Pay day loan and hen do - AIBU

[Henzilla]

Apologies...another hen do one. One of my best friends is getting married. She's not having bridesmaids a few of us friends suggested organising a night out as a hen do but Friend 2 said she had spoken to bride who wants to go away for weekend in London. I said I can't afford a weekend away but Friend 2 went ahead anyway. I take the point - she only gets married once, so figured I'd just find the cash from somewhere. Now Friend 2 says she won't be able to come on the hen do as she has a 6mo. This is perfectly reasonable of course - one of the reasons I suggested a smaller thing so everyone could come! So now I'm in a position where I'm going to be taking out a payday loan to afford a night away that I'll be in charge of.

AIBU to think that her reason for not going isn't better than mine? Yes, I can take out a loan to afford it and she can't leave a baby she's breastfeeding. Am prepared to accept therefore IABU. I know the bride wants to go away and I want her to have a womderful weekend and I don't want to let her down. But I would have spoken to her and gently said is quite short notice for people and let's make it a fabulous day/night in our hometown. It's too late to do that now and I just feel desperately worried about money and that I've been cornered into something where I'm just going to be thinking about every pound so it's not going to be the dream weekend away she hoped for anyway.

[Henzilla]

I'm not going on the hen do. I'm sad about that. But I'm happy I feel better about myself.

[AcrossthePond55]

You have made the right decision. Don't doubt it for a second.

[EvansGreen]

I have no idea why everyone is so negative to a payday loan.

[MrsHathaway]

Evans - probably because they're not crap at maths. Hth.

[Fluffycloudland77]

I'm really glad you didn't get a loan op. You might not even know these friends in 10 years.

[DoreenLethal]

I have no idea why everyone is so negative to a payday loan.

Really? Ohkaaaaay.

[ShamefulPlaceMarker]

I'm also negative about Loan Sharks evan or are they okay too?

[bearbehind]

evansgreen do tell us why they are a good thing then?

OP, well done on choosing not to go. It's the right thing to do.

How did friend 2 / bride react?

[sleeponeday]

I'm glad, OP. I am sad you aren't going, but was genuinely worried that you'd keep getting in more financial shit if you didn't learn to say no to people.

You have the right to keep your head above the economic waters. In fact arguably the obligation. Good for you - putting a stop to this took genuine guts.

[SavoyCabbage]

Don't be sad, it's the right thing to do and the wedding is the main event.