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Baby gender reveal party!

162 replies

Flashbangandgone · 02/03/2016 14:31

Firstly, it should be 'sex' not 'gender', but that's not my issue.

Maybe I've lived in a bubble the past few years, but I've only just realized these existed. For those of ignorant ones like me, this is where a sonographer doesn't share the sex of the unborn child with the parents, but sends it off to a baker, who then makes a cake either with blue or pink sponge, covered with icing. It may get sent to a balloon supplier too who blows up a load of pink or blue balloons depending on the result.

So, the parents or parent, hosts a party at which guests are invited to share in the drama of finding out the baby-to-be's sex.... The cake is cut into and the assembled throng whoop and cheer as the sex is revealed, with many congratulations given.... The couple would then let loose the balloons (hitherto encased in some kind of sack to keep the suspense), gazing open mouthed in wonder as the news of their foetus' sex is carried off to the world on the four winds, providing an Instagram-tastic opportunity.....

AIBU to think this is kind of party is the height of a toe-curling, self-indulgent pretention that I hope never catches on (though I believe it already has the in the States).... or am I just being a grumpy, fun-hating grouch.

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SummerHouse · 02/03/2016 14:34

I am off to get me a job in a cake shop. Here I will take requests and churn out purple cakes in the shape of snake babies.

Donnadoon · 02/03/2016 14:34

Ergh YANBU

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 02/03/2016 14:35

Sounds like a fucking nightmare.

And what if the baker makes a mistake? That's a lot of pressure. Or forgets and rocks up with a plain sponge so mummy and daddy to be and the guests are left standing there with Confused faces.

And do sonagraphers really go along with this fuckery?

weegiemum · 02/03/2016 14:36

Seriously, is this real?

KERALA1 · 02/03/2016 14:36

I would love to attend one of these - should be amazing in a car crash sort of way. Hope they catch on!

Sad fact is no one bar the couple possibly gps remotely interested. Remember a work colleague making a big deal about revealing the sex, cringe making.

TheGreatSnafu · 02/03/2016 14:37

YANBU. My FB feed has had photos of a few of these parties (all in the US) and they are so cringey.

KoalaDownUnder · 02/03/2016 14:37

Twee, attention-seeking bollocks.

UsedtobeFeckless · 02/03/2016 14:38

People who release helium balloons are half-witted wonks - never mind the rest of it!

nevertakeyouriphoneinthebath · 02/03/2016 14:38

YA DEFINITELY NBU.

Fucking awful load of old nonsense.

FigMango1 · 02/03/2016 14:38

Wow is this actually a thing Shock

PaulAnkaTheDog · 02/03/2016 14:39

I heard about these. Makes me cringe. So much.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 02/03/2016 14:39

Along with cake smashes. What is it with babies and all the cake shit?!

nevertakeyouriphoneinthebath · 02/03/2016 14:39

Stop press! It's going to be a baby! And it's highly likely to be either a boy or a girl. End of story.

I imagine actually having the baby must be the most enormous anticlimax for almost everyone these days.

SleepyBoBo · 02/03/2016 14:39

Can't stand the idea. Seems to be hosted by some terribly self-obsessed people who seem to think anyone outside immediate family give a shiny shit what kind of pee hole your kid is going to have. Unfortunately, seen a few variations of this going around Facebook, so it does seem to be catching on.

squoosh · 02/03/2016 14:40

I've only ever seen mention of this on the internet so in my mind it's on a par with Yetis and unicorns. Doesn't exist until I've seen it in real life.

See also: Flash mob proposals

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 02/03/2016 14:40

Jeeesu Christi in Asda. All a bit OTT. I can only be either a boy or girl.
FFS. Pregnant women are fussed over at the pregnancy announcement, The baby shower, the birth and now they want to invent a gender reveal party.
YNBU.

PiperChapstick · 02/03/2016 14:41

My friend invited me to this. I didn't go as i can't feign excitement for other people's news that way. I'm like Miranda on SATC Grin. Also it sounds soooo boring.

I mean, is nothing sacred anymore? Can't two people just be excited about their news without expecting their friends and family to give a shit. I actually find it borderline rude that they expect people to care so much!

TheLeprechaunDidIt · 02/03/2016 14:42

We did this. It was beautiful. Our friends and family got to bond with our unborn baby in a very profound way which they'll never forget.

WhiskyTangoFoxtrot · 02/03/2016 14:44

I have heard of them, but only by reading about them online. I don't know anyone who's had one or been to one (not even the most tenuous friend of a friend of a friend).

I do think they sound pretty dire. And I thought that balloon releases had been consigned to history (where they belong).

Oooblimey · 02/03/2016 14:44

I think it's weird, I mean, I assume as a guest (who probably wouldn't give a toss what the result is) you would be expected to be "thrilled" whatever the result? My sense of humour is a bit dark, I would love to go to one where all the guest upon the reveal were like "Oh No that's awful! My deepest sympathy!!" lol!

PiperChapstick · 02/03/2016 14:44
squoosh · 02/03/2016 14:45

'Our friends and family got to bond with our unborn baby in a very profound way which they'll never forget.'

Baby gender reveal party!
KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 02/03/2016 14:46

Do you have to take a present? Assuming a receipt too in case you guessed wrong and bought pink booties when they need blue ones.

Is there a list? A poem?

DontCareHowIWantItNow · 02/03/2016 14:47

**

I hope so Shock

NoncommittalToSparkleMotion · 02/03/2016 14:47

Friends of mine asked the sonographer to write the sex down on a piece of paper for this kind of thing and apparently didn't comply with their request.

Sure, exciting to learn the sex if you want, but I can't imagine anyone saying, "They're having a girl, and there was absolutely no pageantry in their announcement Sad"

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