AIBU to be really irked by this Mum (school admissions related)

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So, we live in a borough that has grammar schools and the usual 11+ nightmare for parents. DD is really bright and was encouraged to take the test. She passed, as it happens, but we are so far from the grammar she wanted, we knew she had a tiny chance of getting in and were expecting the school we got, which is the respectable comp very close by. However, the politics and competitiveness of some parents is genuinely shocking. I've just had a text off a woman who has never said so much as 'Morning' to me in the school playground, asking me which school my DD has got. I haven't replied but I'm really taken aback. I've written about three replies so far but deleted before sending as I'm struggling not to tell her to fuck off with her nosiness. Anyone else had experience of this bizarre behaviour??

I would just ignore it X

Yes, I got some wierd comments when my ds did the 11+. Ignore it as much as you can, it's nothing to do with you or your ds and everything to with their own insecurities and competitiveness.

Yes! We get that around here too, walk passed you in the street until they want to know what 11+ teacher you used!
Just ignore her, nosey %^&*!

Ignore it, if you don't generally have anything to do with her, don't start now.

Admissions day does weird stuff to people - I don't have a yr6 child this year, but I've had two texts asking if I know which school my nephew has got (I do, but as I don't know who the texts are from, I'm not planning on replying), and one from my mother's next door neighbour telling me how pleased she is that her son has got his first choice and it isn't the school I went to. Why she thinks I'd care, I don't know - I left the school 20 years ago, and I live three hours away now!!

How did she get your phone number?

The results will be the talk of the playground for a few days, then there will be something else to talk about.

As everyone else has said, ignore her.

And well done to your DD for passing, her intelligence will stand her in good stead wherever she goes.

Worra, I wondered too. Think DD invited her daughter to a party ages ago and my number was on the rsvp.

I would reply "why do you ask?"

Reply "sorry we are out celebrating, catch up soon"
But do not say what you are celebrating or name school

Just reply,
think you texted the wrong person, do I know you?

Think the reply should read 'I'm sorry I don't recognise this number'

I asked a few friends of friends, but it was because I wanted to reassure DS1 that he wouldn't be the only one going. Maybe that's her reason?

I like Millys reply

Ha I love celetbrating comment!

I'd just ignore it.

Another one here for ignoring it. If she asks directly, blank her or look puzzled and ask why on earth she needs to know.

How rude! On the other hand I'd just answer - she'll find out soon enough.

I was thinking of asking parents what school their children were going to because im thinking ahead to when they ahve to travel on school buses and who will be her classmates.

Saying that, we chose not to enter DD into the 11+ and are perfectly happy with our choice of school.

Outing myself here but yes 11+ brings out batshit crazyness. My dd passed hers justs trying the practice papers at home. Friend who's dd passed with a higher mark after months of tutoring told me my dd was 'lucky'

Think I'll use the 'celebrating' text, thank you. Who knew it could all get so bizarre?

Hope it worked! brave out getting into any conversation about your kids school, progress or anything. It's all status and social anxiety.

I too would text back "Who is this?"

Does it matter? Is it a secret?

Yes she's nosy but why the subterfuge? Just reply with the name of the school or ignore if you CBA to.

It's no biggie. The daughters probably keen to know

I sent texts to several other mums yesterday to find out which schools their DCs were going to, as DD was keen to know who she will be going to secondary school with. I didn't realise it was a faux pas to do that.....