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Aibu to be annoyed when DD,(4) wets the bed...

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bedraggledmumoftwo · 16/03/2016 07:08

Given that I put her to bed in a nappy and she has taken it off!

Is this a thing? I decided she wasnt ready to be dry at night, so kept her in pull ups, but at 1am I was woken up again to change her wet bed /pjs, while her discarded nappy was dry as a bone.

Any ideas?

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CactusKate · 16/03/2016 07:10

Has she been to the Drs about it, Ive been told its due to lack of a certain hormone.
Sorry not much help, but Im sure my friend was given medication for her DD that worked straight away.

CactusKate · 16/03/2016 07:12

Its vasopressin.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/bedwetting/pages/causes.aspx

SanityClause · 16/03/2016 07:17

My DC were certainly not dry at night by this age, although I know many children are.

Is she at school? I remember that DD1 had some issues at school, as we had never made it an issue that she wore nappies at night, but some of her friends saw this as babyish and shameful. Could this be why she has taken it off? Or perhaps it is just uncomfortable?

A suggestion for the bed is to make up the bottom bit twice, so mattress protector, sheet, mattress protector, sheet. If she wets in the night, just take off the top sheet and mattress protector, and she will have a dry bed.

YANBU to be annoyed, but YABU to show her that, and to make a big thing out of it, I think.

Mari50 · 16/03/2016 07:20

I think it's fair enough to be a bit annoyed that the nappy was off but I think you have to keep that annoyance to yourself. Was it a nappy or pull ups? If the former maybe your DD doesn't like the bulk? My DD took ages to get dry at night (and very occasionally still wets the bed) , it's not something you can train as far as I'm aware as its hormone regulated.
I had to change the bed 3 times one night -who knows what was going on there- so I do sympathise!

TheFurryMenace · 16/03/2016 07:20

I know it's hard but please don't be cross with her, you will create a lot of anxiety around the dry at night issue. I wet the bed as a child for many years, and used to feel so bad when my mum would curse and moan about it. Children don't want to wet the bed or do it on purpose.

Look at the ERIC website for advice about causes and what you can do.

Gowgirl · 16/03/2016 07:22

My nearly three year old wets the bed most nights, I've just come to terms with the fact that I have to wash his bedding in the morning and will replace the mattress when he is clean. If they are fine during the day I can put up with wet sheets. It is a pita though!

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bedraggledmumoftwo · 16/03/2016 07:23

Thanks for the advice about double making the bed, I will try that. Part of my stress at 1am was that I couldn't find any spare sheets and ended up cobbling something together. If I thought she was ready to be dry at night and she bedwet I wouldn't mind, it's the fact that she deliberately takes her nappy off knowing she is going to wake up in a sea of urine!

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Musicaltheatremum · 16/03/2016 07:23

At 4 I wouldn't be giving vasopressin. It's ok to be wet at night at that age. But I would want her to keep the nappies on. Is she taking it off in her sleep?

Gowgirl · 16/03/2016 07:26

I bought half a dozen cheap sheets and keep them in his wardrobe, it's easier than groping in the airing cupboard at silly o clock....

Gowgirl · 16/03/2016 07:28

Mine also won't wear nappies or pull ups, I think it's because he sees them as baby things and in his head he's a big boy, he also has favourite pants. If he's anything like my eldest the bed wetting will slow and then stop naturally- just in time for no 3 to startGrin

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bedraggledmumoftwo · 16/03/2016 07:29

I've asked her and she says she takes it off at bedtime after I leave. The only reason is "Elsa's love to do that" which is her standard response at the moment. It was a nappy last night, which I switched to as she was pulling pull ups off and I thought it would be harder to remove. But apparently not!

To be clear I am not cross that she wets the bed, I am cross that she removed her nappy to do so!

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bedraggledmumoftwo · 16/03/2016 07:33

I am wondering about trying lifting, the only issue being that I go to bed about two-three hours after she does and her favourite time to wee seems to be 1am. I might give it a go anyway. At least I could make sure she has her pullup on at that point!

She is not quite 4, it's her birthday soon, so seemed more accurate than saying she was 3. She goes to a school nursery

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Gowgirl · 16/03/2016 07:37

It's pretty yuck but what about a potty in her room especially if you are going to try lifting

NoEscapeFromReality · 16/03/2016 07:39

Put her in a onesie back to front so zip is at the back. I bet she camt get that off!!

Spudlet · 16/03/2016 07:40

Reward chart for leaving her nappy on, maybe?

I don't know, I have all this ahead of me... Good luck, op!

HildaFlorence · 16/03/2016 07:42

We had this , I put ds back In onesies back to front which he couldn't take off , therefore he couldn't take the nappy off ! Once he got used to having the nappy on at night again he was fine!

gingercat02 · 16/03/2016 07:45

She's only 3 (nearly 4) DS was five before he was mainly dry at night. She probably takes the nappy/pull up off in her sleep. Does she wear pj's or a nightie? Pj's might help

sleepwhenidie · 16/03/2016 07:47

It's normal to take much longer to be dry at night than to be perfectly toilet trained in the day. Vasopressin certainly wouldn't be prescribed at 3 or 4 because there isn't anything 'wrong' or abnormal going on. This would be considered at 6+ IME.

Lifting isn't recommended as a way to speed up night dryness. Could you check on the pull up after DD is asleep and put it back on her if necessary? Mine were such heavy sleepers that this would have been fine.

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bedraggledmumoftwo · 16/03/2016 07:49

Might try the onesies, thanks.

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AlbertHerbertHawkins · 16/03/2016 07:51

I have a ten year old who still wets the bed every night 😐

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bedraggledmumoftwo · 16/03/2016 07:51

Lifting isn't recommended as a way to speed up night dryness

I wouldn't be trying to speed up night dryness, it would just be to preserve my nights sleep! Could certainly check her bum is on at my bedtime. Are you saying lifting is actually counter productive?

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Theambler · 16/03/2016 07:52

That's inspired Hilda Grin

Banked for future reference.

CeeceeBloomingdale · 16/03/2016 07:53

Has it only happened once? Have you told her if she wants to go without a nappy she needs to go to the toilet? My two both decided to ditch nappies at night despite not showing signs of being ready but after a couple of accidents were dry within a few days. It might be worth trying her after a bit if a talk

OhShutUpThomas · 16/03/2016 07:54

If she's removing her nappy whilst awake and knows that she is doing it, I'd make the bed wetting 'her' problem.

So, don't get cross. Don't have any emotion at all. But SHE gets the wet sheets off. SHE puts them in the machine. SHE finds new sheets. SHE cleans herself up etc. Make it as much of a faff for her as possible, and refuse to help. Don't be arsey about it, just a simple 'you are choosing to take your nappy off, so you need to deal with this.'

She'll soon get fed up with this.
I read it on here and it worked amazingly with my DS who decided he couldn't be arsed going to the toilet in the day any more after being potty trained over 6 months.

poocatcherchampion · 16/03/2016 07:54

I would def be having words about the nappy, probably with the tack that it must be horrid waking up in a wet bed.

Talk her into having it on and check or reapply when you go to bed.

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