To consider locking him out

[saraah2354]

DP went out at 7, on the agreement he wouldn't be out long. At 11.15 he told he was on the way home but now his phone is ringing out, means no service so he's obviously still in a pub with no service.
I have been awake with our son for the last two hours because he just won't sleep
AIBU to want to lock the door, he has no key on him why are men such selfish gits

Happy Mothering Sunday,saraah. and for later. Mx.

OP you are not surprised by any of this. You know what he is like. You have accepted that because you chose to be in a relationship with him.

Do you feel that it might be time to review your expectations or do you want to carry on like this?

Agree Kitty.

Yes, he's an adult and is allowed to make his own decisions re going out etc without needing permission from his partner- BUT he is in a relationship and has a child. So when he makes a decision to go out, if he is a fair and responsible partner and father, he must be considerate of the needs/plans of his partner, any plans they have made together and so on. If you say you're going to be out for a few hours, then change your mind it is common courtesy to at least let your partner know. And to take into consideration the impact on others if your decision to stay out later- e.g. OP and partner had planned to take their mothers out. Now he is so hungover OP is going to have to run around getting everything sorted and he may be too unwell to keep the arrangements he had made. Which is pretty rubbish behaviour IMHO. The fact OP could act in the same selfish and thoughtless manner doesn't really make it any better, does it?

As a once off, I'd be annoyed and not particularly sympathetic, but I wouldn't make too much of a fuss other than letting it be known that I wasn't particularly impressed. If it happened repeatedly, that would be a different matter.

If you just do whatever you want, no matter what the impact on others, it is selfish and unkind. It makes you a pretty crap partner- except it isn't a partnership if you just do whatever you want because "I'm an adult and I'm entitled to make my own decisions".

What a tosser.

Happy Mothering Sunday OP.

My ex used to do this, one of the reasons I left him.