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Original poster

To consider locking him out

56 replies

saraah2354 · 05/03/2016 23:57

DP went out at 7, on the agreement he wouldn't be out long. At 11.15 he told he was on the way home but now his phone is ringing out, means no service so he's obviously still in a pub with no service.
I have been awake with our son for the last two hours because he just won't sleep
AIBU to want to lock the door, he has no key on him Grin why are men such selfish gits

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molyholy · 06/03/2016 00:00

Not worth locking him out. You will only have to get up to let him in. Yanbu though

Birdsgottafly · 06/03/2016 00:00

I've never understood the no key, thing, tbh.

We always had somewhere to leave a key, so the other one wasn't disturbed.

Hairyfairy01 · 06/03/2016 00:01

If he had no signal it wouldn't ring out, it would go straight to voicemail. Is this a regular thing? Why isn't he 'allowed' out for long?

Fatmomma99 · 06/03/2016 00:02

YANBU.

You will, of course, be sleeping in tomorrow morning (it being mother's day and all) and he will be up with your DC, hangover and all.

THAT is something you can stand firm on.

If you lock him out, he'll just wake you up when he comes home.

Do you have a spare room you can go and sleep in so he doesn't disturb you when he comes in?

Vintage45 · 06/03/2016 00:02

I wouldn't lock him out. I'd book a night with the girls, fair's fair.

AgentZigzag · 06/03/2016 00:02

He's only three quarters of an hour later than he said he'd be!

Is there something he has to get back to?

If there isn't and there's no background stuff (always off out leaving you to sort stuff, is a wanker when he gets back etc) YABU a bit.

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saraah2354 · 06/03/2016 00:02

Well it says not possible to connect your call, he is aloud out but he was out last weekend both Friday and Saturday night and the weekend before.
Can't remember the last time I had a night out. Didn't want him going out as mothers day means I'll be the one attending to our child all day instea of a nice lie in which I never get either

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saraah2354 · 06/03/2016 00:05

I know he's only a few minutes later than what h said he would be but in all honesty he will stay in the pub until closing and won't think twice of nipping outside and sending a quick text

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MadamDeathstare · 06/03/2016 00:05

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Vintage45 · 06/03/2016 00:06

Why don't you have some free time too then OP?

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saraah2354 · 06/03/2016 00:08

This is the first time I've ever thought of locking him out. I kinda want to, to teach him to not be so ridiclous Grin I can only pressume he didn't take a key as he didn't think he would be long

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AgentZigzag · 06/03/2016 00:10

If it's a regular thing he'll be thinking you know what time he normally gets back so why send a text?

Are there still places where your phone doesn't work? Or do you think he's actually turned it off?

Vintage45 · 06/03/2016 00:11

Instead of being a martyr you'd be better off arranging a few nights out yourself so things are even. I personally don't like to be told when to come home if I'm out.

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saraah2354 · 06/03/2016 00:14

I'm not telling him when he come home. He told me he was on the way well over an hour ago and clearly lied. He has been out the previous two weekends so I don't think it's unreasonable to be home earlyish especially when our child is seemingly unwell

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DelphiniumBlue · 06/03/2016 00:15

Will you be very deeply asleep when he gets back? I would be. Think my phone would be off too.

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saraah2354 · 06/03/2016 00:16

What makes it even more sad is he's not even with any friends he's out on his own

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Vintage45 · 06/03/2016 00:16

Why does he go out so often and you don't?

Lottie2611 · 06/03/2016 00:20

Out on his own at this time of night? Weird..... Forget locking him out Id be off to the pub to see what he was up to. I'm crazy though Grin

Flashbangandgone · 06/03/2016 00:21

What makes it even more sad is he's not even with any friends he's out on his own

Now I quite like my own company, but that does seem odd

7Days · 06/03/2016 00:22

He probably fell in with people and had another pint. That in itself is no jarm. But if you don't get equal time to yourself, wuth a bit of leeway like he gets then yeah, you are right to be pissed off

AgentZigzag · 06/03/2016 00:30

I don't want to suggest things that aren't there, but out completely on his own for 5 hours and now his phone's not working? (presume it was OK if he told you he'd be back an hour ago).

That doesn't sound right.

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saraah2354 · 06/03/2016 00:38

Pretty sure he isn't with anyone as he said nobody will be out. He just wanted to go out. I guess I'm just annoyed that I've been left to do it all once again, and the longer he stays out the more drunk he will be so the less he will be able to do anything tomorrow
I'm already bunked into our son's room, as he's not sleeping it was easier than running through the rooms half the night
His phone is still saying not possible to connect your call Angry

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Lottie2611 · 06/03/2016 00:41

It's now twenty to one, he's taking the piss

Friendlystories · 06/03/2016 00:47

I would really question why he even wants to go out if he's not going to socialise with friends tbh. At the very least I would be a bit insulted that he would rather drink alone or with strangers than spend time at home with you and his child.

BreatheandFlyAway · 06/03/2016 00:48

How about this text:

Hi, do not come back. It’s over. Yay! Thank God!