must be upset

nocabbageinmyeye · 03/04/2016 20:49

I have two girls, lots of people have said I'll have to go again to try for the boy, I say I'm not going in again IN CASE I have a boy. If I ever find out I'm pregnant with a boy I'll have a lot of back tracking to do. I'd love him obviously but I just have no desire for a boy and never did, it's not really the reason I am not having anymore though Confused Blush

PaulAnkaTheDog · 03/04/2016 20:50

I'd try to get the opposite sex to the one I had, don't think that's weird really.

Oh it really is.

Griphook · 03/04/2016 20:51

we're getting way more fuss than when SIL had her DS.

Can you imagine how shit she must feel! (Not from you)

Only1scoop · 03/04/2016 20:53

Paula

Indeed it is

Only1scoop · 03/04/2016 20:54

Op are you talking Shettles method or similar with that statement?

livvylongpants · 03/04/2016 20:56

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Alisvolatpropiis · 03/04/2016 20:57

Grip, there's no need to be sad, all evens out rather in boys favour by adulthood.

ExasperatedAlmostAlways · 03/04/2016 20:58

No genuinely makes no difference to me. Id say in my family a boys more special as theres hardly any. We have nine girls and one boy between my siblings. When I had my son my inlaws were delighted as it was their last grandchild and first grandson and it was the last chance to carry the family name on which meant alot to my father in law as his father died at war and his mum remarried and had his siblings who all have a different surname.

Champagneformyrealfriends · 03/04/2016 20:59

Griphook I know! It's terrible-I'd have been thrilled with either a son or a daughter. It's MIL more than anyone-she's obsessed with little girls and spent my whole pregnancy saying she hoped I had a girl Confused

StitchesInTime · 03/04/2016 20:59

I don't really see how you can realistically try to get the opposite sex to the one you already have.

Try for another baby, yes, but isn't the chance of getting the opposite sex pretty much 50:50 unless you're having some sort of sex selection done via IVF? (which I believe is only legal if you're know to have a high chance of passing on genetic diseases which only affects boys / girls)

TimeToMuskUp · 03/04/2016 20:59

I had loads of "Oh, what a shame, are you going to have another and try for a girl?" when DS2 was born. I used to do that awful head-tilty-thing and say "but why is it a shame?" and watch them squirm. It's genuinely baffling when people think a parent might be disappointed with their brand-new offspring.

People are crazy about gender when it comes to pregnancy. Just be grateful you're fortunate enough to be having a baby and then love it, give it a good name and try not to be a shitey parent. It's not that complicated.

PovertyPain · 03/04/2016 21:00

You don't have to answer sparkling

Confused What did Sparkling say that was so bad?

Writerwannabe83 · 03/04/2016 21:00

I have a DS who is two and when I fell pregnant for DC2 my friend said, on about three separate occasions, "I really, really hope it's a girl."

I have absolutely no idea why seeing as the sex of the baby would have no bearing on her at all. It was really odd.

lorelei9here · 03/04/2016 21:01

But there's a good chance of a girl carrying on a family name surely...?

Writerwannabe83 · 03/04/2016 21:01

As an aside though, when I was pregnant with DS my MIL made it quite obvious how disappointed she was that we weren't having a girl Sad

BertrandRussell · 03/04/2016 21:01

"Boys are so underrated and undervalued. Poor little things imagine being a disappointment from the moment of conception, and for mothers of boys to be told they have the consolation prize and they must be upset"

Oh, I know! And they are so downtrodden and neglected in society as well..............Second class citizens, in fact.

TimeToMuskUp · 03/04/2016 21:01

Champagne My MIL was the opposite and said when I was pregnant that she wouldn't love the baby as much if it was a girl because boys are so much nicer. She favours DH over SIL then wonders why SIL hates her.

Champagneformyrealfriends · 03/04/2016 21:04

TimeToMuskUp your poor SIL! Some people are very strange!

TimeToMuskUp · 03/04/2016 21:06

Champagne she is utterly mad. And she doesn't even see that how she's behaved over the years has dictated the relationship she has with SIL; she blames SIL's failures for their relationship. It's dreadful to watch.