Baby gender reveal party!

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Firstly, it should be 'sex' not 'gender', but that's not my issue.

Maybe I've lived in a bubble the past few years, but I've only just realized these existed. For those of ignorant ones like me, this is where a sonographer doesn't share the sex of the unborn child with the parents, but sends it off to a baker, who then makes a cake either with blue or pink sponge, covered with icing. It may get sent to a balloon supplier too who blows up a load of pink or blue balloons depending on the result.

So, the parents or parent, hosts a party at which guests are invited to share in the drama of finding out the baby-to-be's sex.... The cake is cut into and the assembled throng whoop and cheer as the sex is revealed, with many congratulations given.... The couple would then let loose the balloons (hitherto encased in some kind of sack to keep the suspense), gazing open mouthed in wonder as the news of their foetus' sex is carried off to the world on the four winds, providing an Instagram-tastic opportunity.....

AIBU to think this is kind of party is the height of a toe-curling, self-indulgent pretention that I hope never catches on (though I believe it already has the in the States).... or am I just being a grumpy, fun-hating grouch.

Your children will be going to them regularly in 20 years. You're just getting old my mum thinks engagement parties are self obsessed, ha ha

I think it's nice to know the sex of your baby but can't see the big deal. Read a status recently along the lines of 'Know who my friends are now! Not even had a congratulations for the fact the baby is a girl! Well you can sod ever meeting her'

Ok

"I thought "Team Green" were people who weren't finding out sex?"

Nah - it's hyperemesis sufferers, with bumps nicknamed Chunderella.

If I was a baker or a balloon person there would be no colour but simple bold writing saying 'You are cunts'

I actually laughed so hard I spat my water out at that.

But YA-absolutely-NBU OP. This level of self-obsessed shit makes my skin crawl. Outside of close family it's deeply unlikely most people care about the sex of another couple's baby. MIL wanted to throw me a baby shower when I was pregnant but I said no. I am not a 'cucumber sandwiches and cutesy games' type. I did say I'd go out for a curry though, as I was massively craving spicy food, but no-one seemed up for that.

What new level of self obsessed hell is this? If I were the baker i'd probably ice something rather rude too.

Yuk, how awful. I thought the pretentious ways of announcing a pregnancy were getting out of hand but that's even worse.

It's not like having a baby is a new thing and unique, many seem to think it is though.

It's not like having a baby is a new thing and unique

But let's never let an opportunity for re-branding the human condition pass us by, eh?

I don't like it simply because I don't give a fuck what sex anyone's baby is.

I just don't care, so it sounds like the crappest most underwhelming party ever.

So you bring gifts to this party? And I'm guessing the sort of person who throws one would also have a baby shower? So more gifts. And expect a gift after the baby is born? YANBU OP, it's grabby!

I know mersey it's not like waiting for the voting on Eurovision is it? I mean I know the UK will never, ever win again but at least we can't narrow it down beyond that it will be one of about 35 new Eastern European countries we've barely heard of, so there will be a surprise of sorts at the end of it.

reminds me of the Charles Addams cartoon: 'Congratulations! It's a baby!'
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It's not my idea of a good time, no, but I assume they are not compulsory! People should just do what they want to do, and others can vote with their feet. YANBU to dislike the idea of attending or hosting one of these parties though.

And these aren't any old parties... Judging by comments on here and a quick internet trawl, they seem to rival weddings.... The boy/girl theme saturates every conceivable part of the event with themed party games, food, decorations, activities, clothes.... So much so that it's not uncommon it seems for a professional party planner to be needed to run the show!

And also, what's actually being 'celebrated' here? Unless there's a preference for one or other sex (which doesn't seem to the case - no suggestion that the parties turn into wakes as the 'wrong' colour is revealed), it's like celebrating the tossing of a coin.... Cheering if it's heads, whooping if it's tails?

Unless your cake is orange with purple 'bits' in it.

You're taking it (deliberately I suspect) far too seriously- it's just a bit of fun.

God MN can be so meanspirited sometimes. What the hell is the problem of something harmless that makes others happy?

Love small creepy chippendale.
I am starting to feel glad I had my babies in tbe good old days

I suppose it's mainly for PFB who have never hosted a children's party. They'll get over it.

Well I never even throw a birthday party, and waited until the baby arrived to find out the sex. But I honestly think a gender reveal party sounds quite fun. So shoot me!

As to everyone saying 'who cares?' whether their friends have a boy or a girl - I am always excited to find out about friends' babies and like to speculate about the baby's sex. If you're interested in your friends at all isn't this normal? If you don't give a toss why are they even friends?

If you're interested in your friends at all isn't this normal? If you don't give a toss why are they even friends?

Because even if they're your favourite people in the world, the baby is still either a boy or a girl. How is this fodder for 'speculation'?

My friend is with child. I'm very happy for her (no I haven't bought her a present yet so I hope she lets me see the baby )

It's either going to be a boy or a girl.

She's having a BABY.

That's the exciting but as far as I'm concerned!

She's not having a baby shower, a gender reveal, or a naming ceremony, and there'll be no gift list, or indeed any expectation of gifts, 'cause she's not a grabby entitled twat and can celebrate good news without making a big song and dance about it. This is why she's one of my best friends.

It's not having an interest in the sex of your friend's baby that I have an issue with... I am quite interested, and I'll share any joy (or deflation if they really wanted a girl after 4 boys or something) with them happily over a drink

It's turning the news into this crass, contrived pantomime that I hate - all the rictus smiles and forced applause as the cake is cut....

Much as I might be quite interested in a friend's new car, And would happily listen for a while as they gushed about it, I wouldn't want to spend an afternoon at a big, brash 'car reveal' party where we had to eat car-shaped cupcakes listening to the top gear theme-tune as we built up to the moment when they ripped off reams of wrapping paper to reveal their new car as we whooped and hollered.

However... Reasonable as I think I am in not liking these parties, I think the level of my dislike of them has crossed into the unreasonable... Maybe I should find something that's actually important to do/get worked up about.

Awwww, I actually quite like it

However, I think when (hopefully) I get to be pregnant one day and if I decide to find out what the baby is, I'm not sure I'll tell anyone at all to cut down on pink/blue shit. I much prefer whites, greys and yellows.

Green cake means you've employed a pretty shit baker really who's got a bit confused with food colourings.