to still be offended by this teacher?

[danieladarling]

Our children are half Brazilian and half Jamaican. My youngest DS2 is VERY fair but has light brown afro hair (not a big afro), a dusky tone to his skin and greeny blue eyes. He had a parent's evening last Thursday and my DH got there first. I was dropping off our older son at rugby and was a little bit late. When my DH arrived, he sat down at a chair with a sign that had our son's name on it. You know the typical parent's evening setup. After about a minute of sitting, one of the teachers came up and said to him "Hi, I think you're in the wrong chair. This is for 's parents. Maybe you should sit at your child's table instead." My DH then replied, "No, I am s dad". She laughed and said, "No, seriously you should probably move. When his parents come, they'll want to sit there". Again he explained that he was DS2's dad. She then walked away from him and came back with the headteacher! They both asked him to move away from the table and exit the school! [shocked] So he did. We arrived at the school (Me and DS2) and he was standing by the gates looking a bit upset. I asked him what he was doing there and we went inside. We then sat down at the table and began to listen to teachers talk about DS2. I wanted to give those women a piece of my mind but DS2 and my DH begged me not to. [embarrassed]I can tell that my DH is still upset about it. I'm thinking of lodging a complaint but I need my trusty mumsnetters to tell me whether I'm being a drama queen!
I'm the Brazilian parent, he's the Jamaican, if that wasn't clear.

[BlackeyedSusan]

the thing is if he did not leave, he would have been in trouble and more people would have jumped to the wrong conclusion, possibly not seeing past his skin colour.

yes it is racist. they jumped to conclusion about him based on his skin colour not matching your ds's. they really do not know much about genetics do they? or as someone pointed out, adoption, fostering, guardianship etc.

it is a complain to board of governors/lea as the head teacher was involved.

ps the children have their names on the tables in primary school at parents evening. not unusual.

[Ebony69]

Actually, Flogging, if this is an independent school it is probable that a child that age will have different subject teachers.

[antiqueroadhoe]

I wouldn't write. I would ask for an appointment with the headteacher.

[SalemSaberhagen]

I see OP hasn't been back...

[ExtraHotLatteToGo]

Gosh Salem, that's SUCH a surprise 🙃

[Tactfulcactus]

Pyjama party must have gone on late....

[WannaBe]

The one at fault here is the DH. This child is seven and he's never yet met their teachers? Clearly he has no interest in his child's education. The op should LTB.

[Imnotaslimjim]

WannaBe OP has already pointed out that

1. they're new to the area and this is DS's first PE at this school
   
   
2. It wasn't DS's regular teacher that DP had the altercation with, but one that takes him for reading so not very strange that parents haven't met her

[x2boys]

how would they deal with same sex parents?

[Cagliostro]

Disgusting :( YANBU

[Lunar1]

I'd insist that the teachers all had to do equality training. If the head came along and backed the teacher up then there bigotry may be quite prevalent in the school.

Dh and I would be stuffed, our mixed race children are halfway between us both in skin colour!

[IceMaiden73]

That is completely out of order, I would definitely complain

[ExAstris]

I'm wondering what the teacher said to the head - it seems odd that both of them would be such idiots. But perhaps if teacher said, "There's a man over there who's pretending to be xxxx's dad, but he isn't", the head might have assumed teacher actually had a real reason for knowing that (like knowing the 'real' dad in question) rather than making stupid assumptions.

[danieladarling]

It's not a school night. We've broken up for Easter. To those calling 'troll' I understand why. It's bloody horrific to think that something like that would happen in this day and age.

[Buzzardbird]

What have you decided to do then OP?

[danieladarling]

And, I went to sleep after my daughter's recital. It's at her music school and she doesn't attend Z's school. The teachers thought it would be a treat.

[danieladarling]

I am definitely writing a letter and complaining Buzzard. It's awful behaviour and I've discussed it with my DH who has agreed that he is upset at the way he's been treated. He's actually said that he doesn't want Z to stay in that school so we might be looking around again.

[danieladarling]

Could somebody inform me as to what Flogging has said?

[Janecc]

Yanbu. Teacher tried to block the door to dh when he tried to enter the classroom the first time he came for parents evening. She didn't recognise him and it was obviously self protection as she was in the class alone. She then saw me and apologised end of discussion. This is completely different and so rude.

[Floggingmolly]

Can you explain why you're only considering moving ds2 from the school, despite apparently having 3 children there? Seems very odd...

[danieladarling]

We're not only considering moving Z from that school. If we move Z from the school then we will move our daughters too.

[Floggingmolly]

So you have 4 children there??

[danieladarling]

Flogging I have no idea what you are talking about.
Our oldest son goes to a high school.
Our other three children, two girls and Z go to this school!

[Floggingmolly]

Ok. You said his brother takes him to school, I assumed he also went there.