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So I was named as a correspondent in a divorce petition

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BuildingBlocks9 · 25/03/2016 19:15

DP divorced W in Jan 2015 (separated in April 2013, divorce petition issued in Feb 2014 on the grounds on her unreasonable behaviour and granted in Jan 2015). In April 2015 I gave birth to our DD. I am pregnant now with our second DC due in July. My DP has a DSD who is 4 and she spends every alternate weekend with us. Last weekend she asked me whether I was having baby as my tummy is big - I told her that it was supposed to be a surprise for her and she will have a baby brother in summer. My DP also send e-mail to his ExW Fyi that DSD will have a baby brother. Yesterday in a post I received petition in a post dated and stamped by the court in April 2014 naming me as a correspondent in proceeding of DP divorce on the grounds of adultery with an original letter issued to ExW thatshe needs to amend petition as details of marriage certificate do not match. There was also a letter from ExW that she knew about me, she showed dignity by not pushing thru her petition and she let DP divorce her on unreasonable behaviour grounds as wanted to have it done and dusted. Adding that I as a woman and mother myself should show respect and dignity to DSD and have decency to tell her about pregnancy.
I assume that she originally wanted to name me in divorce proceedings and divorce DO on grounds of adultery but filled in petition incorrectly and did not resend it as DP has already issued his petition. But why is she sending this to me now - it is 3 years on since they separated. We are going to have our second baby and she is doing this out of spite. Shall I report her for nuisance?

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BuildingBlocks9 · 25/03/2016 21:54

I am not a troll. I am looking for opinion and advice, and I apologise as did not expect that it will go down OW route. Thank you all for contributing

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FuzzyOwl · 25/03/2016 21:55

At least you have admitted it was an affair now.

Ohfuckaducky · 25/03/2016 21:56

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lamingtonnutty · 25/03/2016 21:58

You both sound like complete twits 'jeeze it had been over a year' - in the grand scheme of things this isn't along time.

Actually, twits can be forgiven, you both sound like assholes.

BuildingBlocks9 · 25/03/2016 21:58

Foslady 😆 of course 150k pre tax, DP earns half of it - he is self employed. I hate boasting about my professional life but ExW does not even earn half of his earnings and surprise, surprise. .. relies on benefits

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londonrach · 25/03/2016 21:59

Op they divorced theres nothing his ex wife can do surely re the divorce papers. Time gone on now.

Id just be careful. You pregnant, which if your dsd is just 4 was his wife pregnant when he was sleeping with you. Apologises if i misunderstood your posting. Op please be careful as if a man marries his mistress it leaves a vacancy (weak honorless, with no morals man like your dp as most men wouldn't get a mistress). His ex wife was pregnant or just had a baby like you are now when he left her. Just keep your eyes open for your babys sake.

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Griphook · 25/03/2016 21:59

but at least make effort for maintaing relationship.

Give it a year Hmm

BuildingBlocks9 · 25/03/2016 22:00

Unreasonable behaviour - I cannot answer that question as I have not seen the papers. I know there was domestic violence from her side, insults

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thecatfromjapan · 25/03/2016 22:00

150k pre-tax near Hyde Park?

Lucky.

Griphook · 25/03/2016 22:00

You really are better than her in so many ways. Gold star for you

cannotlogin · 25/03/2016 22:01

Oh love, can you not do better than that. Bet you the self employed DP doesn't pay maintenance either and there'll be shit about her 'getting all the benefits' and 'my taxes'....

FuzzyOwl · 25/03/2016 22:02

Perhaps she struggles she work as a single parent with her DD having a useless, thoughtless, inconsiderate, unfaithful, pointless and horrible father?! Luckily since he earns £75k he can undoubtably afford to pay plenty of maintenance! Or, let me guess, is he not the sort you do that?!

VertigoNun · 25/03/2016 22:02

£150k Hyde Park OW.

GooseberryRoolz · 25/03/2016 22:02

Do you live in a garage?

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cannotlogin · 25/03/2016 22:03

Hahahahahahaha....domestic violence on her part.....you are with my ex, aren't you??!! wipes away tears of hysteria. I actually think you're for real.

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BadgerCrossing · 25/03/2016 22:04

It bothers me that she sends it now. To get back at us, to spoil our happiness of soon to be parents, the fact that her husband left her and is in happy relationship and she still is alone (no DP in sight and probably wanting to have another DC as well)

It bothers me how lacking in any kind of empathy you are.

DropYourSword · 25/03/2016 22:04

Ah, and I was so nearly sucked in!!

thecatfromjapan · 25/03/2016 22:04

Maybe it's actually in Hyde Park. A sort of tent, or make-shift shelter of some kind?

Can see why OP so stressed.Sad

FuzzyOwl · 25/03/2016 22:05

how can she work in central London, just opposite the coffee shop you use for stalking purposes, but rely on benefits?

Littlefish · 25/03/2016 22:05

"I know there was domestic violence from her side, insults"

Bravo OP. A really excellent final touch.

thecatfromjapan · 25/03/2016 22:05

Oh no. I promised myself I wouldn't press post.

Am cross with self now.

DonkeyOaty · 25/03/2016 22:05

Crikey moses

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