to be in love with a 16 year old

[swordandsparrow]

Im 23 with one child whos nearly 2.
He is 16, nearly 17 but has a proper baby face and could easily pass for 13 if he wasnt so tall.
We met at college where I study as a mature student.
Am i wrong to pursue this relationship, i really like him and we get on great but my friend at college says its wrong and i am too old for him

I will just throw in that a 16 year old can get married in Scotland.
Well in Japan the age of consent is 13..... In Italy 14.... I think in general, the subject of the rights and wrongs of teenagers and sex brings emotion and confusion in equal measure!

Throwing something in means putting it up for discussion. No need for the humphy face

The Scottish stuff was brought up pages ago. I asked if the OP was Scottish then.

Post by peggyundercrackers 13.42 yesterday.

The chances it is a good idea are extremely low, imo. The chances of someone who is physically attracted to someone else really wanting to convince themselves it's a good idea are far higher. Some relationships just should not be pursued.

Fanjo. Sorry.

Well oh my gosh I repeated it. My bad.

It's ok flashbang.

I just thought it was an interesting point is all. I just meant I wasn't saying it since I thought OP and the guy should get married or anything :).

As the college you are attending takes mature students, why do you not seek their company and extend your friendship circle with them?
You'd find that these students have very mixed life experiences that you'll gain from. There are probably young single parents like yourself wanting to gain qualification/career for their futures. Spending time with them will provide you with a support network and friends of your own age. You'll soon discover there is a potential future for you that doesn't involve an emmotionally complicated relationship with a young adult.
Ask yourself why you are attracted to someone so young and also what relationship you think you deserve? Why are you not seeking out a more equal relationship?

He is nearly 17 tho looks young

Wait till he is 18 before doing anything even kissing as that leads to stuff

Once he is out of education and an adult you will be 25

If you both have strong feelings then they will still be there in a years time

If you both meet someone else in that time then wasn't meant to be

Age gap is a lot at the moment but won't seem so bad if he is 20 And you 27

Is he really ready to be a step dad ?

I didn't actively seek him out because he was young .
I wasn't actively seeking out anybody to have a relationship with .
Im not attracted to young people as a rule , my last relationship was with someone around my age

I have I my read some of the 18 pages, so this may be old news but...

Strike me that it's the 23 year old saying she's "in love" with someone she's not even with, is potentially the one too immature to date

When I was 15/16 I went out with a guy who was 24. He lied to me about his age for a start, said he was 19. He was too old for me and wanted completely different things. It ended very badly and he stalked me on and off for almost 10 years. I think the age gap is too wide at your stage of life. In your 30s it wouldn't make so much difference.

Look. You know this one isn't about age gaps don't you?

You do know a 90 year old and an 83 year old can have a relationship and be fine with those 7 years gap

A 50 year old and a 43 yr old too

A 30 year old and a 23 year old too

But a child and an adult? No.

I think it's creepy.

Out of interest sword, what is the course you are doing? It may, or may not, give a better idea of his maturity.

or I'm just nosy!

business and finance

To all the people who say "you are not in love with him because you are not together/you don't know him)

Please can you make it clear to me, how exactly do YOU fall in love?

AKiss
How exactly would you know that I don't love him ?
Who are you to say I don't even know him ?

Just because I may not articulate myself very well or am as eloquent as other posters doesn't make me 12, how rude

And icing by actually knowing someone?!

Infatuation is what the op is suffering from. You can easily be infatuated with someone you haven't even spoken to and know nothing about.

Love is about knowing that person. Their likes, their dislikes, what they are like when they are having a bad day, what their sense of humour is like, the list goes on. I honestly don't believe that you can properly love anyone that you haven't spent a reasonable amount of time with.

Infatuation can move into love given time, but I do think they are different things.

Business and finance, does that mean he's likely to go on to university then? I would have thought so. I wouldn't imagine a relationship would last between a young guy at uni and an older woman with a kid at home.

Really