Aibu to be annoyed when DD,(4) wets the bed...

[bedraggledmumoftwo]

Given that I put her to bed in a nappy and she has taken it off!

Is this a thing? I decided she wasnt ready to be dry at night, so kept her in pull ups, but at 1am I was woken up again to change her wet bed /pjs, while her discarded nappy was dry as a bone.

Any ideas?

[bedraggledmumoftwo]

Glad it's not early morning, actually, as she has always been an early riser and would never go back to sleep!

Have spoken to her and she said she takes it off after I go downstairs, so before sleep. The discarded nappies have always been dry as a bone so that makes sense. So I now need to either convince or force (onesies) her to keep it on. Or just accept that she wants to do this and hope she starts waking up and using the potty!

[Excited101]

Why don't you get her to put one back on about half an hour ish after going downstairs if that's after she's taken it off? You might find that the hassle of having to put it back on again stops it being such an interesting option.

[BeyondTellsEveryoneRealFacts]

Is it a big wee? I found my eldest moaned about pull ups being for babies but would wear a 'dry like me' type of pad. He was qute happy wearing pads when mummy does, and shes a grown up

[Bogeyface]

We have special "bed pants" that are just pull ups actually. DD is 4 and she is just about going through without wetting them now, so we are looking at getting rid over the Easter hols and seeing how she goes.

[Minisoksmakehardwork]

Does she drink a lot later in the afternoon/evening before bed? I think I've read that milk can make you go more, something to do with irritating an overactive bladder, and that when potty training at night, kids should drink less or cut out their bedtime milk. Certainly when mine have bedtime milk the pull-ups are heavier.

Water isn't considered as bad but still restrict volume close to bedtime as it's got to come out sooner or later.

[Jw35]

I'd put a plastic sheet on the bed (horrible as they are) and a pampers bed mat or similar. Take her to the toilet before you go to bed and see if it solves the problem. Lifting (if that's what it's called) didn't cause an issue with my dd (age 4) in fact it stopped her needing a pull up!

[RubbleBubble00]

inside with poppers much harder to take off. My dad resorted to duct tape once to stop nappy removal lol

[bedraggledmumoftwo]

OK, so I have decided to bite the bullet and let her go to bed with no nappy tonight. She went right before bed and I will take her again before I go to bed. Then fingers crossed and who knows. Have double made her bed plus one of those disposable mats so that it is quick and easy to change. And I won't be cross if I have instigated it, although obviously I'm hoping for a miracle.

I have been reading about training pants of the cloth with waterproof outside variety, that are supposed to let them feel when they have gone but without the bed actually getting wet. May invest in some, as I do think disposables just make them not notice they have been at all.

[Schwabischeweihnachtskanne]

How did it go bedraggled ?

Reducing fluid intakes to avoid going to the toilet/ wetting could be counterproductive. As bladder capacity is reduced urine gets more concentrated which can aggravate the lining of the bladder - so advice to stop children drinking for hours before bed should be taken with a pinch of salt!

I've never stopped or discouraged my kids from drinking in the evenings and mine have all been reliably night dry well before their 4th birthdays without much trouble at all despite one of them being late to be dry in the day at about 3.5 years old (in fact I encourage them to drink as much as possible at any time, including during the night, as my eldest had a spate of serious UTIs when she first started secondary school and stopped drinking enough in the day to avoid the toilets).

[bedraggledmumoftwo]

So I took her to the toilet at 930 ish and then went to bed. One wet bed at 3am which was quickly sorted, then she woke me up just before 7 to wipe her bum after a poo.

Think I will give it a few days and see whether it starts waking her up before it's too late....

[gastropod]

My younger DD used to do this. I ended up putting on her pull-up once she was asleep.

Older DD wasn't dry at night till the day before her 7th birthday. But she was OK with pull-ups (she'd only wear the Huggies Drynites ones though).

[olivesnutsandcheese]

DS is 3 and in a sleepingbag still but with a quilt over as well. He goes in arms first so it zips up at the back otherwise he'd be taking his pull up off too. A company called slumbersac or something make big ones : age 3-6 years and 6-10years I think.
Clearly when he is ready to be dry at night we'll need to rethink this but works at the mo

[LovelyFriend]

DD wet the bed regularly until about 6.5. It's a hormone thing.

She couldn't wear nappies beyond about 4 as they gave her a dreadful rash.

I layered up the bed with ikea waterproofs and sheets, and taught her how to take the wet layers off in the night. In the morning she would put any wet sheets/clothes into the machine.

This way it all became very matter of fact, no judgement or stress. No one felt bad about it, dd didn't develop a complex or bad feelings and it helped her to be able to manage it herself. I did a lot of washing- until she stopped and I didn't.

[Schwabischeweihnachtskanne]

bedraggled at least she went to the toilet in the morning... not too bad but not conclusive either way I guess, with one wet bed at 3am .

I'd do as you are doing and try a few more nights but go back to the pull up after the weekend if she is still wetting every night.

My DC1 was wet the first night and took a few months til she stopped wetting for good, but I'd initiated getting rid of night nappies rather than her doing it, as she'd been reliably clean/dry for over 18 months in the day. She was the one who took longest to night train and wet the bed a couple of times a week for several months - she also played me a bit towards the end of those few months as she liked a night time chat (she finally stopped wetting when I decided not to speak to her in the night while I changed her bed!) looking back I think I should have left it until she initiated going nappy free at night, but she was DC1...

When DC2 & 3 asked to give up night nappies (or rather in both cases told me they didn't wear them) they were dry the first night despite me not expecting them to be - I don't know if I'd have let them carry on otherwise, especially DC2 who was only 2.5 (DC2 never wet the bed at all, but did get up at 5am to take himself to the toilet for a while - he'd always been an early riser up before 6am anyway, but it was a bit earlier for a while - while DC3 had his first wet bed after probably a week or so of dry nights but didn't get up any earlier than previously).

Your DD has sort of initiated it by taking off her nappies, but I guess she falls between the parent initiated and child initiated night training camps so it must be tricky to decide what to do!

[pudcat]

What about dri night pyjama pants - you can get 3 different designs for girls.

[steppemum]

I know mn is very against lifting, but I lifted ds for about a year. He sleeps very soundly, and at that age slept 12 hours solid, and drinks a lot. His bladder was simply full, and because he sleeps soundly, he just didn't respond to any body signals waking him up.
On the days he drank less, he would wake about 6 am bursting for a wee, so he could do it when not so deeply asleep.
on the days he wet the bed, he was wetting it at about 5 am.

So, we lifted him, just to empty his bladder a bit and create room in it. It worked.

My friend's daughter took her nappy off all the time, she used a roll of packing tape over the tapes, and she couldn't undo that.

[bedraggledmumoftwo]

So last night I put her to bed with no nappy again, happy to give it a few days, but ten minutes later she shouted for me and said she did want a pullup. Hopefully now it is her choice she will keep it on!

[Schwabischeweihnachtskanne]

:o bedraggled wasn't expecting that - but if its her choice great, hope she keeps it on for you until she is ready to give it up properly!

[bedraggledmumoftwo]

She said no bum tonight initially when getting pjs on,but then changed her mind and asked for a pullup at the last minute again. Think she has tried it,(it being nappy free), not thought it was all it was made out to be, and isn't that fussed now that she knows she can do it if she wants to! As long as it means she keeps it on then I figure it is a result. My aim was never to force her to be dry at night before she was ready, I just didn't want to be up changing sheets that shouldn't have ever needed changing!