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Friend overdosed. Wtf to do?

227 replies

Littlefluffyclouds81 · 29/02/2016 19:31

My friend/neighbour has not been answering her phone all day and I just went to check on her. She's had a bit of a shit time of it lately so I was worried.

Found her in bed (I've got a key). She's taken 15 tramadol last night. She was trying to end it. She is conscious and pissed off that she's still here. Her head is hurting and she's feeling sick. I said she needs to go to hospital but she got really angry and said she will never forgive me if I call an ambulance. She said if she still feels bad tomorrow she'll go then.

I guess if she was going to die that would have happened by now but I'm worried she could have caused herself some serious damage. I've taken all the pills I can find in the house away from her and said I'll be back to check on her once dd2 is in bed. I really think she needs to get checked over but she is not at all happy with that suggestion. What should I do?

OP posts:
Schmoozer · 29/02/2016 20:01

Call an ambulance.
There will be access to psychiatric team via A+E once they've checked her out physically.
Don't delay.

ppandj · 29/02/2016 20:01

Can you call your local crisis team for advice?

gamerchick · 29/02/2016 20:02

Ring the hospital and ask for advice.

it doesn't need an ambulance imo but you should talk to someone.

If it was last night and she's awake and talking I personally wouldn't worry she's going to die. Dealt with too many overdoses to do the panicky bother an ambulance thing.

CamboricumMinor · 29/02/2016 20:02

Call an ambulance now.

notapizzaeater · 29/02/2016 20:03

She needs to,see someone, I'd go round and tell,her what you are doing.

iyamehooru · 29/02/2016 20:03

Please call an ambulance. Even if she's ok her GP needs to know she's overdosed so that she isn't prescribed that many tramadol again without a MH assessment.

averylongtimeago · 29/02/2016 20:03

From personal experience, call an ambulance. She might be passed off with you, but better that than dead.
She needs help, for the overdose and to help her deal with the cause. She also needs a friend .

Dosydoly · 29/02/2016 20:05

Let her be pissed off, please please don't risk the alternative.

ladylambkin · 29/02/2016 20:06

Op call 111 rather than an ambulance and they will make the decision whether she needs one or not. Regardless of any physical harm she needs to be checked over and get any psychiatric help she needs

pippitysqueakity · 29/02/2016 20:06

The downer she may be on given her attempt was not successful (I can't even do this right) can make her extremely vulnerable to further self harm ATM. Do not feel bad about asking for advice yourself, you are in an extremely difficult position. Take care of yourself too.

whyayepetal · 29/02/2016 20:07

Please OP - 999 right now

cestlavielife · 29/02/2016 20:09

Tramadol info says a and e if overdose
Call 999.

Zariyah · 29/02/2016 20:10

She's at risk of seizures and stopping breathing. It's an emergency.

BumbleNova · 29/02/2016 20:11

OP - are you f*cking serious? call the ambulance. I am in shock that you are more concerned about her being pissed off at you than dead! Do it!

there are so many myths around suicide - but the golden rule is tell people and get help. just because she hasnt managed it and it looks like a cry for help, for gods sake, she will try again and may succeed.

WeveGotAHomelessLove · 29/02/2016 20:13

Right maybe what i said was harsh but someboy i knew quite well was cremated today and maybe if somebody had of listened to her cries for help maybe she would still be here.

Just call ambulance.

roundmyway · 29/02/2016 20:14

If she's in a bad enough place to try that she will say things like she won't forgive you but when she is well you'll know she didn't mean it & she's not herself.
Call for help, she needs assessed & fast.

LadyStoicIsBack · 29/02/2016 20:14

WeveGotAHomelessLove

I cant believe your first thought was to post on here
Did you update your FB status too?

Don't be so snarky Weve - OP is trying to manage a friend who likely looks quite well & is threatening OP vis ambulance; has taken a lowish dose so not an immediate B&W call; trying to juggle this with her own DCs immediate needs; AND has said is dealing with her own MH issues as well she didn't just post 'oooooo, XYZ has taken an overdose!!!' She was asking for HELP.

MN is a community that many many people turn to when they find themselves without an answer or just in shock or overwhelmed or whatever. If you don't want to part of that part of MN then don't be. But don't be so fucking nasty to someone who is clearly super struggling. And analogising her asking what to do with updating her FB status is not only stupid but also bloody offensive vis trivialisation of what's going on here. I agree with OP - go fuck yourself.

OP HAS said she is going to call an ambulance - she might not have done so were it not for the chorus of people here advising her that that was the best course of action.

OP you sound like an incredible friend checking on her when your instincts told you something was wrong Flowers

StillYummy · 29/02/2016 20:15

Call it now. Every second counts!

roundmyway · 29/02/2016 20:15

Even if it was a cry for help you should call someone, the sooner she receives treatment the better.
It may not be a cry for help next time if left to simmer

LadyStoicIsBack · 29/02/2016 20:16

Cross Posted Weve

I'm sorry for your loss Flowers

FWIW, my own strength of feeling also stems from personal experience.

bushtailadventures · 29/02/2016 20:16

Please call an ambulance, yes, she might be angry with you if you do, but when she is feeling better, mentally and physically she will more likely be glad you did it. My DM was sectioned after her last suicide attempt, she didn't speak to me for nearly 2 months because I had interfered. I would do it again in a heartbeat.

WeveGotAHomelessLove · 29/02/2016 20:19

LadyStoicIsBack
I just dont understand why her first thought wasnt to call an ambulance anyway.

Yes i was harsh and ive explained why but i stand by what i said, she should have already phoned the ambulance and then posted on here.

StableYard · 29/02/2016 20:19

15 tramadol.....

She is either addicted to them and has built up a tolerance or has not taken that amount. Either way she needs to be seen.

I also think you need to get your own MH sorted out and not rely on her any more as she probably can't handle the added pressure

greathat · 29/02/2016 20:19

I hope you've called it already. She needs medical attention urgently

WeveGotAHomelessLove · 29/02/2016 20:21

Sorry xposted

Thank you *LADY I suppose affects different people in different ways and im sorry for being harsh OP

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