To expect to XH to be prosecuted over the £80,000 he owes in child support?

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Bit of background. My XH has refused to pay child support for years. The CSA have been ineffective to say the least. There have been a couple of occasions whereby he has had some attachment to earnings made and payments have happened but not for years. I have given up my career as a teacher because I have a severely disabled child (and two others to care for) and have been her carer for years.He currently is self employed as a haulage driver.

The last conversation I had with the CSA (or whatever moniker they are currently using) I was told they couldn't find a firm address for him. I found one and passed it on but they said they needed absolute confirmation and they couldn't get it. I received a letter last week stating they had written to him to let him know he no longer had to pay child support but his arrears still stood. Seems they have an address after all.....

Having got my MP involved to no avail and written/contacted them numerous times AIBU to expect that he now be imprisoned for the years of what amounts to child neglect? He has refused to share the care let alone the financial burden.

AIBU to ask what this government is going to do to deal with this ongoing inequality towards women and children? I see no social justice.

Very disheartening Regular and disappointing too.

Thank-you for your support Betsy

Just a quick question - who in the public eye would be sympathetic to the cause and worth contacting -that is organisations or public figures?

Not a single parent myself, but believe that contributing to your children's upkeep should not be optional - and can't believe in this day and age that people can get away with it under such simple ways....

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Good Luck!

I wonder how many that refuse to sign would be first to report a lone mother to ss?

NRPs currently owe RPs and their children 4 billion pounds.

Yes, 4 billion pounds.

This can't be allowed to go on.

Let's move this on people.

www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/absent-parents-owe-4bn-overdue-7025101

This appears to be a low estimate too.

OP, have you dropped a line to the Mirror journo about your petition - and your case? What your ex owes is a big number and might be a strong human interest story. Media coverage is another way of getting political interest, too.

Good idea. www.mirror.co.uk/authors/mikey-smith/

I'm a single parent and I will happily sign a petition.

We received nothing for 9 years from the ex. The CSA did completely nothing this whole time. However, about a year ago the CSA sent me a couple of letters saying they could now do something. I doubted that this was true, as I don't know my ex's address or place of work it sounded unlikely given their past record. I rang them and they said they now had more powers to chase. I decided not to believe the CSA and instead used the letters as a mild threat with the ex. Luckily it worked and he now pays a token amount, which I'm quite glad about. But I'm still annoyed that we received nothing for over half of her childhood and still get very little and this could stop at any time.

I don't receive benefits. My work is very stressful and damaging to my health but I have to keep going. And nearly everything I earn is spent on my child, bills and childcare.

Child maintenance should be taken from pay in the same way tax is taken. The self-employed should be subject to lots of scrutiny from the tax man. And any father not paying 15 percent (I think this should be higher) should go to jail. Everyone should be outraged that this isn't happening now because children living in poverty affects everyone in society.

I've just signed it.

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Not a single parent but don't understand why more people aren't angry about this.

mobile.twitter.com/account

Here is everyone I have asked to support the petition.

Will definitely send him a message. Good idea

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Good luck OP.

Refusing to pay child support I'm sorry to have to tell you is not neglect (let me suggest you look up the true meaning of that). Your child is just that your child so you support him/her. I'm sick to death of reading about woman who are clearly bitter about their failed relationships going after their ex for every penny they've got. It's very sad.

You are very wrong Ange246. A child is the responsibility of both parents, not just the mother. The very least fathers can do is contribute financially.

I'm a single mum who isn't the slightest bit bitter about my relationship ending, I'm happy and thankful every day that it did.

Read different things.

"Your child is just that your child so you support him/her."

Exactly Ange That's kind of what this is about

Ange very lame effort
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I took at look at your twitter account. I suggest you re tweet each person and add the same # to them all. Try to get it trending. A suggestion #NRPPayUp or #EqualityForChildren ?
petition.parliament.uk/petitions/126895

Will try-thanks.

I've just signed it (199) - I'm not a parent but it makes me so mad that people can get away with not paying for their kids. It amazes me how this isn't more of a social stigma - I've even heard men people bragging about not paying their exes and they were surprised to be challenged on why they were being an arse.

Ange246 so you think only the resident parent should financially support their children?
I think you should look up the definition of child neglect

I smell a second wife.....

Your child is just that your child so you support him/her

My children have two parents. Only one of those children is supporting them. If demanding that an equal parent pays a way less than half a share in their upbringing makes me bitter then so be it.

I for one am sick to death of funding my ex's lifestyle and that of his many girlfriends through his neglect of his children.