So I was named as a correspondent in a divorce petition

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DP divorced W in Jan 2015 (separated in April 2013, divorce petition issued in Feb 2014 on the grounds on her unreasonable behaviour and granted in Jan 2015). In April 2015 I gave birth to our DD. I am pregnant now with our second DC due in July. My DP has a DSD who is 4 and she spends every alternate weekend with us. Last weekend she asked me whether I was having baby as my tummy is big - I told her that it was supposed to be a surprise for her and she will have a baby brother in summer. My DP also send e-mail to his ExW Fyi that DSD will have a baby brother. Yesterday in a post I received petition in a post dated and stamped by the court in April 2014 naming me as a correspondent in proceeding of DP divorce on the grounds of adultery with an original letter issued to ExW thatshe needs to amend petition as details of marriage certificate do not match. There was also a letter from ExW that she knew about me, she showed dignity by not pushing thru her petition and she let DP divorce her on unreasonable behaviour grounds as wanted to have it done and dusted. Adding that I as a woman and mother myself should show respect and dignity to DSD and have decency to tell her about pregnancy.
I assume that she originally wanted to name me in divorce proceedings and divorce DO on grounds of adultery but filled in petition incorrectly and did not resend it as DP has already issued his petition. But why is she sending this to me now - it is 3 years on since they separated. We are going to have our second baby and she is doing this out of spite. Shall I report her for nuisance?

Why does she know your work email?

A tent makes more sense thecat as a garage would be too expensive!

Ahahahha! By Hyde park, do you mean you love with a 20 mile radius. 150k, lovely, but not that lovely dear.

😂 it was all going so well until £150k and living in Hyde Park with a nanny...

Oh I think you're probably right cat. Tent would explain the histrionics.

The sisterhood kicked you out for going after a married man. Your insistence that nothing sexual happened until he'd left not that I believe you does imply that he left her for you.

I would be pretty pissed if my husband had an affair, left me then divorced me on unreasonable behaviour. I think she's been quite fair and restrained if those are the circumstances.

^^and this. With fucking bells on.

Food for thought OP. A man pretty much never tells the OW that his marriage is fine and actually the issue in that marriage is that he's a cheat. 99 times out of 100, they say it's been bad for ages and their wife has done X, Y and Z, or poor me, give me sympathy and sex. The fact that you've never met her does make me think there's a whole other side to their marriage he'd rather you didn't know. He'll probably do the same to you and you wouldn't know a thing was wrong before you found out. He's got a great many baby making years ahead of him.

She's far more dignified than you are though. I reckon you'd be the type to go 'whacko', as you chose to word it.

Blatantly place marking.

Op, you were the ow what do you expect, honestly?

you can keep the mother of your step child off benefit by making sure your partner pays for his child, you certainly have nothing to boast about financially on 150k when you'll have 2 dc to support.
Your partner doesn't sound too great neither, letting you tell his child you are having a baby, this is disgusting and I think you need to know your place where his child is concerned.

I'm sorry I've not read the while kicking/thread - but yes, it's adultery because he was still married.

Come on, OP, chop, chop! Next update, please.

Londonrach - DSD was 11 months old when we met, not a new born baby. We are in rental in nice flat in W10...

I think the poster who said the mistresses are bored this weekend because the blokes they are shagging are playing happy families was spot on. Nasty trolls

How does £150k pa buy this?

www.rightmove.co.uk/property-for-sale/property-37144923.html

Harlesden is not Hyde Park

www.rightmove.co.uk/property-for-sale/property-55454552.html

OP rents!

So, OP, you live near Wormwood Scrubs Park? Very different to Hyde Park!

My mother always says that if everyone is telling you the same thing and you're the only one who disagrees, you're wrong.

You're wrong. it's not her, it's you.

Nothing you add here is going to make this thread turn out right for you.

Accept it, move on.

OP are you British?

You're wrong. It's not her, it's you.

^This

Dear OP. You seem a bit unpleasant on evidence thus far. In fact, every post just makes you seem a bit more unpleasant! In which case either:

(a) excellent trolling, and I do commend you! or

(b) if you are for real, you've behaved badly and continue to do so since you appear to have the self awareness of the average newt. (not sure why i picked newts; i think I just like how it sounds. it could equally be a woodlouse, or some some small amphibious or insect creature)

Moving to my constructive part of the post: please get some remedial grammar lessons. Most of your posts are word soup. Well done for having some amazing super awesome job. It is very lucky for you that it apparently does not involve communicating in writing.

DP lives worry free life, whereas with ExW he had to earn for his family when ExW saved her earnings for herself. DPs parents have no contact with ExW as well. This does speak volume as well

You really are a No 1 bitch aren't you? You're not content with shagging someone else's husband but you whine that the woman eventually tells you she knew you were? What else did you expect? My advice is keep what little dignity you have left, suck up her letter to you and thank your lucky stars she never named you in the first place. Your DP's ex has more dignity and class in her little finger than you have in your full body IMO. I have no time for OW. None. I have never been in the position that anyone has cheated on me and doubt I ever will be but saw the destruction it caused to my sister's life. You reap what you sow and your hysterics of "she works close to me" are simply dramatics of someone who is scared to look the woman in the face.

Yeah, you've taken this too far OP.

I assume English isn't your first language? And 150k pre-tax == Hyde Park residence and travel with 3DC...

Good luck. You'll need it.

Vertigo - we are renting nice flat in nice central neighbourhood. Our combined earning are above 200k. It works out better for us to rent as I have reimbursement thru my work (moved from US offices), we can afford nanny plus private education for DC in the future. DP does not have clear break from his ExW, we are worried that if we buy a property she might claim maintenance from us...so not buying property in the next 2-3 years as he is trying to sort out clean break now

Does she neglect her daughter and spend all the maintenance money on gin?

Cos if so that would almost complete my OW bingo card