Is having overweight kids child abuse?

[Mummyme1987]

A friend posted on Fb that parents with fat kids are child abusers. Except for kids with medical problems. It started with comments on how it's awful that there's a generous fit section in clothes shops. I'm shocked that people think this. I think the majority of parents don't just feed their kids crap, and some kids are bigger than others, and unless it is a very extreme case it's not child abuse. Thoughts?

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helena the problem with that analogy is that catwalk models arent creating movements like Health At Every Size like Tess H has. She actively tells women that being her size is okay. Whilst at the same time lying about her size and having heavily edited photos

grey really?

I am not asking this to be goady, but do they make her bigger or smaller?

They make her smaller, I'll try to find them to show you

The council pool here is very expensive. It's ridiculous.

Then again, despite the fact it's literally less than a 15 minute walk, lots of my DCs friends are driven there and back.

My neighbour swims regularly/plays badminton and yet wouldn't dream of walking there.

It just doesn't make sense.

Err hang on a minute Earlier on in this thread we have posters saying how walking isnt enough.

now we have got a poster saying scheduled excersise that costs money is not the sole goal (i never said it was so more gaslighting) the fact that certain posters keep moving the goalposts like this proves what this thread is really about.

Tess

Statements like "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels" are no better.

Tess an icon? Not pleasant.

People that size struggle to move.

I do a lot of different types of exercise. There is woman in my body balance class who is the size of Tess. She is 30 years my junior and she struggles with so much. Planks, side or otherwise, simple seated twists, I can see her sheer mass handicaps her so much. Everyone in the class is very supportive and we all admire her for having the guts to come to class, but that bulk is handicapping her life.

You're right.

But unfortunately we have an obesity epidemic and that's what I'm currently talking about.

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It sounds like it is a struggle for her but this might be the start of her journey to be healthier. Its great that everyone is being supportive of her in that class pearly. It sounds like a good atmosphere in which for her to make a start.

I have a lot of admiration for anyone who goes out and actually does something about their weight. Then you get the absolute arseholes who think it's okay to shame them - can't win can they.

YY Grays When i started excersising again 3 years ago i didnt get many negative comments apart from one.

Completely different from when i was younger.

I hate people who shame anyone for exercising.

When I was twenty stone, I didn't get any shaming at the gym I attended at the time, can't imagine how hard it is if people are taking the piss.

I hate when people pick over each others bodies in the gym, for whatever reason. It's disgusting.

People are arseholes. It's hard enough sometimes to get the motivation to go and exercise without being stared at or having snide comments thrown at you when you do.

I absolutely agree, with the last few posters. Shaming does no good. I am glad that my gym is full of lovely people who I know totally admire those with obesity problems taking steps to exercise.
In fact we could all learns valuable lessons with people with such gumption.

Walking to anywhere which is less than 1/2 hour away unless you have so much to carry that you can't manage

Not buying sweet drinks, crisps, sweets, chocolate, sweetened yoghurt, cake, biscuits

Not watching tv or screen generally for more, than say, 2 hours in a day

With money saved from not buying crap snacks invest in hobbies which don't involve eating and may help with exercise and stress relief.

Anyone without SNs can do these things. It's about developing good habits and passing them on to your kids. Hardly anyone is intentionally abusing their obese overweight children; they are just doing what other people do without really thinking if it's right for them and their family.

I must imagine there are some shitty gyms around.

As I see it everyone who exercises is there for a personal reason, I am thinking of a few people at my gym, one who supplements her training as a competitive karate enthusiast, some elderly women wanting to keep fit, some trying to regain fitness after childbirth or rehabilitating after illness, some on a weight loss programme, some young men wanting to pull women, some for emotional healing including a lovely lady who had lost her son, some aiming for an Ibiza bikini body.

A good gym welcomes all, for whatever reason. Fitness is a journey, not a destination.

"Walking to anywhere which is less than 1/2 hour away unless you have so much to carry that you can't manage

Not buying sweet drinks, crisps, sweets, chocolate, sweetened yoghurt, cake, biscuits

Not watching tv or screen generally for more, than say, 2 hours in a day"

A little prescriptive, my 16 yo DD does all of these "bad" things. She also does 18 hours of ballet a week and is a size 8.
I am glad when she settles to watch screen . Atm she is watching last nights Casualty on her phone sitting next to me after a 6 hour dance class.

Tess is definitely heavily photoshopped in pictures which doesn't show the reality then of her body. I have a policy that things can be removed (smudges, stray hair etc etc) but I won't allow the actual shape of my body to be changed in images

I went to Curves which was women only.

Pearlyum walking everywhere within reason and not buying junk are simple non expensive life changes that anyone can manage. 18 hours of ballet or any other 'paid for' activity is not something that every parent can afford or commit to.

"some young men wanting to pull women,"

men attending just to judge womens fuckability may put a lot of women off.