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AIBU?

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To have made the teenage boys share the same bathroom

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DadKeepsCalm1 · 28/02/2016 20:16

We live in a townhouse with 3 floors and have 3 bathrooms. Me and my wife have an ensuite in our bedroom, we have have a family bathroom the two boys have a bathroom on the top floor (where their bedrooms are. The bathroom has his and hers sinks and a shower.

Whenever the boys use the bath or shower they never clean the bath or shower after themselves. Me, my wife and dd are tied of having to clean the bath or shower before we use them.

So I have said that if the boys are happy to wash in a dirty bath and shower then they can both share their bathroom. They also never clean the his and hers sinks and one of the sinks is covered in charcoal cleanser, the cupboard is full of used deodorant cans and other products that the boys can't be bothered to throw away.

So aibu to do this until they start cleaning up after each other.

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Oakmaiden · 28/02/2016 20:26

Um. To do what?

If they have a separate bathroom, why are you using that instead of the ensuite?

I think I am confused...

AdrenalineFudge · 28/02/2016 20:31

You're asking if you'd be unreasonable to make your two boys share a bathroom which they have to themselves anyway, at the top of a townhouse which has another two bathrooms as well?

Ubik1 · 28/02/2016 20:33

There are five of us.

And one bathroom.

I think the teen boys will cope.

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DadKeepsCalm1 · 28/02/2016 20:35

No make them use the bathroom only and not the other bathrooms.

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CornishDoll82 · 28/02/2016 20:37

That's dreadful. Only letting them use one bathroom! Do you want them to end up psychopaths?

WorraLiberty · 28/02/2016 20:39

So aibu to do this until they start cleaning up after each other.

Yes.

It's yours and your wife's house. You two are the parents.

If you want your teens to clean up their own mess, then go and tell them to do it or there will be severe consequences.

Unless you think they're actually going to give a shite about sharing a dirty bathroom?

WorraLiberty · 28/02/2016 20:41

Actually I can see them being featured on Sports Relief next month.

"These two poor teenage boys are being forced to share a bathroom. Please give generously to save them from this terrible plight".

ScarlettDarling · 28/02/2016 20:44

Yes, highly unreasonable.

To make your teenage son share a bedroom with his brother? Truly shocking.

ThomasRichard · 28/02/2016 20:44

:o Worraliberty

YANBU OP but you also need some serious consequences for them being so disgusting. Do they have a bathroom bin and cleaning materials?

BertPuttocks · 28/02/2016 20:47

Am I the only one who's never heard of his and hers sinks before?

I'm sure they'll be fine with just one bathroom between them.

PreAdvent13610 · 28/02/2016 20:52

There comes a time when it is perfectly acceptable to herd your children into their bathroom and refuse to let them out until it is clean and tidy. You have reached that time.
Get them their own set of cleaning products and instruct them how to use them. And get them a bin (a fairly big one with bin liners, teen boys are a bit yucky). Get them colour coded towels that they can take to Uni and never have the 'it wasn't me' arguement again. Teenagers need training how to survive when they leave home.

jeremyisahunt · 28/02/2016 20:53

Check that they clean it properly too. Suggest they start a rota?

Do inspections monthly, no pocket money if it's a mess.

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DadKeepsCalm1 · 28/02/2016 20:53

Worry Unless you think they're actually going to give a shite about sharing a dirty bathroom?

They won't give a shit about getting in a shower that's filthy, that's the thing.

Obviously they are not in need of Sports Relief donations .

His and hers sinks are just two sinks next two each other.

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CornishDoll82 · 28/02/2016 20:55

But what if two men use them? Or two teenage boys? Do they become his and his sinks?

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DadKeepsCalm1 · 28/02/2016 20:56

I not sure on that one Cornish .

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AtSea1979 · 28/02/2016 20:56

We have two toilets and one of (2) DC keeps forgetting to flush and peeing on floor and refusing to clean. So I have assigned them a toilet each so I could catch nag the culprit

GrumpyOldBag · 28/02/2016 20:58

Doesn't your cleaner do the bathrooms?

bigbluebus · 28/02/2016 20:58

Yanbu to tell them to confine their mess to the one bathroom but quite how you are going to police this, I'm not sure. Presumably if one DS is in the top floor bathroom and the other DS is also wanting to get ready, he will automatically use any available bathroom and unless you can install some sort of external locks on the doors which stops them entering (which would be more than a little inconvenient if they needed the loo in a hurry) then I'm not sure how you're going to stop them.

MadamDeathstare · 28/02/2016 20:59

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WhereYouLeftIt · 28/02/2016 20:59

So they confine their grubbiness to the upstairs bathroom and DD gets to use a bathroom she cleans to her own standards too? Sounds entirely reasonable.

Iamwhateveryousayiam · 28/02/2016 20:59

Or what about lesbian couples? That would be hers and hers, sinks

RubyFlint · 28/02/2016 21:00

Not sure I understand the aibu? why wouldn't they share the bathroom on their floor anyway? Sorry I'm confused!

Iamwhateveryousayiam · 28/02/2016 21:00

Is it possible to barricade them into the top portion of the house, until they mend their grubby ways? Bit like Rapunzel...

MadamDeathstare · 28/02/2016 21:01

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PortobelloRoad · 28/02/2016 21:02

Um, I'm sure they'll cope

We have a similar arrangement and the two on top have always shared, it never occurred to me that this is any sort of an issue. I grew up 6 siblings in a two bathroom house, I have survived.

But why are you letting them pull this shit? Part of being a functioning human being is cleaning up after yourself and making a contribution at home. My teenagers would get a ton of bricks for treating our home like that. Punish them, seriously.

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