To think my children would be better raised by me

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AIBU to think my children will be better off being raised by me, without a load of boyfriends, stepdads, and so on?

I feel it will be more stable for them to have one adult than someone who they don't even know living in their space?

Yes! Lets just answer people who agree with us!

That way we can continue to imagine that everything is sunshine and rainbows

How about we all do that and leave it on that note :)

If you don't understand sarcasm or hyperbole used to make a point op then MN won't be for you.

I've reported

Sometimes the children are better off with the father than the mother. I can think of at least two instances of that in my circle of friends. Do you think the father should be allowed to date?

No-one is judging you for not wanting to date/have a relationship/remarry. To be honest, the one who seems angriest about it is you.

Seriously, 14 pages of you calling me a troll and you've JUST reported?

Elegantly I honestly don't want to spend all day going round in circles but I'm afraid they are, everyone is different and my stance is I'd rather be a mother than a partner/wife, yes some people manage both but sometimes this is to the detriment of the children.

I'm confused - why won't you answer callidelta's questions? Have I missed something?

Call, honestly, what you don't seem to be understanding here is that I don't want to fight with you on here. You have made a few assumptions that aren't correct, that's okay, you don't live your life in a way I personally would and I'm sure how my life is would horrify you, too.

Since I am not a troll I am trying to wrap the thread up, but that's actually quite hard when people keep accusing you of trolling. I think sometimes relationships don't go ahead for all sorts of reasons and they don't always break down.

Ergh is this when OP turns around as says she doesn't even have any fucking kids it's just what "she would do if she did".
I honestly can't believe anyone with children would feel this way.

Maybe it is maybe it isn't but it would almost certainly keep a row going for another few pages which I don't really want. Take care call, I hope your DD didn't drag you out at stupid o clock last night after all :) my brother did that to me once I did it but very reluctantly! :)

So, the issue is that someone in real life is judging you for not having a boyfriend and you've come on here to be angry at us.

Most on here would happily accept that you don't always need a relationship. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes it may not be the right time.

My suggestion is that you make sure your kids get exposed to good relationships as that is important.

What is the relationship with their father? Do you and he co-parent well?

I'm not angry elegantly, I've tried to be very polite even when I am saying something the majority disagree with.

There's no justification for rudeness.

It's unfortunate you've interpreted my posts as passive aggressive as that's not the intention but I know whatever I say will be interpreted by you as wrong, hence why I'm not sharing anything personal with you.

To be fair, it does read like something a man would think when his ex has the nerve to move on.

OP - you really need to check your writing style. Lots and lots and lots of people are reacting to what comes across as angry, bitter and you being judgemental. AIBU is not a pink and fluffy place, but you can tone it down a bit.

I'm definitely female and most of my ire is aimed at men, in fact, I've said that a few times so I do think people are selectively reading a bit.

not really you came on here with an im right and you're not attitude nothing to do with being selective you're trying for peaceful and light your really not coming across that way

I don't understand why the post is even here. The OP clearly does not think she is being unreasonable and never did. She isn't looking for anyone to reinforce her world view to make her feel better about it because she isn't even engaging with the people offering support to her point of view. Are they even being acknowledged? Looks to me like she just wants the traffic for a fight.