Shoes off house rule

[BettyBi0]

So we have a shoes off rule in our house. Mainly because of the grubby London streets and dog poo everywhere locally plus a floor licking toddler.

Every time my parents visit I have to ask them to take their shoes off. EVERY Fing TIME! They act like its such a massive imposition.

AIBU or would you just shut up and put up?

People really have indoor shoes for the office!

Umm yes, normal where I work. Saves you paddling mud and cow shit from our sites all over the floor.

Why would you have cold feet with your shoes off?

If it was warm enough for that I'd probably find it too hot. I prefer the slightly cooler temperature which is a bit fresher, and that works well with shoes on.

I really don't enjoy seeing other people's socks, expecially strange men's!

I am quite amused by the people who are fine with the idea of shoes in a house, but think that socks are somehow obscene. They're just a piece of clothing and aren't really any different from any other bits of clothing. although trying right now not to think about the foot fetish thread that was on here

But equally Jessie people are accusing shoes off people of not considering their guests comfort.

A guest might feel more comfortable taking off their shoes.

You find socks gross, I find shoes gross.

Different strokes for different folks.

I have friends who culturally would find it highly offensive if you went in with your shoes on. They are as much entitled to their beliefs as you are to find shoes off too informal.

My dh has indoor shoes for work and shoes for his van. He has to or all the employees would literally be treading shit everywhere.

In your opinion Gabilan. In my opinion, seeing someone's socks out of there shoes is quite an intimate thing. In polite society strangers do not go around in their stockinged feet. I therefore find it over-intimate to have a (for example) estate agent wandering around my house in his socks.

Funnily enough I don't mind seeing bare feet as these are visible in summer in flip flops etc and acceptable at the swimming pool and beach. But I still woudl not like s stranger's bare feet on my floors.

I am quite amused by the people who are fine with the idea of shoes in a house, but think that socks are somehow obscene.

Unfragrant socks are more likely than unfragrant shoes.

pyjamadrama I have never said that "shoes off" people are not entitled to their beliefs. But why should their beliefs trump mine in my house, particularly if they are not a guest?

Equally, I always take my shoes off in others' homes when asked to do so, and do not complain. But it would not occur to me to do so automatically, unless I knew the household had shoes off cultural beliefs, because the parctice is so outside my norm.

Unfragrant socks are more likely than unfragrant shoes.

Agreed biscuit .

Awkward for both sock wearer and homeowner.

I find this thread very odd. I have genuinely never been in a house where everyone doesn't take their shoes off, equally I have never asked guests to take their shoes off, they always do automatically.

I have always found that workmen put those CSI type shoe covers on without asking too....

I can only recall being in one shoes off house in my whole life!

We are 'shoes off'ourselves and the colony of shoes near the door often gives visitors a clue to this and they then remove their shoes. However, if they don't,I don't heavy handedly enforce the policy ( though would certainly ask very close relatives such as DPs). In other people's houses, I ask what they'd prefer.

I've only been asked about twice to remove my shoes.

I do take them off at home, but not always and it's not the first thing I do. It depends on how comfy the shoes are.

At work today there was a sign asking work men to remove their boots before going into the offices.

Made me chuckle

I've been asked to take my shoes off, I think the worst was being asked not to sit on the sofa because of the buttons on my jeans. Also not being allowed drinks and biscuits in the living room! How do people feel about that?

Easy solution, don't have carpets downstairs and then floor can be easily mopped and disinfected if necessary.

I find this thread very odd. I have genuinely never been in a house where everyone doesn't take their shoes off, equally I have never asked guests to take their shoes off, they always do automatically.

I find this thread very odd too for the exact opposite reason! I have never been asked to take my shoes off, ever, in anyone's house I have been in and I go to lots of houses! (of course if the weather was bad, it was muddy, I know my shoes are dirty etc I would not hesitate to remove my shoes).

I say never, but we once stayed at an Air bnb and the owner said no shoes as we were walking up the path. Fair enough, she has paying guests staying in her home, but she made us take off our shoes outside and not even on the huge fitted doormat so I was hopping around on the path in my socks!

Er as a trained district nurse I always took my shoes off.

Yes thought it through thanks.

I don't think you did.

Crunchy

How a class thing?

I do love this thread though it's so polarised.

I don't tear the shoes off my guests but feel it's very rude to not even offer to remove them.

I make kids take off though as they love mud and crap.

I have oak flooring and dogs. It would seem hypocritical to ask visitors to remove their shoes for fear of treading invisible dog shit into my nice flooring when two far more likely culprits are strutting about the joint with impunity.

I can see how this may make shoes-off people reluctant to enter my house in the first place.

mitzy

This could become a pantomime

Oh yes I did.

Saying 'It's so fucking rude to wear your shoes in someone else's house' isn't a very sensible statement when several people have said they'd find it rude if you automatically took your shoes off.

'It's rude not to go along with the rules of the house you find yourself in' seems wiser.

Hopefully you get it now.

Gosh Mitzy you are a clever clogs arnt you.

Do you correct spelling too?

There's a thread where the ops dh doesn't allow farting in his new car.

Jolly good.