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AIBU to not give DD a pile of gifts for Easter?

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johalgh · 09/03/2016 13:19

DD is 7 and will receive an egg, an Easter cuddly and maybe a couple of Easter themed trinket type things if I see anything nice. But I know on Easter Sunday Facebook will be filled with photographs of piles of stuff that give Christmas a run for it's money. Am I being mean? It was a single egg in my day...

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Lopperlady1 · 09/03/2016 18:02

Goodness Easter presents? A chocolate egg is plenty. The other stuff in the shops is just a pile of tat that won't really interest her anyway. Anther chance for the shops to make you spend. Don't waste your money!

Shadow1986 · 09/03/2016 18:04

I didn't even get mine an egg last year as they get lots from other people...and its usually me who ends up eating them!
I do usually do them an egg hunt though. Definitely not presents!

Birdsgottafly · 09/03/2016 18:07

We, me and my DH (he died when my children were young), always celebrated Easter as a mini personal Christmas.

He was Catholic and it is a big deal, as religious festivals go. I can remember as a child in the 70's as it being the time of year that my Catholic peers got new clothes, there was no money for anything not practical, WC Liverpool. Kids got hand me down bikes and outdoor toys, though.

Our children were the type that were always ill over Christmas and neither of us could get time off work.

My DH was off for weeks, building trade and the weather was better.

Celebrate it how you want, I hate the excess none-fair-traded Easter eggs most children get, tbh. I'd rather buy a gift, or in the case of my GD, put money towards a Smart Trike.

MaryPoppinsPenguins · 09/03/2016 18:14

I make each of my DD's an Easter basket, a couple of eggs (the ones without packaging), a chocolate bunny and a soft toy, a rabbit or a lamb or something Easter-y from sainsburys! Then I'll add in a small something for them to play with, like a magiclip doll or similar.

I like doing it, I like that they will have this memory and I don't care if people judge me for it, there are bigger things to be concerned about in this world! Smile

phoenix1973 · 09/03/2016 18:17

We are usually away for Easter. However we usually give her an egg or a chocolate bunny. No presents. She also gets eggs from relatives, so doesn't go short.

WoodleyPixie · 09/03/2016 18:19

No presents here. Just eggs. I buy an assortment of small eggs creme egg size, Lindt paws etc and we use them for an egg hunt. They have about 7/8 each.

Mind you the boys are older teens now so last year it was just dd and the boys had theirs waiting in a bag downstairs.

Then my mum and dad, sister and brother buy them an egg each so enough chocolate to keep them going for a long time. As much as they like chocolate the eggs usually end up getting used for crispy cakes to use them up.

Lifewithasixyearold · 09/03/2016 18:22

we will do an easter egg hunt for some small eggs, our daughter has asked to not have eggs in return for a place on a holiday drama club... fine by me! less chocolate and more doing something she loves
definitely not presents and many big eggs, no no no! we dont need another Christmas competitive presenting please!

Deathclawswouldrunfrommykids · 09/03/2016 18:24

I don't even bother with eggs. 5 grandparents, 3 uncles and 3 aunts mean more chocolate than they can possibly eat anyway and I'm not voluntarily bringing more chocolate or tat into my house!

angielou123 · 09/03/2016 18:26

Easter has never been a big thing in our house. Few easter eggs from family members, but no presents or stuff like that. It's not xmas!

ohtheholidays · 09/03/2016 18:29

We always do an Easter Egg Hunt for all 5DC lots of little eggs and Easter themed sweets leading upto they're stash of Easter eggs.

I do buy them presents as well for Easter it's a very common thing to do where we live,I think nearly all if not all of our DC friends get presents as well and I know nearly all of my friends do the same for they're DC.

But OP don't ever do anything you don't want to do,we all parent differently and we all live differently no one should be judging anyone when it comes to what someone does or doesn't buy for they're child/children.

itsonlysubterfuge · 09/03/2016 18:31

I do an Easter basket and Easter Egg hunt with plastic eggs full of chocolate and toys. This is how I grew up though, so I pass on the traditions from my family. My daughter is so excited to find eggs. In fact she went on to tell us the other day "remember when I found my owl socks in Easter eggs, one sock was in one egg and then in another egg was another sock? that was my favorite Easter Egg." She is 3! Grin. I'm just as excited as she is. When we did it for her when she was one we just sort of laid eggs on surfaces, this year we will have to properly hide them.

aprilanne · 09/03/2016 19:04

my mum always bought me an egg and a summer outfit .i do the same for my sons /grandaughters .maybe a magazine thrown in but no not toys .the best bit about easter in the 70s was colouring my boiled egg and rolling it down our local grassy hill .until it cracked .dont see kids doing this now .

GlomOfNit · 09/03/2016 19:06

This gives me the massive Rage.

A few years ago, we started going to my PIL for Easter and it's become a fixture. Fair enough, they do other things at Christmas and they really look forward to seeing the DSs and their other GC at Easter. It's a big family get-together (throughout which I grind my teeth and try hard to bite my tongue, but that's another matter).

MIL surprised me massively the first time by heaping presents (we are talking 'big' presents here, like a large boxed playset) on the table for the children to come down to on Easter Sunday. I'd already offered to do the Bunny stuff (and I still do, but I do check to see if she'd rather do it). In addition to a 'big' present for each child, there were smaller things (like soft toys and bunny ears) and a large egg and a large chocolate figure per child. It has continued in that way ever since. Hmm I checked with DH - no, he and his sister never ever got presents at Easter, just an egg.

So we now have this sodding expectation built into Easter whereby the children know they're going to be given fairly substantial things (the size of the presents has decreased since the first time, as apparently my MIL was feeling her age and felt she wanted to do something big) alongside the half dozen eggs they will accrue from GPs, parents, uncles and aunts, etc.

It makes me really sad. Easter was never an occasion for big gift-giving, surely? An egg hunt in the garden and the massive stash of chocolate is enough.

Agadooo · 09/03/2016 19:12

My 2 get one egg each from us and one egg each from grandparents and aunt gets them both1 book each instead. We'll go on a local Easter egg hunt aswell x

RabbitSaysWoof · 09/03/2016 19:21

I used to love easter and really look forward to getting chocolate eggs, I think it's a bit sad now they are a quid each and kids get given them as normal chocolate. I've not bought my ds an egg yet this year, but he has already had two from other people, and they didn't intend for him to put them by, they were for that day.
I'm starting a tradition to have a nice day out on easter weekend, mostly we do low key things during the year, so last year I took ds to a Pier fun fair, this year I have something booked I'm telling him it's what we are doing for easter.

CaptainCrunch · 09/03/2016 19:23

When did Easter become such a massive deal? I get that it's a very important date in the Christian calendar (humanist here) but when I was younger, no one was even off work (Scotland) on Good Friday or Easter Monday. We did hard boiled eggs, painted them and rolled them down a hill. I don't remember getting chocolate at all.

My DC think I'm a total grinch for ignoring it. I occasionally buy them a bar of chocolate at Easter but that's it. I'm befuddled by overhearing conversations where people are talking about "getting X, Y and Z for DD/DS Easter". Load of nonsense, it really is.

(Thankful for the holidays though, lol).

notonyurjellybellynelly · 09/03/2016 19:25

the best bit about easter in the 70s was colouring my boiled egg and rolling it down our local grassy hill

Smile Smile

I loved Easter when I was a little girl growing up in the 60's

Trollicking · 09/03/2016 19:29

Mine have always had an Easter egg hunt with sweeties and an egg to find. I've never known anyone give presents.

They are all at uni easily now but we still had an Easter egg hunt. Hmm They do the Easter Egg hunt in an 'ironic' way. Wink.

Iggypoppie · 09/03/2016 19:29

I know a woman who posts on Facebook the following:

Massive haul on xmas morning for her dds
Massive haul on Valentine's day morning
Massive haul on Halloween morning
Massive haul on both their birthdays

So basically it's like Xmas every two months on average. I'm have unfriended her now as didn't want to get sucked into thinking that sort of crap is normal now.

PixieChops · 09/03/2016 19:45

I was dairy intolerant when I was a child and eating chocolate would give me an asthma attack. So I did get a toy or a book instead of an egg. I was happy with that but was still pretty envious of everyone stuffing their faces with chocolate.
Luckily I grew out of it and devour chocolate like its going out of fashion!

WeveGotAHomelessLove · 09/03/2016 19:48

Me (24) and my sister (18) still get easter stuff off my DM Blush

We get a big egg and £50 to spend on clothes or trainers.

justwondering72 · 09/03/2016 19:48

Maybe it's a generational thing. It wouldn't occur to me to give gifts at Easter, but MIL always buys the children pyjamas or underwear. No idea what the association is.

Muskateersmummy · 09/03/2016 19:49

Dd will get a colouring book from me and dh. I would just do an egg but i know she'll get those from relatives and I would feel a bit mean not getting anything at all.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 09/03/2016 20:00

I had a skateboard for Easter when I was ten (35 years ago) so presents were a thing then, but only my nan bought eggs.

I didn't get much in between though as my folks couldn't afford it. I think they preferred to spend the money on something useable rather than a tiny bit of chocolate at an extortionate price!

I don't get anything now except my mum decided to get me an iPad on the spur of the moment a couple of years ago!

we didn't do any of the egg hunts etc - I was an only child and would have hated the competitive element 😁