to still be offended by this teacher?

[danieladarling]

Our children are half Brazilian and half Jamaican. My youngest DS2 is VERY fair but has light brown afro hair (not a big afro), a dusky tone to his skin and greeny blue eyes. He had a parent's evening last Thursday and my DH got there first. I was dropping off our older son at rugby and was a little bit late. When my DH arrived, he sat down at a chair with a sign that had our son's name on it. You know the typical parent's evening setup. After about a minute of sitting, one of the teachers came up and said to him "Hi, I think you're in the wrong chair. This is for 's parents. Maybe you should sit at your child's table instead." My DH then replied, "No, I am s dad". She laughed and said, "No, seriously you should probably move. When his parents come, they'll want to sit there". Again he explained that he was DS2's dad. She then walked away from him and came back with the headteacher! They both asked him to move away from the table and exit the school! [shocked] So he did. We arrived at the school (Me and DS2) and he was standing by the gates looking a bit upset. I asked him what he was doing there and we went inside. We then sat down at the table and began to listen to teachers talk about DS2. I wanted to give those women a piece of my mind but DS2 and my DH begged me not to. [embarrassed]I can tell that my DH is still upset about it. I'm thinking of lodging a complaint but I need my trusty mumsnetters to tell me whether I'm being a drama queen!
I'm the Brazilian parent, he's the Jamaican, if that wasn't clear.

[RubbleBubble00]

Firstly you need to calmly write a letter stating what happened and ask for a meeting with the school to discuss this. Then see what the response is before thinking about removing ds

[Bathsheba]

A late night recital and pyjama party on a school night......?????

[quencher]

Op met her husband at the school gate where he was waiting and they went back in.

I would definitely write a complaint. They should be glad this was not my dp.

[Buzzardbird]

I am so sorry that your family has been treated this way. I hope you get a satisfactory result from your complaint.

[Jelliebabe1]

Gosh Im white and my dad is Asian! Never ever was he (or would he have been) spoken to like that!

I'd have gone mad!

[Floggingmolly]

Is your DH going to the recital, op?

[Floggingmolly]

Yes, but he'd already been in, quencher. How else could he have been slung out?

[Tactfulcactus]

Those teachers are mad - they will be exhausted tomorrow after a recital at 10 pm followed by a pyjama party! I can't imagine how anyone got them to agree! How old is your daughter? Is it at the same school where you have had the parents evening?
I presume we are not talking state schools here.

[UptownFunk00]

It's ridiculous. Not only does your DS not have to look exactly like his Dad but also what about those with stepdads who are a different race? Ridiculous!

Gorgeous names by the way :)

[Buzzardbird]

Tomorrow could be a TTD? Schools break up today or tomorrow.

[juneybean]

Some schools broke up today...

[quencher]

Yes, but he'd already been in, quencher. How else could he have been slung out?

It was a response to the question asking how the op and her husband ended up back inside together. They had missed the part where she states that she meets her dh the gate where he explains what happens.

[KindDogsTail]

1, They presumed he couldn't be Z's dad which is wrong for all the reasons said.

1. They treated a guest at their school extremely rudely by not believing him, even after he said he was Z's dad, and asking him to leave.
   

1. They never apologised after they had behaved so badly. It should have been clear to them when you all came in that they had made a mistake.
   

Your husband does sound exceptional responding as he did in such a calm manner.

I think you should write to the school to formally complain on all counts. It does not matter that you have not done this straight away. You would have been shocked and confused no doubt and not wanting to act without thinking it all through.

[juneybean]

Some primary schools have job shares. It's not uncommon.

[ImNotThatGirl]

Are you in the UK?!

[Floggingmolly]

Op won't be back, she's at a pyjama party. At school . Let's hope her DH has had "I am Sparticus Z's Dad" tattooed on his forehead by now, or Lord knows what outrages are unfolding as we speak...

[SalemSaberhagen]

Wow, that was pretty quick work on my message MNHQ

[ColdTeaAgain]

[Chinesealan]

You need to complain to governors andlocal authority in writing. Describe the incident in detail. It's outrageous.

[UmbongoUnchained]

Definitely complain! My parents got all sorts growing up. My parents are black, and me and my brothers are Japanese. (Adopted).
This happened to them once, and after the ass kicking they got from my dad it never happened again.