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Mother's have it tough

324 replies

Zenab1 · 16/03/2016 22:13

Hello mothers, so I had an incident which left me humiliated and angry today. I went to Chatham House, a policy institution in central london to attend a talk that was happening there. When I get to the conference hall, I was told that I was not allowed to get in with my buggy in which my baby girl was peaceful sleeping. Their main excuse was, it's gonna block the way in case people need to evacuate for emergency. I said but this information is not communicated anywhere on your website and I even called to double check and the person I spoke to said you are mother friendly. Anyway, they insisted that I leave the building because they won't let me in. I got so emotional and told them that was unfair as I came from a long way and the whole thing seemed to me some kind of discrimination. They escorted me out and told me that I should complain if I like to by sending an email. I felt so humiliated and degraded. Do you think this was right ladies, it happening in this day and age and in one of the worlds developed countries, that a mum should be mistreated like this for simple being mum?

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Peaceandloveeveryone · 16/03/2016 22:38

I think this is a joke thread, I googled the venue and talk, there is no way you could take a child there. They do have a ramp for wheelchairs, it's detailed in the venue info.

Zenab1 · 16/03/2016 22:38

It was nothing to do with the buggy being H&S issue or the conference hall not being able to accommodate it because she kept saying you should have emailed us two weeks ago to let us know. How would I when the event was publicized only four days ago and I got my ticket a day before. I think they were just being difficult for no good reason

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Zenab1 · 16/03/2016 22:39

If they can accommodate a wheelchair then why would a buggy be a problem?

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PurpleDaisies · 16/03/2016 22:40

Wheelchairs and buggies are totally not comparable.

grannytomine · 16/03/2016 22:41

Oh dear, the trauma of taking your child out of the buggy. Sorry that made me laugh.

Sparklingbrook · 16/03/2016 22:42

If you feel that strongly then complain. Don't think you will get very far though.

hiddenhome2 · 16/03/2016 22:44

Babies belong at home in the bottom drawer. Everyone knows that.

Lurkedforever1 · 16/03/2016 22:45

Yabu and pfb. It's not up to everywhere and everyone to accommodate prams. If you can't possibly manage without a pram wherever you go, then it's up to you to confirm that wherever you go has space for them.

Yabu to equate a pram with a wheelchair.

Alasalas2 · 16/03/2016 22:45

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FarelyKnuts · 16/03/2016 22:47

Just to really up the ante, there's no apostrophe in mothers.
And I dint think you have a case for discrimination if you choose not to take the baby out of the buggy. The issue isn't you were refused entry with your child. You were refused entry with a buggy that would block a fire exit.

zaryiah · 16/03/2016 22:47

Nothing turns me off more than people who bleat on about buggies and discrimation. How wanky.

FarelyKnuts · 16/03/2016 22:48

*Don't

Peaceandloveeveryone · 16/03/2016 22:49

It just looks hard work if you have a child with you

Mother's have it tough
ilovesooty · 16/03/2016 22:53

Exactly what grounds do you think you have for alleging discrimination? You're being utterly ridiculous.

Zenab1 · 16/03/2016 22:55

Well since this is my first child, I thought the world was little bit more friendly to
Mothers and with all the women's rights rhetoric out there, I think I bought it but like some suggested, from now on l, we will just stick with parks and shopping malls and remain confined within the four walls of our little flat rest of the time.

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Sparklingbrook · 16/03/2016 22:56

Or get a sling?

PurpleDaisies · 16/03/2016 22:57

Or just take your baby out of the buggy?

FarelyKnuts · 16/03/2016 22:58

Or get a sling? Grin
Seems sensible to me

ilovesooty · 16/03/2016 22:59

Now you're just being melodramatic.

Sparklingbrook · 16/03/2016 22:59

I believe sling using has been renamed 'baby wearing' or something.

strawberrypenguin · 16/03/2016 22:59

Fire legislation trumps your right to take your buggy in. Why didn't you take your child out and fold the buggy? I get that it's a bit annoying but buggies can't go everywhere and you can't compare them to wheelchairs.

Zenab1 · 16/03/2016 23:00

And just to clarify, they didn't ask me to take the baby out of the buggy but I didn't suggest it either since she was asleep, but to be honest, I am sure they would not have let me even if I suggested.

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InvictusVersinium · 16/03/2016 23:00

Reality can be brutal.

Alasalas2 · 16/03/2016 23:02

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hiddenhome2 · 16/03/2016 23:03

Look hunny, I wasn't allowed into my eldest son's nativity once because I had a baby in a pram.

Life is tough. Get a sitter.